Posted by PattyG on July 14, 2000, at 18:46:08
In reply to transference or...?, posted by julesvox on July 14, 2000, at 18:24:50
Wow. I can really feel your pain and wish I truly had something overly insightful to say to you that would help. I don't think I do. I'm sure there will be others who have had similar experiences and they will offer some guidance.
My first thought was that considering you're moving away and won't be her patient anymore, why can't you (at some point) reveal your feelings for her? No "law" against that, right? I suspect, however, if you were to do that right away, she would feel obligated to honor her professional ethics and not respond, regardless of how she might feel. Do you think she has some feelings for you on a personal level? Is this the first female with whom you've been able to share your inner-most thoughts and feelings? I wonder if sometimes folks confuse the relief they feel from "free expression" with "love." Perhaps?
At any rate, sorry you're suffering now and wish I could help. I suppose as with many things in life, time will tell. Also, I see nothing wrong with giving her some kind of gift as a token of your friendship and appreciation.
PattyG
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