Posted by boBB on May 12, 2000, at 20:24:43
In reply to grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, posted by bob on May 11, 2000, at 23:26:06
bob's comments are typically compassionate, drawn from personal experience and (IMHO) in keeping with high professional standards.
He correctly stated that we don't know enough about Cindy's relationship with her daughter to know how well founded her daughters critical anaylsis might be. Teens can be harsh. I was.
Still, my experience with parenting is that many of us, or most, learn enough to be good parents about the time we are old enough to be grandparents, if at all.
I am no Christian, but there is something to be said for the method that says "forgive me, I have sinned," and accepts that someone else, more innocent and less deserving, suffered our punishment on our behalf.
All I can suggest is that maybe "cutters" could find a way to bear someone elses suffering if we feel the need to suffer. Put the need to good use.
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