Posted by JudithC on May 10, 2000, at 5:44:06
In reply to Re: Elephant..., posted by Cecilia on May 9, 2000, at 17:42:25
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> To Judith: Perhaps you meant well but reality is that (with or without meds) thinness is not attainable on a permanent basis for everyone. (And even if it were, why should the appropriate response to a verbal abuser be to change to fit their needs?)I worded that post as carefully as I could. When a mate complains about his/her partner's weight,I do feel that this is a major issue simply because it IS the issue....how lovely it would be if others would accept us all with "flaws" and warts and even fat yet this is not how it truly is no matter what someone says especially when it's an unhappy spouse complaining about one's weight. Sad to say,appearances do make a difference. From what I have seen and heard over the years,there aren't many husbands who will "accept" a wife's ongoing weight increases...and,too,it would appear that Lisa is unhappy with her weight gain and that she wants to maintain her marriage.
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