Posted by finelinebob on October 3, 2006, at 23:55:09
In reply to I dunno..., posted by Racer on October 3, 2006, at 17:19:09
Ok, so it's in our genes. But there is very, very little about genetics that is predetermined. Or, rather, there is an incredible amount of genetics that is predetermined. I've heard it said that we can have more genetically in common with a particular chimpanzee than a particular other human. Doesn't seem likely, but....
Even if it is predetermined, geez Racer, you've been around here so long giving so much ... and I don't know about you in person, but biology doesn't determine everything. I suspect you've got "RL" friends like mine, who constantly are telling me positive, wonderful things about me that I can't believe myself. I decided that I might not be the best judge of my own character and to take what they say seriously.
I'd love to have a child, not just because all I've learned and who I've become because of my disorder, but because if that child should start going through the same things I'd be there to help. Certainly, there are "coins" with "heads" on both sides and "tails" on both sides -- people who really do have all the good things and people who do have all the bad things; but my experiences in grad school tended to indicate that the most gifted people were the ones facing the biggest personal challenges as well.
If I could have a child who could realize the potential I had but lost because I didn't get the help I needed in time, even if that child faces the same or similar chances -- it would all be worth it ... to the world in general, to that child's friends and family, but particularly to that child, my child.
Yeah, and to me.
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