Posted by noa on January 18, 2004, at 11:41:42
In reply to What I say three times IS TRUE (Racer Rant), posted by Racer on January 12, 2004, at 14:29:41
Racer,
I still think the Diabetes analogy is a good one, but not necessarily to Type II Diabetes per se--more to the insulin dependent type, or perhaps a continuum of diabetes illness.
The reason I still think it's a good analogy is that there are people with diabetes who do have difficulty controlling it and managing it, even with a lot of effort in managing diet, weight exercise, medication, etc. Sometimes the medication puts the equilibrium out of whack, too.
The other thing you discussed was the SHAME. It's true. The shame of MI is a big factor. Which is why the diabetes analogy is used--to try to offset the shame and stigma.
It is hard to be totally rid of one's shame from what was learned within the family, etc. But perhaps you should not expect yourself to be totally free of it. This has always been my wish--to be totally free of the beleifs I have about myself that are unhealthy and harmful, and contribute to my depression and self-loathing. But I think I am coming to accept that these thoughts, as dysfunctional as they are, may be with me for the rest of my life. What I feel I may have more control over is how much power I give them, how much I listen to them, and what I can say to myself to quiet them. So they can be less active, less frequently noticeable, less influential, etc.
If you are still, as an adult, having to battle a totally unsupportive family system who continue to blame and shame, that is horse of a different color. Here, I believe the trick is to exercise some of the powers you have now that you did not have as a child, such as limiting your exposure to the toxic family influences, etc.
Take care.
poster:noa
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