Posted by Jeff on May 22, 1999, at 20:52:01
In reply to depressed about being depressed, posted by Jeff on May 20, 1999, at 23:40:19
SJ - Who do I remind you of? I was unsure whether you were referring to yourself. The idea about dating depressed women came into my head for precisely that reason - being able to relate, empathize instead of sympathize. And I firmly believe that regardless of physical and emotional symptoms, anyone's capacity for hope and love is greater with a partner at their side. My life would be worthwhile if someone else's was even a little better because they spent it with me. It is comforting to know that some have their supportive companion.
As for concealing that there is something up with me - there is no need because it is apparent immediately - I'm ADD. We are plainly different even when asymptomatic.Sean - I have spent most of my life coming to terms with ADD, now I am starting from the beginning with depression. I have felt the kinship you speak of with other ADD individuals, but I have yet to have the chance to become close with someone who is being treated for depression. I suspect the kinship will be much the same but very different. The primary difference is that symptoms of depression are usually experienced as something alien, not a part of you. If these symptoms were to suddenly disappear, you would feel more like yourself. With ADD, the symptoms ARE you. It feels good to have certain ADD symptoms because this is what comes naturally and effortlessly. If these symptoms were to disappear, you may not feel like yourself. When two ADDers connect, the kinship forms because it's OK to be yourself. I suspect that when two depressives connect, the kinship forms because it's OK to NOT be yourself. Either way, the strength of character that you mentioned is unmistakable. I see it too in these postings.
This forum is an absolutely wonderful place: it has become so hard to find sincerity on the internet. Thank you Dr. Bob and everyone out there.
Jeff
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