Posted by Phil on May 7, 1999, at 20:13:12
In reply to Major vent here, nothing more, posted by C on May 7, 1999, at 15:58:41
> Well, I need to vent or burst so I hope you all don't mind.
> I feel so incredibly overwhelmed most times that I don't think I can take much more. Half the day I am angry and the other half I am ready to cry. Daily chores are impossible, seems like I just get started and my two kids and husband are making more for me. My husband barely talks to me except to critisize for one thing or another and all he does is complain about the housework or something else. I do the best I can with one four year old in school half days and a three year old at home always and between getting one ready for school, potty training, housework, no friends (seriously, NOT ONE) I can talk to or even have a phone conversation or chit chat with. The work just piles up and I don't get help, cannot afford to hire help and I feel like torching the place! UGH I don't have family who is in a position to help out. I wish I could even have one night a month to go out but I don't even have anyone to go out with. To go to the store by myself in the evening in our one car that my husband has at work all day, that can be a strugle because he wants me to take one of the kids. He whines if I don't want to then I feel like 2" high. I do not work out of the home, I am here all day, 24/7 as they say.Dear C, Just a question. If you have an alcoholic anywhere in your family, you can call AA
and they will guide you to either Al-Anon or Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings in your area. If you feel that you may have co-dependency issues, you can call CODA. If you explain your situation, I can almost assure you that a member would gladly pick you up at home or nearby and take you to a meeting.
When I moved to a new town, a therapist recommended ACOA-I didn't want to go because I felt like crap, but I did go. There are literally thousands of people going through what you are dealing with. I have never been good at trusting anyone but in an Acoa or Al-Anon meeting
you will make fast friends. Everyone there is hurting to some degree and your story is being told somewhere nearby tonight. You will come to love these people very quickly and find levels of support that most therapists can't touch.
These are programs of attraction and not promotion so I hope I am not breaking their rules here.
To me, these are some of the best people I have spent time with...it's a no bullshit program. When you see the person next to you share their pain in an honest way, you realize you are not alone. C, you are not alone here either!
You were not put on this earth to be a doormat!
I wish for you all the love in the world.
Phil
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