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Posted by saturn on October 17, 2007, at 16:21:10
There is a woman whom I'm temporarily working with that I'm interested in and who may also be interested in me.
Our interaction is actually very minimal, a few times a week with little opportunity for private conversation.
In 2 months we will not be working together anymore and I will have time for a life. Currently my work schedule is such that I literally do not have time for any socializing.
I've already decided to ask this girl out at the risk of rejection. My question is *when*? The single biggest mistake I make with women is delaying or never conveying interest until she becomes uninterested or I'm put into the friend category. My experience is that happens rather quickly.
Is it anticlimactic to ask her *now* to go out in 2 months--or should I wait? Thanks for any advice.
Posted by ClearSkies on October 17, 2007, at 16:47:54
In reply to Asking out a girl, posted by saturn on October 17, 2007, at 16:21:10
Gosh, it seems a shame to have to wait 2 whole months to initiate a relationship, or even to make a date to initiate one. How about asking her out just for a cup of coffee, now? - would you have time to do that? It can be just a 20-minute conversation, and you can chat a bit, and not have to plan as far as 2 months in advance. Just take a little chunk of your time now, and see how it feels.
ClearSKies
Posted by Phillipa on October 17, 2007, at 21:27:54
In reply to Re: Asking out a girl » saturn, posted by ClearSkies on October 17, 2007, at 16:47:54
I second that. Phillipa good luck
Posted by MidnightBlue on October 17, 2007, at 23:54:19
In reply to Asking out a girl, posted by saturn on October 17, 2007, at 16:21:10
Ask now for now. Surely you have to eat lunch? could grap a cup of coffee after work?
Posted by CoutureMan on October 18, 2007, at 5:03:56
In reply to Asking out a girl, posted by saturn on October 17, 2007, at 16:21:10
From what I can vaguely remember of non-depressed time passage, two months can seem like an eternity in a situation like this. I’d heed the blacksmith’s proverb and mine and "strike when the iron is hot." Go for it today saturn!
CM
Posted by Poet on October 18, 2007, at 9:27:56
In reply to Asking out a girl, posted by saturn on October 17, 2007, at 16:21:10
Hi Saturn,
I'm with the others, wade into the dating waters by having lunch with her or a coffee break together. Try to talk about non-work related things: movies, food, find out what she likes so you're ready for a real date when you're less busy at work.
Poet
Posted by saturn on October 18, 2007, at 18:47:54
In reply to Asking out a girl, posted by saturn on October 17, 2007, at 16:21:10
Thanks for all of the advise--I really take it to heart. Unfortunately I do not even have 10 minutes available during work to sit with her, and am working over 70 hours a week, so I think I will start by asking for her number so I can at least express my interest and talk to her some more.
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