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Posted by smokeymadison on January 15, 2005, at 20:22:23
ok so i really messed up this month. normally i am very careful around the time i could get pregnant. i have been meaning to get back on birth control pills but haven't yet and i was not careful this month (this past week) b/c i was a week off in my thinking.
so there is a chance i got pregnant in the past week. it is too soon to go get a blood test so all i can do is obsess about whether or not i am. it just hit me today that i messed up the weeks. my boyfriend is demanding that i go and get a morning after pill tommorrow. i don't want to. i really don't. it might not be safe to get a morning after pill this late (possible birth defects?). but he is demanding it anyway and i am getting sick of his demanding.
i am totally mixed on whether i want to be pregnant or not. i just know that if i am, i don't want to mess anything up. we both agree that abortion is not an option, so i would be having the baby. i think my mom hopes i am. she is the only one i can talk to about this and the only one in my entire family who would be supportive. everyone else would say that i majorly messed up. if i am pregnant, i will be happy i am, but dreading everyone's reactions. at the same time, i am sick of worrying about what everyone else thinks about me.
i will not be taking my meds until i find out and if i am, i will not be on medication period. i expect a fight with the pdoc over that. there is just too much going through my head right now...
SM
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 15, 2005, at 20:37:21
In reply to could be pregnant--complications, posted by smokeymadison on January 15, 2005, at 20:22:23
SM call your Pdoc IT SEEMS like if you are on certain meds that you would go through withdrawal if you quit fast....Maybe to ease your mind you could call a ER on the morning after pill or say a clinic on family planning they would know how that med could affect you if taken late..should you want to take it...IN THE MEANTIME huge hugs I am so sorry you are worried :(
> ok so i really messed up this month. normally i am very careful around the time i could get pregnant. i have been meaning to get back on birth control pills but haven't yet and i was not careful this month (this past week) b/c i was a week off in my thinking.
>
> so there is a chance i got pregnant in the past week. it is too soon to go get a blood test so all i can do is obsess about whether or not i am. it just hit me today that i messed up the weeks. my boyfriend is demanding that i go and get a morning after pill tommorrow. i don't want to. i really don't. it might not be safe to get a morning after pill this late (possible birth defects?). but he is demanding it anyway and i am getting sick of his demanding.
>
> i am totally mixed on whether i want to be pregnant or not. i just know that if i am, i don't want to mess anything up. we both agree that abortion is not an option, so i would be having the baby. i think my mom hopes i am. she is the only one i can talk to about this and the only one in my entire family who would be supportive. everyone else would say that i majorly messed up. if i am pregnant, i will be happy i am, but dreading everyone's reactions. at the same time, i am sick of worrying about what everyone else thinks about me.
>
> i will not be taking my meds until i find out and if i am, i will not be on medication period. i expect a fight with the pdoc over that. there is just too much going through my head right now...
>
> SM
Posted by smokeymadison on January 15, 2005, at 20:42:08
In reply to Re: could be pregnant--complications » smokeymadison, posted by Fallen4MyT on January 15, 2005, at 20:37:21
thanks for the hugs!!!
i have gone off these meds before cold turkey and didn't notice a thing. just a slight moodiness, perhaps. but i will call the hospital and ask, i promised my boyfriend that i would do that anyway whether or not i take the pill.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 15, 2005, at 20:49:21
In reply to Re: could be pregnant--complications » Fallen4MyT, posted by smokeymadison on January 15, 2005, at 20:42:08
Anytime...here is an extra one... HUG....I do not think I would know what to I wanted to do so soon in your place and IMO please go by your heart not the bf's wishes.I know you must be very scared and worried and wish I had some wise words for you ..sadly I do not. But I am here with a shoulder for you
> thanks for the hugs!!!
>
> i have gone off these meds before cold turkey and didn't notice a thing. just a slight moodiness, perhaps. but i will call the hospital and ask, i promised my boyfriend that i would do that anyway whether or not i take the pill.
Posted by Susan47 on January 15, 2005, at 23:14:22
In reply to Re: could be pregnant--complications » smokeymadison, posted by Fallen4MyT on January 15, 2005, at 20:49:21
If you're pregnant and your boyfriend is this against a child, you know you'll probably be raising this one by yourself or adopting it out. Or maybe raising it with someone else. Even possibly your boyfriend could be wrangled into being a parent ... being a woman is just too hard, sometimes. It's too much. Too, too much....
Posted by smokeymadison on January 15, 2005, at 23:39:05
In reply to Re: could be pregnant--complications, posted by Susan47 on January 15, 2005, at 23:14:22
when i first met him, he was totally against abortion. but tonight he even mentioned that! he isn't going to leave me over this, but he says that he might have a total mental breakdown if i am pregnant. i told him that an abortion is not an option for me. if i am pregnant i want the child. right now i am more worried about his mental well-being than how i am going to handle this--which isn't right. being a woman is hard--but even harder when the guy acts like he can't handle his own sh*t!
Posted by alexandra_k on January 16, 2005, at 1:07:02
In reply to Re: could be pregnant--complications » Susan47, posted by smokeymadison on January 15, 2005, at 23:39:05
Oh Smokey.
I don't know what to say.
I had a time a couple of years back when I thought I might have gotten pregnant. Wasn't careful, forgot to take the pill. Couldn't get the morning after pill in time because it was over Christmas.It sounds like you know what you want to do.
You tell your Dr though about your medication decision, ok?
You don't want to end up mentally unwell...
Take care.
Posted by smokeymadison on January 16, 2005, at 2:37:27
In reply to Re: could be pregnant » smokeymadison, posted by alexandra_k on January 16, 2005, at 1:07:02
well, i see my pdoc on tuesday, so i will tell him them. i have been looking up articles on the effects of my meds on the fetus (obsessive me) and i don't like what i see, or rather, what i don't see.
there really isn't much on Abilify, the med that i need the most. the only thing known for sure is that others like it can mess with blood sugar levels. not very reassuring.
i need to sleep, but i am not used to it w/out my sleeping med. i suppose it would take some time, since it is addictive.
sigh.
Posted by Susan47 on January 16, 2005, at 6:24:42
In reply to Re: could be pregnant--complications » Susan47, posted by smokeymadison on January 15, 2005, at 23:39:05
I've been through it, more than once.
Posted by ghost on January 16, 2005, at 9:26:53
In reply to Re: could be pregnant, posted by smokeymadison on January 16, 2005, at 2:37:27
EPT stick tests are *very* reliable very early on... you might want to pick up one of those just in case. i think they're 99.9% accurate-- as accurate as any doctor administered test.
i'm sorry you're so worried about it :(
Posted by smokeymadison on January 16, 2005, at 18:33:47
In reply to could be pregnant--complications, posted by smokeymadison on January 15, 2005, at 20:22:23
I am suspended in heavy, thick air. I am somewhere down the rabbithole between reality and delusion. I have been here so many times, the smokey air almost smells familiar. There is no light. I grope about, trying to find some concrete thought onto which I might hindge the rest of this swirling mass of mind. There is only the promise that in a week I might be flooded with light, the passageway might open up and I might see what the rest of my life holds. But the meantime. In the meantime I am mad. I cannot sleep, cannot quiet the thoughts that assult my mind. And the lure of the Klonopin. Sweet, stilling Klonopin. If I should partake of it, the jelly bean, the tranquilizer of the red mind, I might, in nine months be presented with a monster. Limb deformities in animals, the pharmacist quoted. But Ambien might be safe, he said. If only I could afford it. If only I had the strength to walk to the pharmacy and buy it. The script lays here on my desk, a solution unfulfilled.
And Matt. Matt is the rabbit I am chasing down this hole. A sad, tired rabbit who has, perhaps, the clarity of mind I do not. He tells me that I am not pregnant, that it is all in my mind. Who is madder, the rabbit or the girl? He says that our lives will end if I am preganat. Well, everything that he holds to be his life might end, that is for sure. The Knight in shining armor, the good old Baptist boy will end. Perhaps they should end anyway. Are they not delusions in and of themselves? I suppose that we all hold delusions of what we think we are in this life. I have no concrete image of what I am, therefore to be faced with this is not as earth-shattering to me as it is to him. I must sleep. And only then can I awake from this dream, be it with a child or without.
SM
Posted by cubic_me on January 17, 2005, at 12:39:32
In reply to A lot of thoughts, posted by smokeymadison on January 16, 2005, at 18:33:47
Smokey, I don't know in what way you miscalculated your pill, but sometimes it will still protect you. My GP said that if you have taken a week's worth, from the beginning of your cycle, you are protected for a week. Try not to get worked up until you know whether you really are pregnant, I know from experience that this is so hard to to, but try. Even if you are pregnant, you will have 9 months to debate things with your boyfriend, things will work out in the end, whatever happens.
((hugs)) cubic x
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