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Posted by Angela2 on December 10, 2008, at 13:03:20
Things were going well for a little bit. I had joined a knitting group. And I was swimming. And no problems driving. Now it seems things are reverting back to how things have been...
I have been bothered by dizzy feelings for about a year now. But they REALLY started bothering me a lot about a week ago and I'm a little nervous to drive. I had a doctors appointment today about another different dizzy feeling I have which I think is low blood pressure. And I cancelled because I was nervous to drive there. So here is the thing...
I was planning on going. Even though I was nervously anticipating driving. Then, I talked to my mom about my nervousness. And she said things like, "you'll be fine" and "you can't go back to doing this again" and "You need to be responsible and go."
The weird thing is...
After talking to her, I called and cancelled my dr appt.
I don't know what to say...
I don't know if I even care that I'm cancelling things...I care a little...but not enough I guess.
Posted by Angela2 on December 10, 2008, at 13:32:54
In reply to Not sure what this title should be, posted by Angela2 on December 10, 2008, at 13:03:20
I also missed T appt yesterday...:/
Posted by Phillipa on December 10, 2008, at 13:35:58
In reply to Re: Not sure what this title should be, posted by Angela2 on December 10, 2008, at 13:32:54
Is it the driving or not wanting to see people I'm also this way. Don't know what it is either one foot forward and l0 back it seems for me. love Phillipa
Posted by B2chica on December 10, 2008, at 13:46:36
In reply to Re: Not sure what this title should be » Angela2, posted by Phillipa on December 10, 2008, at 13:35:58
sounds like your mom really triggered you.
and quite frankly, i hate hearing comments like what your mother said to you.
its insensitive.
sorry to be so blunt but you are struggling and needed reassurance and help not put downs.you needed to cancel so you did. its done. dont beat yourself up about it. but i am concerned for you about your health. i'd call back to the docs and reschedule. you dont even have to explain yourself, just say you unexpectedly werent able to make it to your last appt and need to reschedule. most doc offices wont care why you couldnt make it before. their concern should be just getting you in at a good time.
BEST WISHES, and take gentle care of yourself.
b2c.
Posted by rskontos on December 10, 2008, at 16:09:01
In reply to Re: Not sure what this title should be » Phillipa, posted by B2chica on December 10, 2008, at 13:46:36
Angela,
I agree with B2C. Could you reschedule and this time give yourself a back door. Like maybe find a friend to drive you or go with you. Or maybe call a cab as a last resort. I know it is money but your health is more important. Sometimes for me, knowing I have a back door and permission to use it or make other arrangements helps me to go ahead and do it.
Might this work. Just a thought. I know a cab might be scary too but again it is an option to help you go ahead and go on your own. Talk it over with your t and see if he/she can help you with finding options that will let you do what you need to.
I have the same issues but I take a xanax to get past the panicky stage.
Take care and like B2c said don't beat yourself up and disregard mom's words of discouragement.
You can do this, it will take some time and support but it will work out. You have done it before this is only a setback. That is it.
you are fine.
rsk
Posted by Angela2 on December 10, 2008, at 18:16:10
In reply to Re: Not sure what this title should be/Angela, posted by rskontos on December 10, 2008, at 16:09:01
Thank you so much you guys.
Phillipa, it's the driving. I'm not sure what I'm scared of, I guess being dizzy while driving. I'm trying to be positive though. I could just pull over if I feel dizzy. Tryingggg to be positive...
b2c, I think my mom was worried because she has to work, my dad has to work, and last winter and spring they had to take time out to drive me to some places. Mostly doctor appts. I think I was kind of turned off by her when she said those things though, like she sounded selfish. But maybe I'm being selfish too because part of me wants her to drive me to the doctors. I feel safe with her. It's tough. Because I want to be independent. And I don't want to stress my parents out. But I sometimes still need help. They want to help me. I think they just don't want me to be like how I was last year. I think they'd be ok if it was just once in a while.
Thanks for the advice on what to say to the doc. Yeah I should reschedule.rsk, I think I'm gonna see how I'm feeling and maybe try to go by myself. Or maybe my mom can drive me. She's driving me to my T appt. later this week. A cab is a REALLY good idea. Thank you. It is a little scary, but I'll look into it.
Thanks for the support you guys. I really appreciate it.
Angela
Posted by Phillipa on December 10, 2008, at 19:45:23
In reply to Re: Not sure what this title should be )) everyone, posted by Angela2 on December 10, 2008, at 18:16:10
Angela you're young and here I am 62 and was so independant in past with nursing and own business and now can't go upstairs even by myself so I do relate fully. It's a terrible feeling isn't it? And it seems to wax and wane. Love Phillipa
Posted by rskontos on December 11, 2008, at 11:19:43
In reply to Re: Not sure what this title should be )) everyone, posted by Angela2 on December 10, 2008, at 18:16:10
Angela,
Just so you know, I have days where I go no where. I understand completely. Now I have a son I have to pick up so I am often forced to go since he depends on me. But sometimes I am so sick at the thought until I get behind the wheel, get about 200 yards from the house, and actually feel better. If I did not have my son and the need to go get him, I would probably leave my house a lot less.
So believe I do understand. And yet I do feel better getting out.
It is hard.But you will do it. And I am glad you thought the cab idea was a good one.
take care sweetie and let us know how it works out.
rsk
Posted by Angela2 on December 11, 2008, at 19:38:07
In reply to Re: Not sure what this title should be )) everyone » Angela2, posted by rskontos on December 11, 2008, at 11:19:43
It's nice to know I'm not alone rsk. And thanks for the advice. This week I kind of overreacted to my physical ailments. But today I went to the doctors and I feel better. She said I was probably feeling faint because I hadn't eaten much breakfast. I hope I can make things right again this weekend. I'll be in touch!
Angela
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