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Posted by earthmama on April 9, 2008, at 18:33:56
I am in so much pain and I don't know where to turn to for help.My T is on vacation this week. I saw him last Thursday (and now it's Wednesday). I usually see him every week on Monday and Friday.
We had JUST reached the point in therapy where he said I was "attached" - but a young (new) attachment. I AM attached. I was fine for a few days, but it really hit me yesterday, and I am so miserable. I keep beating myself up about it, because it's just one week, and I should be fine...but I'm not. I'm so sad, and I miss him, and I miss having somewhere to go where someone listens to me, and it hurts. I feel so lost and alone.
I do have friends and a husband - but it's not the same. I feel like I'm not going to make it through the week. He left me 2 voice mails to listen to, and they helped at first, but now they sort of make it worse.
I'm such a baby :(
Posted by obsidian on April 9, 2008, at 21:28:21
In reply to T on vacation :(, posted by earthmama on April 9, 2008, at 18:33:56
that bastard!! (just kidding)
one thing I have found helpful is writing to or making art about how I am feeling and then showing it to T when I see him again....
just a thought
feel better,
sid
Posted by obsidian on April 9, 2008, at 22:13:30
In reply to T on vacation :(, posted by earthmama on April 9, 2008, at 18:33:56
...in case I seemed too...I dunno..."flippant" with the little "bastard!" comment
it's just that I get angry at my T when he is not available!that I do in fact know how difficult it can be to tolerate separation from your T when you are trying to nurture that attachment that can seem so very fragile...
and you are NOT a baby!
just somebody trying to tolerate some uncomfortable and very understandable feelings
Posted by earthmama on April 9, 2008, at 22:24:05
In reply to just wanted to add....... » earthmama, posted by obsidian on April 9, 2008, at 22:13:30
No worries, the "bastard" comment actually made me smile, which was nice :)Thanks for the words of support. That made me feel good.
Posted by Daisym on April 11, 2008, at 1:00:33
In reply to Re: just wanted to add....... » obsidian, posted by earthmama on April 9, 2008, at 22:24:05
You are not a baby. Separation is painful especially when you are tentatively attached. And I think a week is a really long time in psychological time - which in no way correlates to real time. Missing him like this really shows how attached you are. And how much you care. Those are good things.
I also write to my therapist when I'm missing him. I've found that I can hear him in my head when I'm talking to him on paper. It really helps me. It is really great that he left you two voice mails to listen to, so you have him. But I do know what you mean about making it worse sometimes.
And try to keep busy - do nice things for yourself. He comes back on Monday?
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