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Posted by Racer on May 24, 2004, at 17:22:00
I did it. I made the decision over the weekend, and I did it today.
Guess what? It is such a profound relief! I feel so much better!
(I'll be starting up again elsewhere in a few weeks. I don't want to go straight to it, because I really feel the need to detox first so that I don't go in there so prickly and defensive and so on. But I {ahem} *trust* our marriage counselor, and she's assigning me to one of the therapists she supervises -- and you know what? I *trust* that she's made a good decision for me, I *trust* that she picked someone based on *my* needs, I *trust* that she's picked out someone who will work well with me. And you know what that all means? It means that I am *not* incapable of trust. And you know what *that* means? It means that, if I have no trust whatsoever for a therapist, it doesn't necessarily mean that I've failed. It might just mean that I'm not working with a therapist I find trustworthy!)
Wanna hear a real kicker, though? Once I made the decision to quit, my husband and I started getting along a lot better... Go figure...
Posted by partlycloudy on May 24, 2004, at 19:21:53
In reply to I quit therapy., posted by Racer on May 24, 2004, at 17:22:00
Racer, just making and carrying out the decision must have been a big stress relief. I am so glad that you feel trust in your counsellor - I truly believe that they the good ones have ONLY our best interests at heart.
((((Racer))))
Posted by Dinah on May 24, 2004, at 19:31:53
In reply to I quit therapy., posted by Racer on May 24, 2004, at 17:22:00
It sounds like a good decision for you, Racer. In fact, I wouldn't even say I quit therapy. I'd say I fired my therapist. :) Sounds more empowering.
I'm glad you're feeling good about it.
Posted by Speaker on May 24, 2004, at 19:57:50
In reply to Re: I quit therapy. » Racer, posted by Dinah on May 24, 2004, at 19:31:53
Racer,
I am so glad for you!!! I think a good fit is soooooo important and it didn't seem you had that. It seems from your posts that your past T added to your stress and didn't help much at all. I am so glad for you and I *trust* :) that your referal will be much better. Take good care of yourself!!!
Posted by Racer on May 24, 2004, at 21:46:41
In reply to Re: I quit therapy. » Racer, posted by Dinah on May 24, 2004, at 19:31:53
LOL! Naw, I was kinda wound up when I posted that, and was still in the 'shock value' stage. I didn't quit therapy, of course, but I didn't want to make it so clear that no one would read it, you know? I guess I was channelling my inner precocious brat...
(Someone give that kid a good spanking, huh?)
Thank you for your support. Maybe it was the idea of your mother coming to beat up Dr EyeCandy that gave me the incentive?
Posted by gardenergirl on May 24, 2004, at 22:47:40
In reply to Where's the fun in that? » Dinah, posted by Racer on May 24, 2004, at 21:46:41
I don't know. I tend to agree with Dinah. I was "fired" by a client once. Actually more than once. I have also had people "quit" therapy. In the case where I always say I was "fired" it just wasn't a good fit. I couldn't be what she was looking for. She was better off without me, and hopefully, with someone who could be what she wanted/needed.
My T challenged me on this when I told him I was "fired", though. He thought I was being down on myself. Not really. I wasn't upset when she told me. I agreed with her. But he didn't like the word "fired". Maybe it was too soon in our relationship for him to think about the possibility? :)
Posted by DaisyM on May 25, 2004, at 0:52:29
In reply to Re: Where's the fun in that?, posted by gardenergirl on May 24, 2004, at 22:47:40
I'm really glad you are feeling a little better. having the right Therapist makes a big difference. I always knew you could trust...you just needed to trust yourself. :)
I'm rooting for you. Go Girl!!
Posted by Poet on May 26, 2004, at 0:26:55
In reply to Where's the fun in that? » Dinah, posted by Racer on May 24, 2004, at 21:46:41
Hi Racer,
So you borrowed my courage to quit therapy? Wow, I didn't know I had that much courage. Then again, maybe your inner brat just wanted to play with my inner brat, which is why you let her post?
Whatever did or did not do, I hope it's for the best.
Poet
Posted by terrics on May 26, 2004, at 16:40:44
In reply to I quit therapy., posted by Racer on May 24, 2004, at 17:22:00
Congratulations Racer! terrics
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