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Posted by Joan797 on June 26, 2006, at 7:42:13
and although my Dad is now dead and I still am a heartbroken alcoholic fool who is an emotional train wreck........it seems as if I have passed at least one bend in the road of life without falling off the edge.
Joan, tired, crying some, but feeling sated for a while.
Posted by Sabrina0805 on June 26, 2006, at 9:57:04
In reply to I can see clearly now, the rain is gone, posted by Joan797 on June 26, 2006, at 7:42:13
All my kindest and gentlest thoughts are with you.
Please try to stay safe.
Love
Sabrina
Posted by sleepygirl on June 26, 2006, at 12:06:51
In reply to I can see clearly now, the rain is gone, posted by Joan797 on June 26, 2006, at 7:42:13
oh Joan, I'm so sorry...didn't you write a poem here about him a while back? I hope you find some moments of comfort, it can be a hard ride, take it easy OK?
(((((Joan))))))
Posted by susan47 on June 26, 2006, at 13:59:45
In reply to Re: I can see clearly now, the rain is gone » Joan797, posted by sleepygirl on June 26, 2006, at 12:06:51
Hard ride, a hard ride, oh yes baby he gave me a hard ride all right.
Oh yes.
Posted by gardenergirl on June 26, 2006, at 15:49:05
In reply to Re: I can see clearly now, the rain is gone, posted by susan47 on June 26, 2006, at 13:59:45
Posted by gardenergirl on June 26, 2006, at 15:51:22
In reply to I can see clearly now, the rain is gone, posted by Joan797 on June 26, 2006, at 7:42:13
I'm glad you didn't fall. Grief is hard and complicated.
Gentle hugs to you.
gg
Posted by Joan797 on June 27, 2006, at 10:38:00
In reply to Re: I can see clearly now, the rain is gone, posted by susan47 on June 26, 2006, at 13:59:45
I don't know what you mean.
Posted by susan47 on June 28, 2006, at 12:03:20
In reply to I'm speechless. (nm) » susan47, posted by gardenergirl on June 26, 2006, at 15:49:05
Me, I should be speechless that would be a blessing. I'm sorry, I was thinking about Life, you see, Life is a hard ride, yes it is. And I'm thinking about Joan and not her father, but the hard ride she's had with someone else, others, and I do apologize if I've upset anyone .. with my very curt, abrupt ways. Rude, I am. Just plain darn rude. And I don't mean to be. You see?
Posted by susan47 on June 28, 2006, at 12:04:24
In reply to Re: I don't understand why you said that » susan47, posted by Joan797 on June 27, 2006, at 10:38:00
I hope I didn't upset you. I didn't mean to do that.
Perhaps I mistook you for someone else.
I'm sorry.
Posted by gardenergirl on June 28, 2006, at 13:35:26
In reply to Re: I'm speechless., posted by susan47 on June 28, 2006, at 12:03:20
Well golly, I thought it was something sexual.
gg
Posted by Sabrina0805 on June 29, 2006, at 0:53:39
In reply to Re: I'm speechless. » susan47, posted by gardenergirl on June 28, 2006, at 13:35:26
> Well golly, I thought it was something sexual.
>
> ggEven if it wasn't, I feel it was still entirely inappropriate for this thread.
Thinking of you Joan
Sabrina
Posted by susan47 on June 29, 2006, at 10:43:37
In reply to Re: I'm speechless. » susan47, posted by gardenergirl on June 28, 2006, at 13:35:26
I can see how some people would think it was inappropriate for this thread. But I was reading Joan's Entire post, not just part of it. And I'm sorry, but I really thought she was someone else ... maybe ... but it doesn't matter. Whatever you read into something ambiguous is your interpretation, ;)
Posted by gardenergirl on June 29, 2006, at 11:21:12
In reply to Re: I'm speechless. » gardenergirl, posted by susan47 on June 29, 2006, at 10:43:37
> Whatever you read into something ambiguous is your interpretation, ;)
Absolutely.
Posted by 10derHeart on June 29, 2006, at 14:16:54
In reply to Re: I'm speechless. » susan47, posted by gardenergirl on June 29, 2006, at 11:21:12
I'm thinking of you. I lost my dad about 6 months ago.
I didn't have the long, difficult illness and caretaking you did, though, so I know that part was very different. (My dad passed away before I could even get on a plane to go and be with him. And that s*cked, too :-()
I don't suppose either way is better, worse....just all difficult and draining. They are still our dads and always were and will be, and when they're gone it's time to grieve and feel any feeling that comes up. You will get through, day by day, as you already have been doing with your many other life challenges.
Feelings will do as they will, whether we label them good, bad, weird, indifferent...they'll come, and at the strangest times, I found. I hope there's someone IRL you can talk to and lean on. If not, I'm glad you come here still.
Remember to eat a little, drink some water, rest, and rest some more. Those little things will help, as dumb as that may sound.
Take care, Joan.
Posted by sabrina0805 on June 29, 2006, at 14:56:40
In reply to Re: I'm speechless. » susan47, posted by gardenergirl on June 29, 2006, at 11:21:12
> > Whatever you read into something ambiguous is your interpretation, ;)
>
> Absolutely.
>
Either way ... perhaps the original poster, who is grieving, could be considered. Nothing else.
Posted by sabrina0805 on June 29, 2006, at 14:57:32
In reply to (((Joan))), posted by 10derHeart on June 29, 2006, at 14:16:54
Love you much!
Posted by rainbutterfly on June 29, 2006, at 20:02:47
In reply to Re: (((Joan))), posted by sabrina0805 on June 29, 2006, at 14:57:32
Posted by gardenergirl on June 29, 2006, at 22:09:22
In reply to Re: (((Joan))), posted by sabrina0805 on June 29, 2006, at 14:57:32
Posted by sabrina0805 on June 30, 2006, at 3:27:19
In reply to Re: I'm speechless., posted by Sabrina0805 on June 29, 2006, at 0:53:39
> > Well golly, I thought it was something sexual.
> >
> > gg
>
> Even if it wasn't, I feel it was still entirely inappropriate for this thread.
>
> Thinking of you Joan
>
> SabrinaI am going to rephrase the above and say that I felt it was off-topic.
Sabrina
Posted by Joan797 on June 30, 2006, at 7:16:08
In reply to Re: I don't understand why you said that » Joan797, posted by susan47 on June 28, 2006, at 12:04:24
I'm not and never was offended, just confused as to what your post had in relation to mine. And of course, being the person I am, I read sexual conotations into your words.
Having said that, you do know me from another posting name. I used to be AdaGrace.
Posted by Joan797 on June 30, 2006, at 7:21:52
In reply to Re: I'm speechless., posted by sabrina0805 on June 30, 2006, at 3:27:19
Thank you all for your support.
Lay off Susan, I think I understand now why she was saying what she did, and it wasn't offensive.This has been hard. And I somehow seem to be floating in a see of nothingness at the moment. Trying hard not to shove away those closest to me, however hard that may be. Reclusiveness doesn't bode well for my self image, nor for my outer image.
Whoever told me to remember to eat and drink should see me. Stress makes me eat. There is not problem in the eating department other than I do too much of it.
Sabrina, I love you too..........
Posted by Joan797 on June 30, 2006, at 7:23:16
In reply to Re: (((Joan))), posted by sabrina0805 on June 29, 2006, at 14:57:32
Thank you for being a friend. And thank you for coming out of hiding and posting here. I love you mucho as well.
Posted by susan47 on June 30, 2006, at 14:28:10
In reply to Re: This Thread, posted by Joan797 on June 30, 2006, at 7:21:52
You Are who I thought you were.
Thank you.
For being you.
For understanding, even in your own pain,
the pain of others and the bond we had.
I hope you heal.
I wish you a lot of that.
Healing.
Peace.
Love.
Support.
Friends.
People who know you.
People who aren't offended or offensive, because you are lovely and loving, Joan.
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 3, 2006, at 9:11:11
In reply to Re: I'm speechless., posted by sabrina0805 on June 30, 2006, at 3:27:19
This is the end of the thread.
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