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Posted by saw on September 10, 2004, at 2:43:54
<I have no clue how to create constructive coping mechanisms to replace the self destructive habits.>
I couldn't agree more! I don't even know if I WANT to. I enjoy my self destructive habit. (Sick or what!)
Wouldn't be great if we could just click our fingers and all the addictions, behaviours, fears, disorders, yadiyadiya just disappear, dissipate, poof and we're normal. Suppose dreaming's allowed.
Sabrina
Posted by antigua on September 10, 2004, at 15:12:25
In reply to Antigua, posted by saw on September 10, 2004, at 2:43:54
Well, even dreaming gets me into trouble sometimes. I have a dream (or a fantasy) and I can obsess over that as much as anything. For days I can be disabled-- it's better now, maybe because real life is slowly getting better than the fantasy. I don't know.
Yes, I would love to snap my fingers and all the troubles would be gone. I might get into trouble for saying this, but my T swears that once I've resolved my csa issues I willl be less likely to indulge in destructive habits. She has always said this, and in a way I've always used it as an excuse to continue... I know this goes against the tenets of any recovery program and I hesitate to even bring it up.
I will say this, though. When I was able to string together a whole year of behaving myself, I realized how great I was doing in therapy. I was making huge progress. Why? Well part of me wasn't hiding behind the alcohol or the drugs anymore--I had to go straight to the source of my troubles. I couldn't dull them or numb myself and become distracted by my guilt over using or the shame of my actions. I think it cleared my mind to address the issues.
antigua
Posted by saw on September 13, 2004, at 6:38:27
In reply to Re: Antigua » saw, posted by antigua on September 10, 2004, at 15:12:25
<I will say this, though. When I was able to string together a whole year of behaving myself, I realized how great I was doing in therapy. I was making huge progress. Why? Well part of me wasn't hiding behind the alcohol or the drugs anymore--I had to go straight to the source of my troubles. I couldn't dull them or numb myself and become distracted by my guilt over using or the shame of my actions. I think it cleared my mind to address the issues.>
Hi Antigua
Am I understanding correctly that you are not "behaving yourself" anymore? If that is the case, what happened to set you back (if I may ask)
Regards
Sabrina
Posted by antigua on September 13, 2004, at 10:11:53
In reply to Re: Antigua » antigua, posted by saw on September 13, 2004, at 6:38:27
Yes, I had a relapse but I'm back on track now. "Behaving myself" means in a sense not letting my behavior get out of control. It's such a long, ongoing process and trying not to beat up on myself for my weakness.
What happened? I went away on vacation and the temptation of wanting to relive the good times w/my husband was just too strong. In a way, it's because I felt too good.
antigua
Posted by saw on September 14, 2004, at 0:35:57
In reply to saw, posted by antigua on September 13, 2004, at 10:11:53
I agree that not letting behaviour get out of control and not beating ourselves up for our weaknesses are a long ongoing process, and a very difficult one at that. One that I am not coping with very well right now.
Feeling good and reliving good times is not a bad thing though, is it?
Sabrina
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