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Posted by alexandra_k on January 27, 2014, at 22:16:05
In reply to Re: yay lorde » alexandra_k, posted by SLS on January 27, 2014, at 20:57:52
i don't know why people keep asking if i'm upset...
i am affected quite a lot at a certain time each month. it is fairly predictable... but i'm fine now :)
i do know about the 3 post rule...
and i try... but sometimes i fail.
i am feeling a bit bad about having gone off at the management people here about the cockroaches, now. my little friend has gone away. and i don't suppose i'll get them back now, that i know they are lurking, so i'm specially careful to clean up all dishes / crumbs from the sink each night. i guess it was more the thought of that before... before i wasn't especially careful about keeping things like oats or flour or sultanas or sugar in tightly sealed containers. shaking out my toaster after each use. now... i will be.
we got an email about orientation week. and... yeah... pretty full on... i... was going to not do any of it. but will be hard to hide in my room... and i'll hate myself if i try and be all anti-social. and i don't want to be anti-social really. so... i'm not entirely sure i can find the right balance. of starting off as i mean to go on... i don't quite know.
i just... really love where i am right now. i don't want to ruin it. i don't want to ruin it by getting to know people on the floor and then feeling like i've lost my privacy. to have other people noticing... then it isn't far from having other people commenting... then other people taking it personally that i'm not hanging out with them / that i'm ignoring them... then people turning on me... it's a pattern... it's why i need to not live with people. here is all wonderful and self contained. i can come and go as i please. i don't have to try and sneak around or be silent so other people will leave me alone. if i accidentally make a noise i don't have people around me making noises back in an attempt to (probably unconsciously) resonate with me in some way... i just want to keep that space.
find friends... who live... elsewhere.
hopefully... there are more people like me around than i fear there might be.
we got an email about speed flatmate matching too lol. poor poor people trying to find people to flat with. i'm so happy i don't need to go through that. i just... really don't like living with other people. so it makes it hard... i sort of have to pretend that i want to live with people but i don't. it isn't personal.. it is just... ugh. i'm so very very very very very glad that i don't have to go there.
interview tomorrow...
Posted by 10derheart on January 27, 2014, at 22:16:47
In reply to Re: yay lorde » alexandra_k, posted by SLS on January 27, 2014, at 20:57:52
Maybe I'm biased since I never supported this rule and still don't, but I thought maybe you posted the link so alex could remind herself that there are exceptions to this rule....
Since I -IF I were asked in the past to decide in a deputy capacity - would see her posts as a form of journaling/diary, rather than someone *appearing to* (can't know intent...) monopolize someone else's thread. I always thought Dr. Bob's idea was to allow dialog, so that threads would be back and forth, so I figure when you are posting many responses to your own thread....no big deal.
It's all interpretation, of course. And I have less than zero say/sway here.
I do like to think of you both as positively motivated.
Posted by SLS on January 27, 2014, at 22:47:07
In reply to Re: yay lorde » SLS, posted by 10derheart on January 27, 2014, at 22:16:47
I thought the diary exclusion was meant to track one's treatment on the Medication board. I see your point, though. A social diary is still a diary.
I really was not upset that Alexandra was submitting more than 3 consecutive posts. I took note of it, but didn't think it was something I should notify administration about. I must be missing something, though. I was under the impression that it was someone else who first suggested to Alexandra that she should stop flouting the 3 post rule. Perhaps it was simply a joke among friends. I didn't think so at the time. I was hoping to prevent administrative action, not encourage it.
- Scott
Posted by SLS on January 27, 2014, at 22:52:34
In reply to Re: the social thing..., posted by alexandra_k on January 27, 2014, at 22:16:05
> i don't know why people keep asking if i'm upset...
You asked if I was upset.
- Scott
Posted by alexandra_k on January 27, 2014, at 23:42:43
In reply to Re: yay lorde » 10derheart, posted by SLS on January 27, 2014, at 22:47:07
> I thought the diary exclusion...
oh. i didn't know about that.
> I was under the impression that it was someone else who first suggested to Alexandra that she should stop flouting the 3 post rule.
Dr Bob mentions it, sometimes.
i do try not to... but sometimes i get carried away...
Posted by SLS on January 28, 2014, at 0:00:54
In reply to Re: yay lorde, posted by alexandra_k on January 27, 2014, at 23:42:43
> > I thought the diary exclusion...
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> oh. i didn't know about that.
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> > I was under the impression that it was someone else who first suggested to Alexandra that she should stop flouting the 3 post rule.
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> Dr Bob mentions it, sometimes.
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> i do try not to... but sometimes i get carried away...I understand.
I meant no harm.
- Scott
Posted by alexandra_k on January 28, 2014, at 0:04:32
In reply to Re: yay lorde » alexandra_k, posted by SLS on January 28, 2014, at 0:00:54
it's ok.
maybe i get to join the adorable duckie and lou pilder group :)
Posted by alexandra_k on January 28, 2014, at 0:05:23
In reply to Re: yay lorde, posted by alexandra_k on January 28, 2014, at 0:04:32
or maybe i won't, and i'll get blocked.
:(
i don't know.
Posted by 10derheart on January 28, 2014, at 2:21:57
In reply to Re: yay lorde » 10derheart, posted by SLS on January 27, 2014, at 22:47:07
>>I was under the impression that it was someone else who first suggested to Alexandra that she should stop flouting the 3 post rule.
It was. That's a fact. Not an impression:-) I didn't mention who was first, etc....did I? (ooo...who's on First? baseball!!!)
>>Perhaps it was simply a joke among friends. I didn't think so at the time.
Who knows? There are negative comments, then apologies, quiet, yelling, more quiet, lots more negative comments, nice comments, calm comments....are some jokes? <shrug> Friends? I wouldn't dare guess about that concept on Babble. For me, not a lot of what the onenoteduck posts in negative posts is funny at all.
>> I was hoping to prevent administrative action, not encourage it.
I know. That's one reason I'd hoped maybe you were thinking she could tell her "friend" she was journaling.
All is well....well....sorta.
Posted by HomelyCygnet on January 28, 2014, at 7:46:12
In reply to Re: yay lorde » SLS, posted by 10derheart on January 28, 2014, at 2:21:57
You seem a little testy.
Posted by HomelyCygnet on January 28, 2014, at 10:25:25
In reply to Re: yay lorde » SLS, posted by 10derheart on January 27, 2014, at 22:16:47
Well DUH that was the crux of the problem with the deputies it was ALWAYS a matter of interpretation for your lil clique.
Do you really think Bobbo can't count for himself if he reads this thread? I think it is highly unlikely that he would block alex. She's practically the only active poster he has left.
You're the one that pushes the snitch button not me. Never have.
Go away and stop trying to stir up trouble. You really really really miss being a deputy don't you?
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> It's all interpretation, of course. And I have less than zero say/sway here.
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> I do like to think of you both as positively motivated.
Posted by SLS on January 28, 2014, at 12:18:32
In reply to A matter of interpretation » 10derheart, posted by HomelyCygnet on January 28, 2014, at 10:25:25
> Go away and stop trying to stir up trouble.
Are you serious or simply having fun?
If you are serious, while unfortunate, you might be treatable.
If you are simply having fun, then that is very sad and will probably leave you refractory to interventions.
You know, narcissists find it nearly impossible to see their own foibles. That is terribly ironic, for they spend so much of their time gazing lovingly at their own reflection in the mirror. Is Psycho-Babble your mirror? I can see how that would work. Here, you can be alpha and prove your superiority and unique genius - or can you? See what you need to see, but stop messing with peoples' minds. You disgust me.
The next time you call me a narcissist, perhaps you can help me to recognize it? We can help each other!
- Scott
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 28, 2014, at 15:14:47
In reply to Re: A matter of sabotaging the minds of others » HomelyCygnet, posted by SLS on January 28, 2014, at 12:18:32
Posted by SLS on January 28, 2014, at 15:44:49
In reply to Re: shield up! (nm) » SLS, posted by Dr. Bob on January 28, 2014, at 15:14:47
Hi Doctor.
"Scotty, raise shields!"
In that context, I don't mind the use of "Scotty".
:-)
- Scott
Posted by SLS on January 28, 2014, at 15:57:21
In reply to A matter of interpretation » 10derheart, posted by HomelyCygnet on January 28, 2014, at 10:25:25
"You disgust me"
I thought that this was a pretty uncivil thing for one person to say to another, especially when one has the luxury of time to compose words. At the very least, it is ugly to see. At the time, I was at a loss for words to describe how I felt viscerally about your behavior towards others. I therefore apologize and retract that statement.
- Scott
Posted by HomelyCygnet on January 28, 2014, at 16:14:27
In reply to Re: shield up! (nm) » SLS, posted by Dr. Bob on January 28, 2014, at 15:14:47
Posted by 10derheart on January 28, 2014, at 16:56:53
In reply to Conveying visceral feelings is not always be civil » HomelyCygnet, posted by SLS on January 28, 2014, at 15:57:21
I like this post.
:-)
Posted by 10derheart on January 28, 2014, at 16:59:58
In reply to A matter of interpretation » 10derheart, posted by HomelyCygnet on January 28, 2014, at 10:25:25
>>You really really really miss being a deputy don't you?
Only in the sense I had a little more ability to help people. So, yeah, I miss that part.
Posted by baseball55 on January 28, 2014, at 20:50:06
In reply to Re: yay lorde, posted by alexandra_k on January 27, 2014, at 23:42:43
> > I was under the impression that it was someone else who first suggested to Alexandra that she should stop flouting the 3 post rule.
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> Dr Bob mentions it, sometimes.
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> i do try not to... but sometimes i get carried away...
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> Who is bothered by Alex's posting in separate postings, rather than in one long posting? Someone raised this just to be a pain in the b**t. Nobody has ever complained or been offended, so why is this even being discussed.Go Alex! You have a need to write things down and most of us are always happy to read what you've written.
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Posted by alexandra_k on January 28, 2014, at 21:20:20
In reply to Re: yay lorde, posted by baseball55 on January 28, 2014, at 20:50:06
thanks.
i'm usually... surprised when people read my rantings. pleased, usually. surprised in a nice way. that people took the time. expended the effort. but i'm not upset when people don't... because i don't really expect them to.
it helps me. talking things through. it is how i work through things. therapy for myself ha. and sometimes other people weigh in and that helps me, yeah.
even though duckie hurts me sometimes duckie gets me thinking, too. duckie has a knack for homing in on weakness... and usually it is the weakness that has got me worried, too. so... i think it is probably good for me. but it is a bit much for me sometimes... and shields come up.
it helps to because it helps alleviate some of the privacy / secrecy aspect that is shameful to me. getting it out lifts things... getting responses that are critical sometimes... is hard, in a way. but in another way it is strengthening. what is the worst thing that can happen? sometimes getting some of the worse and seeing you can cope survive okay can be helpful.
i'm flattered that duckie remembers a lot of what i say... and that it sticks with duckie... and duckie reminds me... because a lot of that stuff... doesn't sit right with me either...
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 30, 2014, at 2:07:02
In reply to Conveying visceral feelings is not always be civil » HomelyCygnet, posted by SLS on January 28, 2014, at 15:57:21
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 30, 2014, at 2:15:47
In reply to Re: A matter of interpretation » HomelyCygnet, posted by 10derheart on January 28, 2014, at 16:59:58
> I had a little more ability to help people. So, yeah, I miss that part.
There's a position open, and I bet your application would be favorably received. :-) Babble's different now, so the job would be different, too. And I'm open to suggestions. For example, focusing on helping people.
Bob
Posted by 10derheart on January 30, 2014, at 11:30:42
In reply to Re: helping people, posted by Dr. Bob on January 30, 2014, at 2:15:47
No, thanks. Never ever. Never is a strong word, but in this case I am confident it is accurate.
I think you know quite well how I feel about this different Babble.
If we are recently witnessing your concept of helping people, it is not for me.
Even if you suddenly changed back to the POV on civility that made Babble so unique and appealing for me in the first place, there has been far too much water under the bridge.
Posted by HomelyCygnet on January 30, 2014, at 13:14:03
In reply to Re: helping people, posted by Dr. Bob on January 30, 2014, at 2:15:47
Posted by Phillipa on January 31, 2014, at 9:04:30
In reply to Shields up bob! Sorry you got shot down :-( (nm) » Dr. Bob, posted by HomelyCygnet on January 30, 2014, at 13:14:03
How did I miss this? Is a new babble in the process of being born? Phillipa
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