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Posted by PhoenixGirl on January 22, 2013, at 16:06:17
I've been on PsychoBabble from the beginning, coming and going. I'm amazed to look back and see how grindingly persistent my mental illness and loneliness have been, despite so many meds, ECT, and years of therapy of all types. I have tried very hard. But my life has been emotional torture. I know I'm a good person, so how did it come to be that I will be spending my 35th birthday alone? I want to be surrounded by loving friends and family, but they don't even exist. It cuts me to the core. Why has this happened to me? I'm not weak, I did try. I don't want to die without achieving victory over this sickness. God, if you exist, please help me. I need you.
Posted by Phillipa on January 22, 2013, at 17:44:38
In reply to 35th birthday -- I'll be spending it alone. :..(, posted by PhoenixGirl on January 22, 2013, at 16:06:17
Well Happy Birthday from at least me!!! Where is your family? Brothers, Sisters, Parents, No boyfriend significant other or children. If not so sorry Phillipa
Posted by baseball55 on January 22, 2013, at 20:25:53
In reply to 35th birthday -- I'll be spending it alone. :..(, posted by PhoenixGirl on January 22, 2013, at 16:06:17
Can you find volunteer opportunities or join a book/film group to make friends? For me, I was completely isolated until I found AA. If you're not an addict, AA is no good. But there are so many other ways to meet people. My therapist told me about a website called meetup.com (I think) where you can find people in your area interested in doing things you like to do -- going to a concert, playing tennis, going for walks, whatever. You just put in your zipcode and interests and find people to meet up with.
Do you have trouble making friends? Are you shy? Maybe therapy would help. DBT and CBT therapy can be very useful in helping you overcome this. I know I am very shy and introverted and it's really impacted my life.
Fortunately, I met my husband (who is very extroverted) in college and having him and a daughter has kept me somewhat stable. But in my 40s, I became extremely aware that I had no friends and it really made me miserable.
Anyway, good luck to you. I hope something I've said helps. You have nothing but empathy and compassion from me
Posted by Dinah on January 23, 2013, at 12:19:31
In reply to 35th birthday -- I'll be spending it alone. :..(, posted by PhoenixGirl on January 22, 2013, at 16:06:17
Happy birthday!
I'm not going to underestimate the importance of human interactions. But there are other things to make life worthwhile, and sometimes they bring along humans.
Is there anything you're interested in doing? Arts? Crafts? Activities? Do you like pets? Would you be interested in rescue or fostering?
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