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Posted by sleepygirl2 on June 29, 2011, at 17:58:22
If I pay no attention to what is going on around me I am less anxious.
Zoning out is the answer.
Posted by floatingbridge on June 29, 2011, at 20:01:38
In reply to So, I discovered that...., posted by sleepygirl2 on June 29, 2011, at 17:58:22
> If I pay no attention to what is going on around me I am less anxious.
> Zoning out is the answer.Hey. Oh-oh. SG, well, that's been my approach. Can only take so much in-coming when the airport is backed up, and there are rescue crews on the ground.
Anything in particular?
:-/
Posted by emmanuel98 on June 29, 2011, at 20:09:06
In reply to So, I discovered that...., posted by sleepygirl2 on June 29, 2011, at 17:58:22
My DBT therapist, who is into Buddhism, said something that caught my attention. She said the refuge is in the moment. Meaning that being fully present in the moment is a refuge from distress. I practice mindfulness and meditation every day. There is also refuge in the breathing, just focusing on breathing deeply and slowly and calmly, scanning your body for points of tension.
I had a physical the other day and my doctor told me to take a deep breath as she listened to my lungs. For me, this has come to mean a deep, slow intake to the count of 6 or 8, followed by a slow controlled exhale to the count of 6 or 8. My doctor got frustrated -- said exhale! She didn't want to stand around for half an hour listening to my new mindful breathing.
Posted by sleepygirl2 on June 29, 2011, at 20:27:46
In reply to Re: So, I discovered that...., posted by floatingbridge on June 29, 2011, at 20:01:38
Nothing in particular :-)
Just need a little refuge.
Thanks fb
Posted by sleepygirl2 on June 29, 2011, at 20:35:28
In reply to Re: So, I discovered that...., posted by emmanuel98 on June 29, 2011, at 20:09:06
I don't know why, but I get light headed when I breathe deeply. I'm not doing it right.
Mindfulness...sounds good.
We only ever have the present moment anyway.I tend to think I might go screaming away from the present moment if I paid attention. I feel like I take in so much.
Posted by floatingbridge on June 29, 2011, at 20:37:31
In reply to Re: So, I discovered that...., posted by emmanuel98 on June 29, 2011, at 20:09:06
>She didn't want to stand around for half an hour listening to my new mindful
breathing.
>:-)
Refuge in the moment. So you are getting some of the dbt to stick over time?
It is only, honestly, the past few days that I have ever felt close to understanding that. I have read it, have tried to practice but would have panic attacks.
Posted by floatingbridge on June 29, 2011, at 20:40:55
In reply to Re: So, I discovered that.... » floatingbridge, posted by sleepygirl2 on June 29, 2011, at 20:27:46
> Nothing in particular :-)
> Just need a little refuge.
> Thanks fbYes.
:-/
Posted by sigismund on June 30, 2011, at 15:11:28
In reply to Re: So, I discovered that...., posted by emmanuel98 on June 29, 2011, at 20:09:06
>She said the refuge is in the moment.
It's odd that, isn't it? Because one senses (rightly or wrongly) that the mind has gone away from the moment to escape distress.
I'm thinking here of that shrink who said I was playing tennis from the wrong end of the court, or my T who said I was always in her.
Maybe it was something that made sense once and then became a habit?
Posted by floatingbridge on July 1, 2011, at 12:52:50
In reply to Re: So, I discovered that.... » emmanuel98, posted by sigismund on June 30, 2011, at 15:11:28
Maybe that's why there are communities and teachers; if it gets rougher, coaches and therapists. Not being alone in this.
'Habit' is a helpful word, too...?
> >She said the refuge is in the moment.
>
> It's odd that, isn't it? Because one senses (rightly or wrongly) that the mind has gone away from the moment to escape distress.
>
> I'm thinking here of that shrink who said I was playing tennis from the wrong end of the court, or my T who said I was always in her.
>
> Maybe it was something that made sense once and then became a habit?
Posted by floatingbridge on July 1, 2011, at 16:20:59
In reply to Re: So, I discovered that.... » emmanuel98, posted by sigismund on June 30, 2011, at 15:11:28
Maybe that's why there are communities and teachers; if it gets rougher, coaches and therapists. Not being alone in this.
'Habit' is a helpful word, too...?
> >She said the refuge is in the moment.
>
> It's odd that, isn't it? Because one senses (rightly or wrongly) that the mind has gone away from the moment to escape distress.
>
> I'm thinking here of that shrink who said I was playing tennis from the wrong end of the court, or my T who said I was always in her.
>
> Maybe it was something that made sense once and then became a habit?
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