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Posted by alan7065 on October 27, 2009, at 17:09:24
I'm worried. I had been laid off at a professional job because of the economy. However, my supervisor had told someone he wished he had seen more from me. Anyways, I had gone to my therapist and told him I might then lose my unemployment because I hadn't searched for jobs and UI had called me in to check. He said I should go on disability because he saw a pattern of not meeting standards. I had lost a job prior to this after two years for making lots of errors during the busy holiday season. I mean, I held the job for two years, making 50,000. I know i have problems with anxiety and depression. He said because of childhood abuse and trauma, I alternate between panic and learned helpless, neither being very effective at dealing with my responsibilities. I am so sad and discouraged. I start a new job this week and his saying this to me makes me feel doomed. Is it possible he said this because I was jobless and he thought I would lose my unemployment? Was he just being practical or does he really think I should give up? And does one therapists comment mean he is right? I understand you all don't know me and you are not doctors but any positive comments would be appreciated. I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety by the way and am on Pristiq.
Posted by Deneb on October 27, 2009, at 18:33:04
In reply to Question about something a therapist told me, posted by alan7065 on October 27, 2009, at 17:09:24
Hello Alan7065
Welcome to Psycho-Babble. I personally think your therapist was out of line telling you that you should go on disability. I think he is wrong. Unless you have a long pattern of not being able to work because of your symptoms, he should not have suggested you go on disability.
Maybe he was just being practical since you thought you might lose the unemployment money, but still, he shouldn't have said that.
Do you feel you are unable to work on a day to day basis? So you lost a job, that doesn't mean you are doomed to have this repeat. Maybe that job just wasn't the right one for you. Maybe you temporarily had your symptoms interfere with your work.
I think that if you were able to keep a job for 2 years, that means you are fully capable of working. 2 years is a long time. Some people can't keep a job for a month.
Have faith in yourself. You made $50,000 a year. You can find another job and do well. You just got hired for a job, that means your employers picked YOU out possibily many other people. They think you can do the job. They hired you and not others for a reason.
Many people have depression and anxiety and do well in their careers. You are definitely not doomed.
I hope you realize how wrong it was for your T to say that to you and have confidence in yourself.
Deneb
Posted by alan7065 on October 27, 2009, at 18:52:56
In reply to Re: Question about something a therapist told me » alan7065, posted by Deneb on October 27, 2009, at 18:33:04
Thank you so much, it has been eating at my confidence. Yes, I can work. I think it does interferes maybe on a long term basis but it doesn;t have to. I also just make bad choices at times that I can control. I need to remember I can work hard and that I have control, I don;t need to think that I have no power over my life or illness.
Posted by Phillipa on October 29, 2009, at 10:55:50
In reply to Re: Question about something a therapist told me, posted by alan7065 on October 27, 2009, at 18:52:56
Alan is the pristiq working for you? I understand the economy but it sure says something if you got a job now so soon congrats on that. Phillipa
Posted by alan7065 on October 29, 2009, at 11:02:06
In reply to Re: Question about something a therapist told me » alan7065, posted by Phillipa on October 29, 2009, at 10:55:50
I don;t have the anxiety and panic in interviews that I used to have since I started taking Pristiq. It gives me energy yet gets rid of the panic. It is amazing.
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