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Posted by Poet on April 17, 2008, at 16:45:28
A friend gave me a collector's doll to try to cheer me up because I'm depressed over losing my job. She said "sell it if you want to," but I just love her and thought she'd bring you luck. She even named her.
The doll is sitting in her box and is not cheering me up. I spent three hours online trying to find out what she's worth and feel guilty as the only doll I found sold for $150. I know my friend did not pay that much, but even if she paid $50 I feel guilty selling something that means something to her. I thought about giving it back to her, but that makes me feel guilty, too
Is it okay to sell it? What do you think?
Poet
Posted by karen_kay on April 17, 2008, at 17:02:04
In reply to Is it okay to sell something that was a gift?, posted by Poet on April 17, 2008, at 16:45:28
all is fair. sweetie, if the money you get from the doll will buy you lots of icecream (that's somethign that will cheer you up, right?), then i say sell it.
and don't feel guilty about it either hun. if you need the money, sell it. i'm sure yoru friend would want you to get joy from her gift, and if the doll's not bringing it, buy something that will.
take care fo yoruself hun.
kk
Posted by Glydin on April 17, 2008, at 17:31:35
In reply to Is it okay to sell something that was a gift?, posted by Poet on April 17, 2008, at 16:45:28
I give and receive gifts with the idea that the receiver can do anything they wish with the item. I believe the gift is the thought, the meaning and gesture and not the actual concrete item.
Call me pollyannaesque or tacky but if selling the item itself would serve me the best, I would...
Posted by Kath on April 17, 2008, at 20:47:47
In reply to Is it okay to sell something that was a gift?, posted by Poet on April 17, 2008, at 16:45:28
I think it's perfectly okay to sell it Poet.
She DID say to, if you wanted to.
I think it's okay even if she did name it, etc.
I think she had really good intentions, and ALSO realized that it might not mean to you what it would have meant to her.
I think that's pretty insightful of her.I do NOT see anything wrong with selling it for whatever you can get for it!!!!!!!!
I guess the one thing I'd need to do to feel okay would be to figure out what I'd say if the friend asked me about the doll, or came to visit & mentioned it, upon not seeing the doll around.
If you want to 'explore' what you might say, please say so - I'd be glad to 'look at it' with you.
love, Kath
Posted by MidnightBlue on April 17, 2008, at 21:30:06
In reply to Is it okay to sell something that was a gift?, posted by Poet on April 17, 2008, at 16:45:28
I would at least wait a while longer.
MB
Posted by realitybites on April 17, 2008, at 22:28:23
In reply to Is it okay to sell something that was a gift?, posted by Poet on April 17, 2008, at 16:45:28
I don't like the idea, but thats just my opinion, from experience. I agree with waiting longer.
Posted by ClearSkies on April 18, 2008, at 6:57:43
In reply to YUP » Poet, posted by Kath on April 17, 2008, at 20:47:47
I concur. You were definitely given permission (and you didn't need it to be given it, either).
CS
Posted by Phillipa on April 18, 2008, at 12:41:58
In reply to Re: YUP, posted by ClearSkies on April 18, 2008, at 6:57:43
I don't know guess I'm sentimental I would put in a drawer for a while to me it's the thought that counts too much emphasis on money now that's just me. Love Phillipa
Posted by Poet on April 18, 2008, at 13:20:36
In reply to Is it okay to sell something that was a gift?, posted by Poet on April 17, 2008, at 16:45:28
Though I could wait awhile longer in case she asks about it. What's good is she rarely comes over, we talk on the phone more than in person, so I would hope she wouldn't want to see it.
I feel guilty, but then again someone who collects dolls might really want it and I'd be making that person happy.
Poet
Posted by rskontos on April 18, 2008, at 17:59:08
In reply to Looks Like I Sell it, posted by Poet on April 18, 2008, at 13:20:36
I go with selling it too. It is the thought that counts. If I gave it too you, I would rather you do with it what you needed too because if I found out prior to buying the doll, I would give you the money then versus the doll. But that is me.
rsk
Posted by MissK on April 18, 2008, at 18:18:28
In reply to Is it okay to sell something that was a gift?, posted by Poet on April 17, 2008, at 16:45:28
Why not think about donating it or giving it away to some child. (i.e., a kid who may not have much around the neighbourhood, a women's shelter where often mothers have their kids too, a daycare, etc.)
I am sure some little one would light right up to get it.
Posted by Poet on April 18, 2008, at 23:05:53
In reply to Re: Is it okay to sell something that was a gift? » Poet, posted by MissK on April 18, 2008, at 18:18:28
I just don't know. I found someone online looking for the doll, and emailed her, but if she doesn't get back to me then maybe donate it? Several jobs ago I worked with a homeless shelter to donate toys at Christmas. Granted I could use the money, but damn, I wish I hadn't emailed anyone and waited for more responses.
Poet
Posted by Dinah on April 19, 2008, at 9:42:35
In reply to Maybe donate it if it doesn't sell?, posted by Poet on April 18, 2008, at 23:05:53
To a little girl unfamiliar with collector dolls, a collector doll would mean no more than an inexpensive doll from Toys R Us. In fact, many collector dolls aren't designed to be childrens' playthings and might not have the appropriate safety standards.
Posted by Poet on April 19, 2008, at 12:27:21
In reply to Re: Maybe donate it if it doesn't sell? » Poet, posted by Dinah on April 19, 2008, at 9:42:35
Hi Dinah,
That's a good point. This is a limited edition collector doll and is not meant to be played with and it might not be safe for a little girl. I haven't gotten a reply to my email yet, if she doesn't respond then I will figure out how to sell something on ebay or Craig's list.
Poet
Posted by Poet on April 19, 2008, at 12:28:37
In reply to Re: Maybe donate it if it doesn't sell?, posted by Poet on April 19, 2008, at 12:27:21
Posted by Phillipa on April 19, 2008, at 18:14:16
In reply to Re: Maybe donate it if it doesn't sell?, posted by Poet on April 19, 2008, at 12:27:21
Poet be careful with how you price it on ebay depending on if you really want to sell it or not. We do ebay as a business. Some things sell well some don't most our business is Canada and Europe, and Australia where the dollar is higher. Anywhere you might be able to sell it close to you and then buy lots of kids dolls to donate? Love Phillipa
Posted by 64bowtie on April 20, 2008, at 6:28:43
In reply to above for Dinah (nm), posted by Poet on April 19, 2008, at 12:28:37
...print up an 8"x10" of the doll in its box to remind you how much your friend cared for you... You might even frame it... Then, sell it or keep it... Its yours now, and you've chronicalled the jesture as a reminder... The next step now sounds less critical to me... Clearly, you can do either way and feel OK... Let "happenstance" dictate your next move...
Rod
Posted by Poet on April 20, 2008, at 19:17:33
In reply to » Poet » May sound 'over the top', posted by 64bowtie on April 20, 2008, at 6:28:43
Hi Rod,
I took photos of her and emailed them to the person who was interested in the doll that I found on a collector's website. I think it's a great idea to print out a photo then I won't feel so guilty if my friend asks about the doll.
Poet
Posted by Poet on April 20, 2008, at 19:19:00
In reply to Re: Maybe donate it if it doesn't sell? » Poet, posted by Phillipa on April 19, 2008, at 18:14:16
Hi Phillipa,
The buyer I found on an online doll collector's site wants it and will pay through paypal. How does paypal work? I've never bought/sold anything through it. Thanks for your help.
Poet
Posted by Phillipa on April 20, 2008, at 20:43:46
In reply to Re: Maybe donate it if it doesn't sell? » Phillipa, posted by Poet on April 20, 2008, at 19:19:00
Poet my husband says you have to have a paypal account do you? He's looking as we do have one. Oh he just said it's paypal.com. Hope that helps.You sign up it's free fees for transaction small amount but it's like credit card protection. Don't send the doll until the funds have cleared unless they are willing to send a money order or cashiers check but again get it cashed before you send the doll. Love Phillipa ps when we get a cashiers check they have a book where you cash it and it checks for stolen checks.
Posted by Poet on April 20, 2008, at 21:27:28
In reply to Re: Maybe donate it if it doesn't sell? » Poet, posted by Phillipa on April 20, 2008, at 20:43:46
Posted by Phillipa on April 20, 2008, at 23:40:36
In reply to Thanks Phillipa, I just set up an account (nm), posted by Poet on April 20, 2008, at 21:27:28
Poet great and good luck with the doll. Wow that was fast!!!!! Love Phillipa
Posted by Poet on May 10, 2008, at 14:31:37
In reply to Re: Thanks Phillipa, I just set up an account » Poet, posted by Phillipa on April 20, 2008, at 23:40:36
I have photos of her so if my friend (who luckily rarely comes over) I can honstly say she looks fine. My buyer paid through paypal so I don't have to worry about that. I can really use the money. Hooray.
Poet
Posted by Phillipa on May 10, 2008, at 20:09:52
In reply to Doll sold + mailed, posted by Poet on May 10, 2008, at 14:31:37
That's great we use paypal in our business too. Love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on May 11, 2008, at 14:04:43
In reply to Doll sold + mailed, posted by Poet on May 10, 2008, at 14:31:37
Hi Poet,
I'm glad it worked out well. Good for you.
luv, Kath
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