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Posted by crushedout on July 31, 2005, at 0:53:17
We've been on two dates. We met through a mutual friend. I like her. She's quite a bit older (maybe 15-20 years), and extremely wealthy, which is odd. She doesn't flaunt it but I know because the friend told me, and also her name, and google.Anyway, it's in the early stages, but it's sort of nice to be dating again.
Posted by partlycloudy on July 31, 2005, at 11:46:49
In reply to I just started dating someone, posted by crushedout on July 31, 2005, at 0:53:17
How exciting! I hope you enjoy each other's company and getting to know each other.
You deserve to be happy and content, crushed! (As don't we all....)
pc
Posted by Ilene on July 31, 2005, at 13:37:17
In reply to I just started dating someone, posted by crushedout on July 31, 2005, at 0:53:17
Posted by damos on August 1, 2005, at 1:29:05
In reply to I just started dating someone, posted by crushedout on July 31, 2005, at 0:53:17
Woo Hoo!!! Good for you. I hope the happiness bug bites you both big time.
Posted by crushedout on August 1, 2005, at 8:45:17
In reply to Re: I just started dating someone » crushedout, posted by damos on August 1, 2005, at 1:29:05
Posted by Shortelise on August 1, 2005, at 22:30:08
In reply to I just started dating someone, posted by crushedout on July 31, 2005, at 0:53:17
I always loved the beginning of things. Getting to know another person is always, for me, like exploring a new world, a new way of seeing things. It's so interesting.
I hope the two of you like one another.
ShortE
Posted by crushedout on August 1, 2005, at 22:36:49
In reply to Re: I just started dating someone » crushedout, posted by Shortelise on August 1, 2005, at 22:30:08
it really is fun, it's true. and i can already tell you we like each other. whether we'll be lovers, and all that, is another question.
Posted by JenStar on August 1, 2005, at 23:35:06
In reply to I just started dating someone, posted by crushedout on July 31, 2005, at 0:53:17
hi crushed,
I hope you have a great time dating! it's good to hear that you've found someone special. I hope she knows that she's lucky to have found you! :)JenStar
Posted by crushedout on August 2, 2005, at 9:49:05
In reply to Re: I just started dating someone » crushedout, posted by JenStar on August 1, 2005, at 23:35:06
you know, we just went out on two dates. i'm not making a big deal out of it. (i don't want to jinx it. did i jinx it?)it's just nice to go out on two dates.
ok, i'm also worried because i emailed her yesterday and she hasn't responded. but maybe she's busy.
Posted by crushedout on August 2, 2005, at 9:50:16
In reply to now i'm worried » JenStar, posted by crushedout on August 2, 2005, at 9:49:05
Posted by Damos on August 2, 2005, at 16:53:10
In reply to now i'm worried » JenStar, posted by crushedout on August 2, 2005, at 9:49:05
Hey Crushed,
One of the hardest lessons I've learned is how much damage attachment and expectation can do. It took me a long time to realise that I used to load everything up with with all this meaning and importance that the other person was completely unaware of, and that really only served to make me miserable and rob other time of their happiness. The not responding to email or calling is a classic example of what I mean. You start attaching all this meaning to it that in the end only makes you start questioning all sorts of things that are totally unrelated to it. When in fact you are probably right - she might just have been really busy or just plain too tired or any number of things that have nothing to do with her feelings about you and your relationship.
Try not to stress it okay. Just try to treat each time she calls or emails as a pleasant surprise, not an expectation or standard against which the worth of you, her, or the relationship are judged. It's hard as anything, but really worth it.
Posted by crushedout on August 2, 2005, at 16:56:00
In reply to Re: now i'm worried » crushedout, posted by Damos on August 2, 2005, at 16:53:10
Excellent advice, Damos. I generally try to do that and you're right that it's hard.Your timing was funny. She called me two minutes before you posted this and we made another date for this Friday. Still, it's always worth keeping what you say in mind.
Thanks.
Posted by Damos on August 2, 2005, at 17:57:02
In reply to Re: now i'm worried » Damos, posted by crushedout on August 2, 2005, at 16:56:00
Glad she called. It's always much harder to do when there's been a long time between relationships as we are naturally that little bit more anxious. Have fun on Friday, best wishes to you both.
Posted by crushedout on August 2, 2005, at 19:57:45
In reply to Re: now i'm worried » crushedout, posted by Damos on August 2, 2005, at 17:57:02
thanks. you know what's funny: i was worrying for nothing. she actually called me last night but i just forgot to listen to my voicemail so i didn't get it till just now.
Posted by crushedout on August 5, 2005, at 15:09:54
In reply to Re: now i'm worried » Damos, posted by crushedout on August 2, 2005, at 19:57:45
I'm pretty nervous. Since it's our third date, I'm afraid it might involve something sort of sexual. And, to be honest, I'm not sure I'm ready for it (on the other hand, I'm feeling awfully turned on). It's a sort of body v. mind thing. eeps.
Posted by AuntieMel on August 5, 2005, at 18:10:09
In reply to I have another date tonight, posted by crushedout on August 5, 2005, at 15:09:54
Well, just have a good time. What happens will happen. No sense in examining it too much.
Posted by crushedout on August 5, 2005, at 23:45:29
In reply to Re: I have another date tonight, posted by AuntieMel on August 5, 2005, at 18:10:09
True. I'm back. It was nice. I was a bit stressed out of my mind for a lot of it.It was nothing that I feared though.
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