Posted by Damos on August 2, 2005, at 16:53:10
In reply to now i'm worried » JenStar, posted by crushedout on August 2, 2005, at 9:49:05
Hey Crushed,
One of the hardest lessons I've learned is how much damage attachment and expectation can do. It took me a long time to realise that I used to load everything up with with all this meaning and importance that the other person was completely unaware of, and that really only served to make me miserable and rob other time of their happiness. The not responding to email or calling is a classic example of what I mean. You start attaching all this meaning to it that in the end only makes you start questioning all sorts of things that are totally unrelated to it. When in fact you are probably right - she might just have been really busy or just plain too tired or any number of things that have nothing to do with her feelings about you and your relationship.
Try not to stress it okay. Just try to treat each time she calls or emails as a pleasant surprise, not an expectation or standard against which the worth of you, her, or the relationship are judged. It's hard as anything, but really worth it.
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