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Posted by smokeymadison on July 6, 2005, at 22:16:55
well,
right now i am living with a mother who has OCD and bipolar disorder and one sister with ADD and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (14 yrs)and another sister with anxiety disorder NOS (12yrs).tonight they all got into it. the 14 yr old threw the 12 yr old down on the pavement b/c she ticked her off and then my mom started yelling and threatening to tear the 14 yr old apart.
i calmed the 12 yr old down and got her to stop crying and then went to find the 14 yr old. we had a talk about her inability to control her anger and how she should apoligize to mom and her sister. then i had a talk w/ my mom about how the 14 yr old felt sorry for what she had done and shouldn't be overly punished. so they all made up and went out to shoot off fireworks again.
the other day my mom blew up and started screaming at the top of her lungs and then ran outside toward the highway. i caught up w/ her in time and got her away from the road. later she told me that she would have thrown herself into the traffic.
now, i don't have any training for all of this, but i really am not that affected by it either. i really don't feel stressed. my own problems take the back burner and i get to help those i love.
i am getting my mom into therapy and connected with a pdoc so she can get some meds.
now, i was told a long time ago to keep a lot of distance btw me and my ill family members. am i doing the wrong thing? who else would do it?
Posted by Damos on July 6, 2005, at 22:28:21
In reply to should get Phd in crisis intervention for this..., posted by smokeymadison on July 6, 2005, at 22:16:55
I think HELL YES!!!! is the only appropriate response, and danger money too.
Now are you sure you're not part of a reality T.V. show and the others' just ahven't told you. What's next Paris and Nicole turning up on the doorstep.
Sending you lots of strength Smokey just in case you need a top up.
Posted by alexandra_k on July 6, 2005, at 22:46:00
In reply to should get Phd in crisis intervention for this..., posted by smokeymadison on July 6, 2005, at 22:16:55
Yes. You should. Jeepers.
Its terrific that you are taking it in your stride - but then if you weren't I'd certainly understand. I don't know how I'd cope with all that.
Posted by smokeymadison on July 7, 2005, at 19:46:17
In reply to should get Phd in crisis intervention for this..., posted by smokeymadison on July 6, 2005, at 22:16:55
i talked to my T today about everything that happened and she said that i fed right into everybody's malfunctions. i totally did the wrong thing. she thinks that everybody is behaving the way they are because they want attention and that i am giving them what they want.
what am i supposed to do?
how can i just turn my back when somebody needs help?
Posted by alexandra_k on July 7, 2005, at 20:06:46
In reply to Re: should get Phd in crisis intervention for this, posted by smokeymadison on July 7, 2005, at 19:46:17
> i talked to my T today about everything that happened and she said that i fed right into everybody's malfunctions. i totally did the wrong thing. she thinks that everybody is behaving the way they are because they want attention and that i am giving them what they want.
???????
> what am i supposed to do?
> how can i just turn my back when somebody needs help?Thats a really really really good question. Did you ask your t about that??? I do think... That it is rather pointless to tell you that without giving you other options of things that you could do that would be better.
I guess the main thing I worried about when I read your post is that you have been having a really hard time of it yourself. And now you are putting your stuff on the backburner (supressing it in effect most probably) in order to deal with them and their issues. I mean, it is lovely that you care and want to help them. And what the hell else are you supposed to do anyway? But putting your issues on the backburner might lead to them coming back with a vengence or depression or something.
I really would ask your t that question.
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