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Posted by Tamar on June 22, 2005, at 17:04:01
In reply to What is your job?, posted by Angela2 on June 21, 2005, at 23:31:44
I'm a teacher. I love it. I teach in college and my students are wonderful. It would be perfect if I didn't spend more than half of my time doing paperwork. Sigh.
Posted by Susan47 on June 22, 2005, at 21:54:55
In reply to Re: What is your job?, posted by Sonya on June 22, 2005, at 6:45:36
51 is definitely not too late to do something else, to go to school and learn new things. I was 47, that's four years, and I changed my career. Are you just not wanting the challenge? It's pretty darn exciting, you know.
Posted by Susan47 on June 22, 2005, at 21:58:21
In reply to Re: What is your job?, posted by crazyteresa on June 22, 2005, at 12:43:31
Lucky lucky you. My interior decorator friend is always bringing her work home :) She has a lovely home, and it keeps changing... changing colours, changing furniture, changing art and decor .. it's pretty incredible for me to watch what can be done over and over with a living space. You do have a satisfying career, no doubt about it, I'll bet it's a Lot of fun. I know my girlfriend has fun.
Posted by Sonya on June 23, 2005, at 10:01:37
In reply to Re: What is your job? » Sonya, posted by Susan47 on June 22, 2005, at 21:54:55
I guess, deep down, I know it's not too late to change career paths. But I don't handle stress or change well at all and I'm afraid of becoming unstable again if I make any major changes in my life. Then again, if I don't, I feel stuck and not in control. So I plod along feeling apathetic and depressed. Therapy and meds for a number of years hasn't helped. Sorry for throwing myself a pity party.
Posted by Susan47 on June 23, 2005, at 20:50:38
In reply to Re: What is your job? » Susan47, posted by Sonya on June 23, 2005, at 10:01:37
No, I don't think you did throw a pity party, at all. You need to talk about this stuff otherwise how can any of it change? Talking about how you feel is Smart.
Posted by crazyteresa on June 23, 2005, at 21:48:28
In reply to Re: What is your job? » crazyteresa, posted by Susan47 on June 22, 2005, at 21:58:21
My husband was soooo thankful when I started getting paid to spend other people's money! ;~}
I'm in the middle of changing things again at home. Husband tells me I'm spastic because I bounce from one project to another, from this room to the next. Doubt that I'll ever be finished....drives my crazy! But I love it!
Posted by Jazzed on June 23, 2005, at 23:43:24
In reply to Re: What is your job?, posted by justyourlaugh on June 22, 2005, at 13:28:28
> mom, self proclaimed closet artist..
> always wanted to be a paramedic...
> today i am laundry fairy..:(
> j
>This is me too, mom and artist - not very good though. I do it mostly for charities. And, I do not have your talent for writing poetry or understanding sarcasm.
I used to do fraud analysis, and I loved that. But, we moved, I quit, and now I feel pretty useless a lot of days.
Jazzy
Posted by rainbowbrite on June 24, 2005, at 0:27:54
In reply to Re: What is your job?, posted by Jazzed on June 23, 2005, at 23:43:24
>>I used to do fraud analysis
VERY FAScinating!!! how do you get to do that??
Posted by Sonya on June 24, 2005, at 7:14:09
In reply to Re: What is your job? » Sonya, posted by Susan47 on June 22, 2005, at 21:54:55
> 51 is definitely not too late to do something else, to go to school and learn new things. I was 47, that's four years, and I changed my career. Are you just not wanting the challenge? It's pretty darn exciting, you know.
Thanks for your comments/support. Even if I mustered the courage to make changes in my life, I have no idea what else I'd do. I'm not interested in anything (I'm a very dull person).
May I ask, how you got the courage to change careers? What were you doing before and what is your job now?
Posted by AuntieMel on June 24, 2005, at 11:12:45
In reply to Re: What is your job?, posted by Sonya on June 22, 2005, at 6:45:36
I finally got my degree at 36, but there were bunches of people around your age (my current age, too) in school with me.
Posted by caraher on June 24, 2005, at 12:27:46
In reply to Re: Never too late » Sonya, posted by AuntieMel on June 24, 2005, at 11:12:45
I teach college physics... I start my first "permanent" job in August and am finishing my dissertation right now.
I'm 41 years old, ancient by physics standards, but I knew a guy whom I met in a class in 1984 (when I also met my wife, who was back in school for her second bachelor's degree) who spent so long working his way through grad school that initially his goal was to finish before his eldest son graduated from high school. Then it was before the kid graduated college. I think the son still graduated before his father... but anyway, he's in his 50s with a fairly new PhD and doing fine.
You're not too old if you can entertain serious thoughts of going back. The other question is whether you want to go to school for career reasons or just to learn. If it's the former it might not be economically advantageous and thus wiser not to go unless your job satisfaction increases substantially. If the latter you can do it anytime you can afford it (in terms of money and time).
Posted by crazyteresa on June 24, 2005, at 16:20:06
In reply to Re: Never too late » Sonya, posted by AuntieMel on June 24, 2005, at 11:12:45
> I finally got my degree at 36, but there were bunches of people around your age (my current age, too) in school with me.
I love taking college classes when I can fit them into my schedule. The A's I earn are not because I'm somebody's wife or mother or because I work in a certain place. They're about me!
Plus the teachers seem to relate to you better when you're older.
crazy t
Posted by cockeyed on June 25, 2005, at 0:37:26
In reply to What is your job?, posted by Angela2 on June 21, 2005, at 23:31:44
my job is to be sniveling, selfish, conniving, lazy, a pain in the *rse, etc. I am a senior citizen and I hate everything. I'm disabled and am really pretty good at doing nothing all day and really working at it.
But I am a grampa. I MUST babysit. And I really want to express my displeasure with my rotten grandsons and my family. I am not allowed to drink. And I feel the need for the speed of getting really blasted. But I can't. So I'm mad at, angry with, etc. my family. I hate when the phone rings because it's "them" Man, these kids are really busting my chops. I can't keep up with them nor reason with them. Ha! Reason with a kid whose single purpose is to run a game on you. Then I get told by my daughter that I'm "the grown up" and I should be strict and demanding. Blah Blah Blah.
Are there any other rotten grandparents such as I who don't really give an uncivil word about what the little monsters do or don't do as long as they don't bust one's chops. I'm supposed to be lucky but, man, I can't catch them anymore and they triple team me. I try to carry on a serious conversation with any of them and they could care less. Here follows an Uncivil string of epithets.
Next time I "babysit" I'm going to literally sit on each and every one of them. Yeah, and split infinitives also. who ever decided that splitting an infinitive was improper and why did the clowns call it an infinitive. What's infinity have to do with reality anyway? cockeyed. [sorry, had to get this load of codswollop off my chest. Now my bosom can stop heaving]
Posted by crazyteresa on June 25, 2005, at 7:27:35
In reply to Re: What is your job?, posted by cockeyed on June 25, 2005, at 0:37:26
Hi cockeyed,
Why MUST you babysit? You're old enough to do whatever you want to do, and if that means you don't want to babysit, don't. Maybe if you start saying no once in a while you won't feel so used. Just a thought.
crazy t
Posted by crushedout on June 26, 2005, at 10:52:52
In reply to Re: What is your job?, posted by NikkiT2 on June 22, 2005, at 11:22:01
I can't say because I have so many different jobs and they are so unusual that it would destroy my anonymity if anyone I knew ever read this.I hope I'm not being overly paranoid. But I bet there's not another person in the world who does exactly what I do.
Posted by crushedout on June 26, 2005, at 10:54:21
In reply to Re: What is your job?, posted by crazyteresa on June 22, 2005, at 12:43:31
That's fascinating. How did you figure it out? How old are you?
Posted by crushedout on June 26, 2005, at 10:58:09
In reply to Re: What is your job? » Susan47, posted by Sonya on June 23, 2005, at 10:01:37
I totally understand how you feel. Even if you rationally know it's never too late, it's still really hard to take a leap like that. It's scary, and overwhelming, and sometimes it's really easier just to stay put.I think your concerns are truly valid. But it's also good to know that you have the option, if you can find the motivation, which is so hard to do.
Posted by crushedout on June 26, 2005, at 11:06:04
In reply to Re: What is your job?, posted by Jazzed on June 23, 2005, at 23:43:24
what's fraud analysis?
feeling useless sucks.
Posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 18:41:08
In reply to Re: What is your job?, posted by Sonya on June 24, 2005, at 7:14:09
Hi Sonya,
Thank you for asking. I was in a line of policework for a lot of years. The stress of working mostly alone, and otherwise in such lonely proximity to people, drew me away. I had to save my sanity, the work was taking it all. I've been in major depression most of my life, only just got out of it about two years ago, and then in and out but lately mostly better. But in depression I didn't go anywhere, do anything constructive that is, because I didn't have any confidence at all, I knew I was going crackers. I could never ever talk about my job with anybody, the work was highly secret, and extremely triggering and stressful emotionally. Well, and during one of my assessments the officer asked me what I thought about my career and I have to admit I was sarcastic in replying, because a career is something we should be excited about, a career should be full of opportunity, places to go, new things to learn ... this was a job, dead end, nowhere to go, no matter how good the financial compensation .. which was really just middle of the road. Better than most jobs, you know, with great benefits, but I always felt it wasn't worth the personal price I was paying. But I had a kid to raise so I did it, I stuck with it until I got sick for real.
I can't tell the rest right now, I'm beat just getting this far ...
Posted by crazyteresa on June 26, 2005, at 20:28:17
In reply to Re: What is your job?, posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 18:41:08
Were you like Donnie Brasco?
Posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 20:48:23
In reply to Re: What is your job? » Susan47, posted by crazyteresa on June 26, 2005, at 20:28:17
Posted by crazyteresa on June 26, 2005, at 21:21:28
In reply to Who is that? (nm) » crazyteresa, posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 20:48:23
The guy the FBI sent in undercover as a jewel thief to get info on the mob in NYC. He was in so deep he was going to be a "made guy", but he would have had to do a hit for the mob as part of his initiation. FBI pulled him out because they couldn't let him murder anyone.
I love bad boys (from a distance)!
crazy t
Posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 22:50:32
In reply to Re: Who is that? » Susan47, posted by crazyteresa on June 26, 2005, at 21:21:28
Ah. No I wasn't him.
Posted by crazyteresa on June 26, 2005, at 23:10:20
In reply to Re: Who is that? » crazyteresa, posted by Susan47 on June 26, 2005, at 22:50:32
> Ah. No I wasn't him.
I am laughing so hard I have tears streaming down my face because your reply is so non-chalant! I just meant was your job like his.
Posted by Susan47 on June 29, 2005, at 18:58:48
In reply to Re: Who is that? » Susan47, posted by crazyteresa on June 26, 2005, at 23:10:20
Hmm, it's interesting how the tone of a phrase can't be repeated in writing, not always.. it can, but it would be Jane Austen-like writing ... no, my job wasn't anything near like that.. not much, not at all. What was his job again?
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