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Posted by Susan47 on April 12, 2005, at 21:47:39
In reply to Re: Where have I been?? LOL » Susan47, posted by Damos on April 12, 2005, at 17:15:17
omigodican'tbreathe
Posted by anastasia56 on April 13, 2005, at 0:05:13
In reply to TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Damos, posted by Susan47 on April 12, 2005, at 21:47:39
Posted by Susan47 on April 13, 2005, at 9:37:59
In reply to Sex and me, posted by Susan47 on April 11, 2005, at 14:48:55
By the way men have their own version of a G-spot and I understand it's just as good as ours or better. It's their prostrate gland. It can be stimulated manually and it sends them right over the edge ... it would be terrible to be a man and lose a prostate to cancer, so guys, take care of that little gland .. it does a lot for you.
Posted by caraher on April 13, 2005, at 10:08:10
In reply to Sex and Him, posted by Susan47 on April 13, 2005, at 9:37:59
> By the way men have their own version of a G-spot and I understand it's just as good as ours or better. It's their prostrate gland. It can be stimulated manually and it sends them right over the edge ... it would be terrible to be a man and lose a prostate to cancer, so guys, take care of that little gland .. it does a lot for you.
Hmmm... I was wondering if there were some male equivalent. I've certainly heard of the prostrate gland but the only thing I've heard about doing anything manually with it involves doctors and rubber gloves, and precious little pleasure.
Posted by Susan47 on April 13, 2005, at 10:21:56
In reply to Re: Sex and Him, posted by caraher on April 13, 2005, at 10:08:10
I haven't done an internet search on it but IRL I know it's true .. I've always thought that must be part of the attraction driving some men to be bi, you know. The stimulation of that gland during sex. More women ought to know about that ... really. And more men ought to know about our spot, too. Sigh. I'm going to my grave without.
Posted by Tamar on April 13, 2005, at 11:04:34
In reply to Re: Sex and Him, posted by caraher on April 13, 2005, at 10:08:10
> Hmmm... I was wondering if there were some male equivalent. I've certainly heard of the prostrate gland but the only thing I've heard about doing anything manually with it involves doctors and rubber gloves, and precious little pleasure.Yeah, and there's not much pleasure when women go to doctor either, but that's because of the circumstances.
The prostate can be as difficult to access as the G-spot in women, and it can help to use one of the devices that Larry mentioned earlier. But it's essential to exercise caution because unless the device is specifically designed for anal use it could get lost in there, which would entail an embarrassing trip to a doctor!
Posted by Damos on April 13, 2005, at 17:11:54
In reply to TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Damos, posted by Susan47 on April 12, 2005, at 21:47:39
HOORAY!! YIPPEE!! I've finally managed to make a beautiful woman breathless....he,he. =0)
BTW, thanks for the capitalisation Suze, once I'd finished sweeping up what was left of my shattered ego I LMAO and girl you shoulda seen all the heads pop up above the partitions in the internet cafe, it was like a scene from Caddyshack.
Posted by Damos on April 13, 2005, at 17:14:45
In reply to Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! (nm) » Susan47, posted by anastasia56 on April 13, 2005, at 0:05:13
Oh Ana, surely you wouldn't wish that much dissapointment on poor Susan
Posted by Susan47 on April 13, 2005, at 20:18:11
In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! » anastasia56, posted by Damos on April 13, 2005, at 17:14:45
Well it can work both ways, Damos. It can work both ways.
You know it's a nice feeling to think that someone laughed like that at something I said. Very nice. And so far away, too. :-)
Posted by damos on April 13, 2005, at 22:02:01
In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!!, posted by Susan47 on April 13, 2005, at 20:18:11
> Well it can work both ways, Damos. It can work both ways.
I don't think you could ever disappoint me no matter how hard you tried. Oh, and I reckon to handle someone with your beauty, spirit and enthusiasm I'd need to hire a mighty studdly stunt double :-)
> You know it's a nice feeling to think that someone laughed like that at something I said. Very nice. And so far away, too. :-)
And boy did I need it. Without my precious Kiwi friend it's very sad, empty and lonely down here.
Okay you want another laugh? Take 12 from 41 (my age later this year), done it? Okay, now take away from that the years till the first time - 23. doesn't leave much does it? I think I may actually have achieved sexual invisibility.
Posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 0:18:45
In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! » Susan47, posted by damos on April 13, 2005, at 22:02:01
I'm speechless. It puts all my sex-less times into more perspective. What on earth do you do for human closeness? I mean, touch, you know?
Posted by 10derHeart on April 14, 2005, at 13:01:54
In reply to TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Damos, posted by Susan47 on April 12, 2005, at 21:47:39
Alright, Susan dear, you asked for it...sit down now...can't match Damos, I guess, but it'll be 10 years for me this December
And, if I wanted to get more detailed, if I counted from when it was an entirely meaningful experience, in every way possible, the way I believe God intended, well, that would either be never ( :-( ) or at least 21 years ago....
(paper bags to breath into are good for hyperventilating ;-))
PS -and I'm okay with it, 'cause some things are definitely worth waiting for...
Posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 13:23:34
In reply to Re: TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Susan47, posted by 10derHeart on April 14, 2005, at 13:01:54
Sweetheart you grabbed me where I live when you say meaningful in every way possible, "the way God intended" ... I've tried .. I have, but I always got it all wrong, there was something always missing, not where it should have been. I know what to look for now, though, and it was always here, inside myself, waiting for discovery. Trouble is it's not always there, and no one from outside me to reinforce it. That's what a lover is good for. That's what a lover is necessary for. I need a lover.
Posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 13:25:03
In reply to Re: TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Susan47, posted by 10derHeart on April 14, 2005, at 13:01:54
I can be a lover too, now, for the first time since I was eighteen. I remember I was eighteen when my heart was fresh last. It didn't last very long, though. Two months, I think. And it was absolutely incredible.
Posted by Damos on April 14, 2005, at 18:04:07
In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!!, posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 0:18:45
Hmmm. the honest answer to that would be nothing. Last time I had any physical contact with another person would have been Christmas when a friend left to go overseas and she hugged me goodbye as a kinda thank-you for helpoing her out with some stuff. Hate to admit it but is felt really awkward.
Believe it or not I was once told that I give a mean foot massage.
Okay, touch and physical are a MASSIVE issue for me and I'd simply rather not have either if it means not making other people feel awkward or not attractive or just plain letting them down and hurting them. Okay, it's out there now. Sh*t where did all these admission come from
Posted by Damos on April 14, 2005, at 18:09:07
In reply to Re: TWELVE YEARS??? TWELVE YEARS????? » Susan47, posted by 10derHeart on April 14, 2005, at 13:01:54
Oh 10derHeart what a perfect pair we are. I was obviously channeling through you when you posted this. They are my words and experience exactly.
Hope your waiting ends soon and it everything you hope for.
Lots a love.
Posted by Damos on April 14, 2005, at 18:50:19
In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!!, posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 0:18:45
Okay, okay, okay. I can't bear the feeling of desolation, aloneness and hollow emptiness that always accompanied it either. Boy, the truth really sux.
Posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 21:17:33
In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! » Susan47, posted by Damos on April 14, 2005, at 18:50:19
So when you had sex, then, you had bad feelings with it? Because that's what it sounds like, and like you thought you were hurting somebody's feelings or you weren't making someone feel good enough or something.
Posted by damos on April 14, 2005, at 22:06:24
In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!!, posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 21:17:33
How did I wind up revealing all this, I can't believe it. Susan I wish I knew how to explain it, just not sure I can.
On one level there is the fact that I have no concept/understanding/whatever of the physical expression of emotion. Never ever saw my parents hug or kiss and can't remember ever being hugged or kissed by them. Come to think of it, a wacking was about it in terms of physical contact - I'm not talking abuse type wacking though, just your normal naughty kid stuff. Sh*t I can't even remember them expressing affection verbally. I'm getting better I don't actually cringe and pull away now if someone touches me, so that's gotta be good - doesn't it? G*d, I can even remember a girl asking me if I was ever gonna make a 'pass' at her. Sh*t. Never done it to this day, they've always had to start anything.
On another level there's the whole sex thing. Struth Susan I should be paying you a fortune for this. All I can tell you is that there has always been this crushing absence of something I know should be there, desperately want it to be there to share it with this other person, but never has been and it hurts like hell. I have only ever been with 4 women and have loved each of them so very dearly. But there has always been this presence, a presence of something absent if that makes sense. And it's me, I'm not there, I'm missing something important and essential and I really try I do, with every fibre of my being - so I push them away because they deserve better than that or they drift away cause I'm so tied in nots and too much like hard work. And I honestly don't know why I'm telling you this cause I'm shakin' like a leaf and my heart's in my mouth and I can't breathe. Whooooooo. In and of itself it's not that important to me, but that something that it can be a beautiful part of and expression of is, and I'd give anything to know that feeling just once. Enough, enough, enough for now.
Posted by Susan47 on April 15, 2005, at 10:32:31
In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! » Susan47, posted by damos on April 14, 2005, at 22:06:24
My god you are a healthy, loving survivor ... you are so incredibly whole, Damos, inside yourself everything you've survived .. you're incredible. No wonder you're always crying these days .. the dam is finally breaking.. you're getting there, sweetheart .. oh, Damos. Here, a teeny little one until the real thing is acceptable (Damos).
Posted by Susan47 on April 15, 2005, at 10:35:51
In reply to Re: Susan GET ON THAT PLANE QUICK!!! » Susan47, posted by damos on April 14, 2005, at 22:06:24
sex isn't that important to you but as part of something that's whole and beautiful and wonderful to share, that is important .. so the lusting part of sex, the breasts and the soft/hardness and the curves/indentations, the skin and the hair, the smells and moistures .. that isn't important to you? Or you haven't allowed yourself to fully involve ...?
Posted by Susan47 on April 15, 2005, at 13:07:38
In reply to In and of Itself.. Damos, posted by Susan47 on April 15, 2005, at 10:35:51
I better slow down I'm going too fast here 'cause you know what I'm going to bring up next. So I'm not going to. You know. Because it hits a very deep emotional spot in your soul. And it's about you feeling inadequate. Because you know you were inadequately raised. I know this is getting too much for you right now, isn't it? I'll take a break, okay? Bye. And just to remind myself, and remain ubiquitous ...
Posted by Susan47 on April 15, 2005, at 13:27:52
In reply to Re: In and of Itself.. Damos, posted by Susan47 on April 15, 2005, at 13:07:38
Being fully human means being full of contradictions. Because that's the real experience. Yup. Sunny, you hear that? Full, FULL, of contradiction. That's me and I know it.. is that anybody else or am I the only one? I hate it.
Posted by damos on April 15, 2005, at 21:07:09
In reply to Re: In and of Itself.. Damos, posted by Susan47 on April 15, 2005, at 13:07:38
BINGO!!!!!!!!!!
That hit me like a 30 storey building collapsing me late yesterday after the previous post. You know, when something is it but it's not. Lots more to be said, but right now love you Susan and thank you are all that seem important. Oh yeh, I do like all of those things mentioned in your previous post - as I said, lots more to say.
Posted by Susan47 on April 16, 2005, at 15:45:26
In reply to Re: In and of Itself.. Damos » Susan47, posted by damos on April 15, 2005, at 21:07:09
When're you going to say it? I'm really wanting to know everything you're talking about.
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