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Posted by Angela2 on April 4, 2005, at 21:17:53
I didn't even come here to post this. I just came cuz I don't feel like doing anything right now and surfing the web is a mindless self indulgence I sometimes can't break away from. Anyways. I'm sad. I'm feeling down. My boyfriend has more friends than me. They do pot and his roommate always singles me out because I hang out with them but don't smoke. I don't want to admit it, but it's really gotten to me what this kid does. He makes me so uncomfortable! I pretty much just can't stop thinking about it. Maybe this feeling will subside tomorrow. Maybe the sun will come up and the rays of sunshine through my window will melt my rage.
Posted by alexandra_k on April 5, 2005, at 3:58:50
In reply to Hoping things will get better, posted by Angela2 on April 4, 2005, at 21:17:53
I hope things feel better tomorrow too.
It is easy to make friends via drugs.
Instant contacts, instant something in common.
Much harder to make friends without that in common.
Much harder to make friends who will remain your friend when you don't have any.
Much harder to make friends who you want to remain friends with when they don't have any.I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.
Do something nice for yourself.
Go for a walk
Take a bath
Something
Anything
Special for you
'Cause you are worth it.
Posted by PM80 on April 8, 2005, at 7:41:34
In reply to Hoping things will get better, posted by Angela2 on April 4, 2005, at 21:17:53
You sound like a very strong person to not alter your decisions based on what other people want. Your boyfriend's friend sounds like he is very insecure and threatened by the fact that you don't smoke. The problem is him, not you.
Does your boyfriend stick up for you? If he doesn't, is he aware of how much this bothers you? Maybe you should try, even for just a week, not hanging out with those guys, but either hanging out by yourself (you could chill at a bookstore or bum around a mall, or just watch TV) or with any friends/family you do have in your area. It's possible you will feel better in general without that too-frequent negative vibe you've been getting.
Or have you stood up to the friend? He probably thinks he is more enlightened than you, but his actions clearly show that this is not so. You should tell him to stop harrassing you.
Anyway, this is your life and you never HAVE to take something like that. Although, I can understand that sometimes it seems that alternative to a bad thing is even worse; but it rarely actually is. It is totally your decision.
This is the end of the thread.
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