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Posted by tampagirl70 on January 3, 2005, at 12:42:21
Every year I feel sad after the holidays. The decorations come down, the presents are all opened, the bills start coming in, the time off from work is over, the good mood everyone was in is now gone, and a new year comes to remind you that you're getting older. On top of all of this, I'm bored. I'm bored with my life, my job and my marriage. I've been married for almost 9 years ang with my husband for almost 12. There's no spark (that wore off a long time ago) and I get worried that I won't even want to be around him, which has never happened, but thats part of my OCD. I've never had a huge sex drive so I'm always saying I'm not in the mood, and then I feel guilty for not feeling like it. (I take Celexa and Wellbutrin, 2 of the lowest sexual side effects meds out there.) I just feel like I'm floundering and I'm not sure what to do or where to begin. Anyone feel this way or have any advice? Thanks.
Posted by bandoman on January 3, 2005, at 12:55:53
In reply to Post Holiday Blues, posted by tampagirl70 on January 3, 2005, at 12:42:21
Only thing to say is that most of your feelings are shared with the majority of people, not just those with "problems".
I have come to accept that my wife's declining sex drive as just a normal part of the aging process. We are in our mid 40's . I want to go-go-go and she likes once a week. Oh well. Remember your spouse still loves you.As for the yule time thing, I think it's like post-partum depression. An inevitable side effect of all the holly jollyness. It will pass too. Begin by telling yourself it is not abnormal to feel the way you do. Yesterday my 7 year old bought Valentines. She would not take no for an answer, she had to have them. To her it was kind of like, So new years day has come and gone, Whats up next?
Posted by Tabitha on January 3, 2005, at 13:08:36
In reply to Post Holiday Blues, posted by tampagirl70 on January 3, 2005, at 12:42:21
Yes, I hate the post-holiday period. Very hard to drag myself back to work. Plus other deadlines start looming-- income tax preparation, other year's end stuff I need to do. Yuck!
Posted by anastasia56 on January 3, 2005, at 14:18:19
In reply to Post Holiday Blues, posted by tampagirl70 on January 3, 2005, at 12:42:21
my marriage is on the exact same time frame as yours. Good to hear someone else feels the same way about their sex life! my husband starts priming me about pinning down a night a week in advance. Don't know if it's the cymbalta or the years? When Bandoman said his wife only likes it once a week I laughed. My husband would be jumping for joy.
anastasia
Posted by tampagirl70 on January 3, 2005, at 15:12:12
In reply to Re: Post Holiday Blues, posted by anastasia56 on January 3, 2005, at 14:18:19
So would mine!! Once a week and he'd be in heaven. For me, once a month is more than enough. I'm glad to know its not just me. :)
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 3, 2005, at 17:59:39
In reply to Post Holiday Blues, posted by tampagirl70 on January 3, 2005, at 12:42:21
What you feel on post holidays is so normal I am one to really dread and hate the holidays....minus the tree and stuff so I dance for joy when the holidays are gone....But I have read on the post holiday blues. Now on the sex stuff....I have a MUCH higher sex drive then my husband ...he can go months no sex cause he likes way far out sex or is too stressed and well...I am drivng on a different road :)
Posted by SoloOne on January 3, 2005, at 20:46:32
In reply to Re: Post Holiday Blues » tampagirl70, posted by Fallen4MyT on January 3, 2005, at 17:59:39
I'm new. I'm just so... filled with emotion over what is happening here. You guys are so ...
I'm writing here because I have always hated the holidays and can't wait for them to be over, and when they are, I'm depressed as well. This isn't new, but every year it catches me off guard,
So, I'm here reading what you're saying and wanting to lend support and also for someone to listen to me, too, cause I am feeling really alone... tonight.
To give you a bit about me... I've been dealing with anxiety and depression for about 10 years, but probably all my life, and I've been through everything, group therapy, meds, meds, meds,...
A year ago this month I broke up with a man I thought was "the one" who turned out to not be. So that's on my mind, too. I'm 45. So, I wonder if I'll ever...
Sorry to take up so much of your time.
I can so relate to all that you guys are feeling. Take care.
SoloOne.
Posted by tampagirl70 on January 4, 2005, at 13:30:01
In reply to Re: Post Holiday Blues, posted by SoloOne on January 3, 2005, at 20:46:32
Hi Solo - I'm sorry you're so down right now. I know how you feel, kind of. I'm in a funk right now and am hoping to snap out of it soon. During the holidays, or at least the 2 to 3 weeks of the year, I was feeling like my old self. That was probably because I had other things to think about other than the things I tend to obsess about and get anxious about. Now that those things are gone, and my bills and guilt from Xmax purchases are starting to appear, I have a new set of thoughts. It never ends...
Posted by SoloOne on January 5, 2005, at 9:08:19
In reply to Re: Post Holiday Blues » SoloOne, posted by tampagirl70 on January 4, 2005, at 13:30:01
Thanks so much for replying. You're so right about old concerns coming back after a couple of weeks of distraction. Just writing that post really helped me, you know. Isn't that strange? I noticed that I felt a lot better afterwards.
You're right... it never ends. One day at a time, right? Hang in there.
SoloOne
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