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Posted by Sebastian on July 17, 2004, at 20:40:11
I'm at home drinking beer. I wish I were out at a club. I too old. (I'm 28). I know, I just feel old. I have no freinds.
Posted by Sebastian on July 17, 2004, at 20:48:28
In reply to I need help, posted by Sebastian on July 17, 2004, at 20:40:11
I've been out of any social scenes for 3 years now. I can't get myself out of the house. When I do I don't have fun. I don't know how to take risks anymore. I don't use drugs anymore. What do I do. Ahhh..
Posted by ghost on July 17, 2004, at 20:53:34
In reply to what does a guy my age do?, posted by Sebastian on July 17, 2004, at 20:48:28
you msg a lonely 26 yr old on msn (ghost@twism.net), yahoo (agirlnamedghost), or aol (crazychemgrrl) who's pathetically home with her parents on a saturday night and doesn't get out to have fun any more either. that's what you do.
Posted by ghost on July 17, 2004, at 20:58:34
In reply to Re: what does a guy my age do?, posted by ghost on July 17, 2004, at 20:53:34
maybe that sounded presumptuous.
i guess i'm just lonely.
Posted by Sebastian on July 17, 2004, at 21:01:26
In reply to Re: what does a guy my age do?, posted by ghost on July 17, 2004, at 20:58:34
You are cool, lets talk? 26 is about my age. Should I try the other links you sent?
Posted by ghost on July 17, 2004, at 21:02:04
In reply to Re: what does a guy my age do?, posted by Sebastian on July 17, 2004, at 21:01:26
sure thing. message me away :)
Posted by jay on July 18, 2004, at 0:23:13
In reply to I need help, posted by Sebastian on July 17, 2004, at 20:40:11
> I'm at home drinking beer. I wish I were out at a club. I too old. (I'm 28). I know, I just feel old. I have no freinds.
Too OLD! Bahhh..I am almost 35, have no friends...no girlfriend...and trying to "start all over again." That's why you gotta fight this disease...use whatever...meds, love, hope, everything! Don't be afraid to take your meds...you will find it *will* get better. But, first, you won't notice it because you are so used of being depressed. Second, changes will be gradual, and won't all come at once. You WILL surprise yourself with how far you can go...your strength...us folks with mental illness gotta run *the long run*, while most folks just cruise through life. It makes *us* with mental illness ready to JUMP ahead of those without.Peace and strength bro....
The sun DOES rise..Jay (with a nod to Karen_kay for her zippyness and 'make me feel good' values:-)
Posted by Indie on July 18, 2004, at 13:42:47
In reply to what does a guy my age do?, posted by Sebastian on July 17, 2004, at 20:48:28
Hi Sebastian,
I am affraid the only solution is to keep up with your meds and FORCE yourself out of the house. I know...it is much easier said than done, but it is important. If you trully have no friends anymore, join a club...an athletic club, a book club, a singles club...anything that you enjoy doing. I too have an extreme tendancy to isolate, especially these days but I make myself go out now and again so that I don't loose the friends that I still have. Keep up with a pdoc and take care of yourself!! It will pass, but you have to fight it rather than give in.
If you can sociallize without going to bars it is better because the alcohol is not good for you, but I occasionally have 2 or 3 drinks just so I feel confident enough to socialize. Just don't drink too much...the hangovers are deadly!!
Good luck!!
Indie
> I've been out of any social scenes for 3 years now. I can't get myself out of the house. When I do I don't have fun. I don't know how to take risks anymore. I don't use drugs anymore. What do I do. Ahhh..
Posted by TexasChic on July 22, 2004, at 13:38:10
In reply to I need help, posted by Sebastian on July 17, 2004, at 20:40:11
I'm in the same boat except I'm 34! I'm kinda like Jai, starting over. Its difficult once you get in the rut of being a recluse. I'm still fighting that battle. But its like Indie said, you really do have to force yourself. I've ended up having alot of fun after forcing myself to go somewhere (when I thought I'd rather just sit home alone and watch TV). Just leave yourself an out so you can leave if you're not having fun.
I've been trying to find ways to meet people (other than bars). Here's what I've come up with so far:
• www.meetup.com - A really cool site that allows people to join a group with a particular interest and then arrange get togethers.
• Take a class at the Junior College - It doesn't have to be for credit. There's all kinds of things you can take.
• Church groups - Not my thing, but people always suggest it, so it must work for some.
• Volunteer Work - You're bound to meet someone plus you're doing a good deed!
• Join a club out of the newspaper - They always have something for cyclist or hiking or something.
Anyway, don't feel alone, many of us here are in the same boat. Take care!
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