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Posted by tabitha on February 29, 2004, at 22:39:01
Well I had a date with a guy Friday, and today I sent him a little email saying thanks, I had fun, etc. Later in the day I wrote an email to a close friend, which included a paragraph reporting on how the date went and saying what I *really* thought of the date. Somehow I managed to accidentally send that email not to my close friend but to the date guy. I just could not believe it. I looked in horror at my outbox. I tried to unsend but it was not possible since we're on different ISPs.
So then I called the date guy's cell #, and got an anonymous voicemail, I'm not even sure it's his, since he gave me the number a long time ago and I've never called him before. I hung up, then after a few minutes called back and left a somewhat rambling message explaining I had sent him an email by accident that was intended for a close friend and would he please do me a favor and not read it since it was kind of personal. Of course I know he'll read it. Who wouldn't?
I called my close friend to tell him this comical tale.. he just kept saying I can't believe you did that. I can't believe you did that. I read him the email and he pointed out that as mis-sent emails go, it could have been a lot worse.
I think I need to go lie down in a dark room.
Posted by Dinah on February 29, 2004, at 23:56:24
In reply to Worst Social Gaffe Ever, posted by tabitha on February 29, 2004, at 22:39:01
Well, maybe not the *worst* ever. But embarassing enough. :(
On the bright side though, if the date went that badly it's probably no great loss. And if it didn't go that badly, you probably didn't say anything too awful.
Is this someone you'll be forced to run into again?
Posted by tabitha on March 1, 2004, at 0:28:51
In reply to Re: Worst Social Gaffe Ever » tabitha, posted by Dinah on February 29, 2004, at 23:56:24
I gave the date a mixed review. It could have been worse. At least I didn't comment on his appearance or anything terribly personal like that.
It's someone I knew from work, and I may well run across him again. I was hoping not to lose the friendship at least. I do enjoy staying in touch with him just to talk about career stuff.
It's just plain embarrassing that he'll know I was calling it a date and talking it over with a friend. It was kind of ambiguous as to whether it was a date or just a friend thing anyway. Now he'll know I was sizing up his potential.
The main thing is I can't believe I did that and I feel like an idiot! First the email error, then the rambling phone message to compound it and expose more of my embarrassment. Sheesh.
So everyone... check that recipient in those personal emails! Then double-check it.
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on March 1, 2004, at 8:38:29
In reply to Worst Social Gaffe Ever, posted by tabitha on February 29, 2004, at 22:39:01
O No! I have done this several times and it is so mortifying. Hopefully he'll have a sense of humor about it. The good thing is you didn't say anything BAD about him!
Posted by tabitha on March 1, 2004, at 10:16:37
In reply to Re: Worst Social Gaffe Ever, posted by Miss Honeychurch on March 1, 2004, at 8:38:29
> O No! I have done this several times and it is so mortifying. Hopefully he'll have a sense of humor about it. The good thing is you didn't say anything BAD about him!
Glad I'm not the only one who's done this. But I may never send a personal email again! Well I did say sort of critical things about him.. but it could have been worse. My male friend who heard it said if he got this review after a date he'd be OK with it. Or maybe he was just trying to make me feel better.
I hope he can see the humor.
Posted by Wildflower on March 1, 2004, at 11:36:27
In reply to Worst Social Gaffe Ever, posted by tabitha on February 29, 2004, at 22:39:01
Oh, I've done this before. It's absolutly embarrassing but it happens to the best of us. Just be thankful that you didn't send it to a coworker...
Posted by Medusa on March 1, 2004, at 13:07:08
In reply to Worst Social Gaffe Ever, posted by tabitha on February 29, 2004, at 22:39:01
> saying what I *really* thought of the date.
>Is this such a bad thing? Is some part of you trying to get your authentic voice out in the open?
In a case where this was an ideal guy with relationship potential, I'd think he could run with the real stuff, and offer some real-ness of his own.
That said, I truly get how mortifying this is when it's happened to +you+.
> I think I need to go lie down in a dark room.
I feel your pain ...
Posted by jay on March 1, 2004, at 14:15:56
In reply to Worst Social Gaffe Ever, posted by tabitha on February 29, 2004, at 22:39:01
Ya...well beat this...did you ever "break wind" on a date?? :-) Sorry...it's a guys worst fear..lol. I've been lucky...(touch wood!)
Jay
Posted by tabitha on March 1, 2004, at 22:19:10
In reply to well .... » tabitha, posted by Medusa on March 1, 2004, at 13:07:08
> > saying what I *really* thought of the date.
> >
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> Is this such a bad thing? Is some part of you trying to get your authentic voice out in the open?Interesting interpretation. You can't help thinking there's some Freudian slip type of thing happening here.
Or it's just a flat-out self-destructive f*ck-up, since I was really glad to have a new social contact, and now it may be ruined.
Posted by fayeroe on March 2, 2004, at 19:52:00
In reply to Re: well .... » Medusa, posted by tabitha on March 1, 2004, at 22:19:10
It could have been much worse. You could have said something truly horrible about him! If he's cool, he'll have a good laugh and if not~~~~~oh, well.........
Posted by Medusa on March 4, 2004, at 9:47:22
In reply to Re: well .... » Medusa, posted by tabitha on March 1, 2004, at 22:19:10
> Or it's just a flat-out self-destructive f*ck-up, since I was really glad to have a new social contact, and now it may be ruined.
>self-fulfilling prophecy, you mean?
Posted by Dinah on March 4, 2004, at 10:04:28
In reply to Worst Social Gaffe Ever, posted by tabitha on February 29, 2004, at 22:39:01
If he handled it well, I think it's a good indicator for a potential new friend.
Posted by tabitha on March 4, 2004, at 23:08:37
In reply to Have you heard anything? » tabitha, posted by Dinah on March 4, 2004, at 10:04:28
Well, could be he just deleted the email like I asked. Or he read it and laughed. Or he read it and got p*ssed off. No word from him.. but it's normal for us to go a long time between contact anyway.. so basically it's impossible to tell anything by the silence.
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