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Posted by Dr. Bob on January 5, 2004, at 22:46:28
In reply to A Really black day , posted by Cajunbelle on January 5, 2004, at 15:59:28
> Just felt the need to post..Not sure about what.I feel so overwhelmed with the need to cry.Days like this I cant help but wonder "Is the Lexapro really working"? My 18 yr old son was arrested this weekend and charged with a dui...My therapist that I have been seeing for the past 12 yrs just informed me that she is retiring next month...She has been my safety net through the hardest moments of my life..now what? at this moment I feel that I have no control over anything in my life and Im so afraid. God I hate feeling this way. I just need someone to vent to, someone to listen and really hear what I am saying.The weather here is dark,grey,and gloomey,and I know that has an effect on the way I feel.I am so thankful to have found this bored..A place where I can come to and express what I am feeling without the risk of being judged or ridiculed..Thanks everyone for helping in giving us all this special place :)
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> Cajunbelle
Posted by naiad on January 6, 2004, at 8:09:05
In reply to A Really black day « Cajunbelle, posted by Dr. Bob on January 5, 2004, at 22:46:28
Cajunbelle,
Hope you are feeling a little better today. You definitely have reason to feel awful, considering your son's dui and your therapist's retirement. How long have you been on Lexapro? Have you thought about calling your pdoc?
I can relate to those feelings of being overwhemed by sadness. The past year was hellish for me and even though I have been in therapy for 9 months, I have times that I feel like gving up.
I have decided to take anti-depressants because I am so tired of being sad so much of the time.This a a good place to be. There is wisdom , compassion and even humor here, which really has helped me.
Take care...my thoughts are with you.
Posted by LynneDa on January 6, 2004, at 10:55:36
In reply to A Really black day « Cajunbelle, posted by Dr. Bob on January 5, 2004, at 22:46:28
Hi Cajunbelle - Hope you're feeling better today. We have sun up here so maybe you do too. Sorry to hear about your son, though. Lessons learned are hard on everyone, not just the student! Hang in there and give the Lex some more time - I hope it makes you feel better. It's amazing what it's done for me. It's really just the small things. Like, I filled the soap containers in all the bathrooms this weekend and dusted my dresser for the first time in 2 years. I went the whole day yesterday without having to call my husband once! My 7-year old was very sassy/disobedient last night and I didn't dissolve into a screaming rage. I made a regular dinner for the last 3 nights in a row. These are the little things I notice in my life that have changed since I've been on medication. I know they seem small, but they are important markers in my recovery and show in small ways how i am getting control back in my life. I hope you can find a small positive thing or 2 to help you get through your black days! Hang in there, you can do this!
~ Lynne
Posted by fallsfall on January 6, 2004, at 14:29:56
In reply to Re: A Really black day, posted by LynneDa on January 6, 2004, at 10:55:36
12 years with a therapist. That sounds wonderful.
I had 8 1/2 with mine, and I thought that no other therapist could possibly compare to her. But I've been with a new one 6 months now and I like him very much. It takes a lot of time to get a new therapist up to speed, but I find it really helpful to have a different viewpoint after all this time.
Do a good search for a new therapist. Decide if you want the same kind of therapy (i.e. CBT, Psychodynamic, Humanistic etc). You know enough about therapy so that when you meet with a potential therapist you will have a sense as to whether you can work with them or not. You can interview as many therapists as you would like. Just because you see them once doesn't mean you have to stay with them. Screen them on the phone first to avoid wasting your time and theirs.
Just remember that you are looking for a new therapist - not a clone of your old therapist. I find the differences between the two to be quite valuable.
Good luck!!! Can she support you until you are settled with a new therapist?
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 6, 2004, at 23:43:31
In reply to A Really black day « Cajunbelle, posted by Dr. Bob on January 5, 2004, at 22:46:28
Posted by Laree on January 5, 2004, at 22:48:25
In reply to A Really black day , posted by Cajunbelle on January 5, 2004, at 15:59:28
I have bad seasonal affective disorder/depression, and it's been sooo crappy out where I live lately as well. I am also on Lexapro--but I have found it does work best for my SAD. Here's another thing that works--my artifical sunlight panel, lol.
Yesterday I kept this quote in my head when things were super gloomy out:
"Somedays in a daze there's brighter days..."
--that's a line in a song i really like. i hope it helps you feel a bit better, i know it has helped me. I've got some other helpful lines, too:
"At times, I get these beautiful thoughts/the clearest of visions/enlightened, and so full of understanding/this feeling motivates me to wake up another day with the inspiration to chase the dream that lives inside my head/then along come the clouds bringing thunder & rain, & I don't see where I'm going.../it happens now & then/ but the sun will shine again/it's so nice to see my friends/the fun will never end/the sun goes down & then the stars will shine again/doesn't it feel good to know the love will never end?/i was told to swallow pills designed for clarity/i didn't want to believe/could there be something wrong indeed?/and in retrospect, i've no regrets/i know what to expect since i've found awareness to be the key unlocking me/and i welcome rain, it could thunder all day, enlightning in my brain/it happens now & then.../and the sun will shine again/through the darkest of days don't let them bring you down/don't lose your faith/the haze will clear to a rainbow/you'll have found you're pot of gold..."
--B.A. (that's a song a friend of mine wrote, actually)
Best,
L.
Posted by CajunBelle on January 20, 2004, at 21:20:21
In reply to Re: A Really black day, posted by fallsfall on January 6, 2004, at 14:29:56
>Hi, and Thank You all for your support.This is week 9 on 1 mgs of Lexapro and as of right now,It sucks.I have my first appt with the new therapist/Dr in the morning.Said goodbye last week to my old one,which was so hard,I cried all day.Im am hopeful that tomorrow will be very positive for me.I am really confussed right now about the Lexapro...Is 9 weeks long enough to know that its going to wrk or not? Seems that I felt better on 7 1/2 mgs,but my family doc said its not possible..bye the way I have ditched him as of last week...If he isnt on some serious meds,then he REALLY needs to be..He seems more outta wack than I am..Anyways the new therapist that I start seeing tomorrow can also do my meds so wish me luck and Thanks again :)
(((((HUGS EVERYONE))))
Cajun12 years with a therapist. That sounds wonderful.
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> I had 8 1/2 with mine, and I thought that no other therapist could possibly compare to her. But I've been with a new one 6 months now and I like him very much. It takes a lot of time to get a new therapist up to speed, but I find it really helpful to have a different viewpoint after all this time.
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> Do a good search for a new therapist. Decide if you want the same kind of therapy (i.e. CBT, Psychodynamic, Humanistic etc). You know enough about therapy so that when you meet with a potential therapist you will have a sense as to whether you can work with them or not. You can interview as many therapists as you would like. Just because you see them once doesn't mean you have to stay with them. Screen them on the phone first to avoid wasting your time and theirs.
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> Just remember that you are looking for a new therapist - not a clone of your old therapist. I find the differences between the two to be quite valuable.
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> Good luck!!! Can she support you until you are settled with a new therapist?
Posted by fallsfall on January 20, 2004, at 23:32:56
In reply to Re: A Really black day » fallsfall, posted by CajunBelle on January 20, 2004, at 21:20:21
Let us know how it goes!
I'm cheering you on.
Posted by LynneDa on January 21, 2004, at 9:16:58
In reply to Re: A Really black day » CajunBelle, posted by fallsfall on January 20, 2004, at 23:32:56
Same here Cajunbelle - I'll be interested to hear how you do! I think 9 weeks is long enough to judge whether your dosage is working, unless there are extenuating circumstances. I upped from 10 to 20mg at 10 weeks and I'm glad I did.
~ Lynne
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> Let us know how it goes!
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> I'm cheering you on.
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