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Posted by KellyD on November 1, 2003, at 21:26:19
This probably belongs on adm., but I tend to avoid that area. I really just want an "ear" to hear me. Has anyone posted, their own or to another, and felt like someone was using the plights and complaints get what feels like "advertising" for something? For anyone tempted to let me know this is a public forum - I know, I know, but that kind of activity still makes me feel a bit violated.
I welcome personal stories and "what worked for me" stuff and appreciate that. I received that on a post of my own. But an answer to my post to another's on the same subject, well, felt "funny".
I don't know what I want to accomplish with this post but to vent and know how others feel about this activity.
Kelly
Posted by deirdrehbrt on November 1, 2003, at 22:10:45
In reply to Ok, major venting----, posted by KellyD on November 1, 2003, at 21:26:19
Kelly,
I don't know if I'm the one who sort of stepped on toes; I'm kind of new here, and don't know all of the mores. If I did, I apologize, and ask that you point out to me where I did so, so that I can avoid doing it again.
If I understood correctly, I think that what you were talking about is when you start a thread, and someone usurps that thread for their own issues. I can see where a thread one started would feel somewhat personal. I look at the ones I started when I am just doing a quick check-in, and don't want to read everything. It does make sense to start a new thread when one begins to feel a need to discuss her / his own issues in someone else's thread.
Again, I don't know if I am the one responsible, but will keep your feelings in mind in the future.
Dee.
Posted by KellyD on November 1, 2003, at 22:26:51
In reply to Re: Ok, major venting---- » KellyD, posted by deirdrehbrt on November 1, 2003, at 22:10:45
d,
I think I should clarify, this was a med issue I questioned and added to on Med board. It was regarding some side effects to a med. What I got was a weird answer to something I posted to. Didn't happen here at all. I really like social and am known to go off on my own on other's threads, too. No, even if I begin a thread, it doesn't bother me to have it just take a path. So, no apology is necessary at all.
I just don't like for someone to post me a "cure" and that is found more on med and alternative boards. I guess I posted here because I always enjoy what people here have to say. I love others expressing opinions and what helped them. I just don't like someone trying to "sell" me something or "sell" me on something.
I hope that's a bit clearer. No problem with you at all, sorry for the confusion.
Kelly
Posted by jay on November 2, 2003, at 3:14:34
In reply to Ok, major venting----, posted by KellyD on November 1, 2003, at 21:26:19
> This probably belongs on adm., but I tend to avoid that area. I really just want an "ear" to hear me. Has anyone posted, their own or to another, and felt like someone was using the plights and complaints get what feels like "advertising" for something? For anyone tempted to let me know this is a public forum - I know, I know, but that kind of activity still makes me feel a bit violated.
> I welcome personal stories and "what worked for me" stuff and appreciate that. I received that on a post of my own. But an answer to my post to another's on the same subject, well, felt "funny".
> I don't know what I want to accomplish with this post but to vent and know how others feel about this activity.
> Kelly
Kelly...maybe it's my drug pumpin' brain, but I don't quite get what you mean...sorry. Could you give an example? The only thing I can think of is - Someone posts that they have "figured it out" *all* of the time. Is that what you mean? Please let me know..Thanks..
Jay
Posted by Medusa on November 2, 2003, at 3:37:48
In reply to Ok, major venting----, posted by KellyD on November 1, 2003, at 21:26:19
I know what you mean.
It looks like the specific situation you were reacting to has been resolved, but what you were concerned about happens not infrequently.
Posted by KellyD on November 2, 2003, at 6:46:16
In reply to Kinda confused.. » KellyD, posted by jay on November 2, 2003, at 3:14:34
What I'm speaking of is: when there is a post that "baits" on a diagnosis or symptom ie: "Does anyone have XYZ disorder or XYZ symptom?" and I post a "Yes, I have that" and the next post is to advertise a product or service. My recent situation, I misread, but I have seen it happen, as I described, several times.
I just feel violated and kinda preyed upon when that occurs.
Posted by KellyD on November 2, 2003, at 6:49:03
In reply to I hear you, Kelly, posted by Medusa on November 2, 2003, at 3:37:48
Thank you for realizing what I was trying to say. I swear my ability to convey my thoughts is slipping! Yes, I did misread the recent one. But, that type of posting just bothers me.
Kelly
Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2003, at 8:52:57
In reply to Ok, major venting----, posted by KellyD on November 1, 2003, at 21:26:19
I don't read meds or alternative board that much, but could it just be that someone is a recent convert to something and wants to share their joyous discovery?
If I see someone post about migraines, I'm liable at the moment to sing the praises of going to a headache specialist, and especially triptans. :) If the biofeedback goes well, I'm likely to be seeing it as the answer to things. I often tout CBT for OCD, or DBT for borderline personality disorder (and most everything else).
Posted by KellyD on November 2, 2003, at 9:25:13
In reply to Re: Ok, major venting---- » KellyD, posted by Dinah on November 2, 2003, at 8:52:57
I don't have a problem with that (true sharing), I really don't. It's the "buy this $145.00 2 week supply" of something or "buy this course for $200.00" and be cured.
I may be missing the best treatments of my life, but-----
It's usually a one time poster and I should just get over it, but sometimes I can't help being offended and off put. Just me.
I do appreciate being able to vent about it and being "heard" (agree with what I think or not, it's acknowledgement!). That helps the most for me!
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