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Posted by notagain on February 22, 2003, at 21:49:30
my boyfreind left to leave the country for a long time more than six months and we broke up before he left a few weeks ago. i was upset and went out and had a coupe drinks and was talking ot this guy i dindt relaly know at this party and went back to his house and we were hanging out and everything was fine then i got uncomfortbale and wanted to leave and he raped me and now i missed my period and donrt now what to do. and im on diffrernt drugs like a ssri and an ap adn im scared to do a pregnacty test because im afraid what it might say so im just staying home scared and scared to tell my doctors but i did tell my pdoc that i misse dmy period. just i didnt tell him what happened. should i tell him?
sorry to write this here i write here sometimes but a diffrernt name and i just wanted to be anonymous i hope thatis allowed.
thanks.
Posted by justyourlaugh on February 22, 2003, at 22:01:21
In reply to somethign bad happened, posted by notagain on February 22, 2003, at 21:49:30
not,
go get test,
dont worry and speculate until you have a possitive result...
post soon not...
jyl
Posted by notagain on February 22, 2003, at 22:37:00
In reply to Re: somethign bad happened » notagain, posted by justyourlaugh on February 22, 2003, at 22:01:21
i know you are right i just cant even leave the house right now. ill try to do it tomorrow. i just feel sick inside. i dont think i am pregnant my doc said that theese meds can make you miss your period. its just so bad if i am. i feel like am in a tailspin even without the worry. and i dont know how to get out of it.
Posted by elbee on February 22, 2003, at 23:08:49
In reply to Re: somethign bad happened, posted by notagain on February 22, 2003, at 22:37:00
Notagain, It sounds like you've been through a horrible experience and have a lot on your mind. Maybe it would be helpful to have a real live person to talk to as well to suport you during this time. Have you called your local rape crisis center or women's center? I would think they would offer confidential and, hopefully, very supportive help to you. This is probably too much to deal with on your own, so I hope you do yourself a favor and hook up with them also. You wouldn't have to leave home or make any big decisions--just call.
Posted by notagain on February 22, 2003, at 23:21:32
In reply to Re: somethign bad happened » notagain, posted by elbee on February 22, 2003, at 23:08:49
hi elbee mabye i will call them. i am having paranoia right now too so its hard and i feel like everyone can hear thtough my walls in my house and i dont want anyone to know. thanks for writing i will try to call a womens center. im sorry
Posted by Dinah on February 23, 2003, at 10:25:04
In reply to Re: somethign bad happened, posted by notagain on February 22, 2003, at 23:21:32
Elbee's right, notagain. You do need to be in touch with real life people who will know how to help you.
And you really should tell your doctor. He's there to help you and he needs all the information to do that.
I'm sorry you had to go through that.
Posted by Gracie2 on February 23, 2003, at 14:49:34
In reply to somethign bad happened, posted by notagain on February 22, 2003, at 21:49:30
Baby, PLEASE get to a doctor right away! You need help, immediate help, and if you don't get help soon this terrible thing might destroy you, it won't go away by itself.Tomorrow is Monday, go see your family doctor as soon as possible. Tell him exactly what happened.
You need a pregnancy test and you need tests to rule out any venereal disease this scumbag might have left you with. It's not your fault! Please don't allow some sick bastard to ruin your whole life.You also need to see a psychiatrist right away and get into therapy to help you cope with this.
Please, please go! It will help you to heal.
-Gracie
Posted by notagain on February 23, 2003, at 22:09:31
In reply to Re: somethign bad happened » notagain, posted by Dinah on February 23, 2003, at 10:25:04
hi dinah
im scared my doc will quit seeing me becaue i get myself into these situations. i saw him tuesday just 5 days ago and didnt tell him any of it just htat i was feeling horrible and he thinks its beucase my boyfriend moved away. Tomorrow is monday maybe i will call him tomorrow. I did call him fridya and say i missed my period and was afraid in case maybe i shouldnt take my medicine. I just feel very very mad at myslef and very very stupid.
i hate myself right now and feel sick inside.
thanks for writing it feels better to know people are out there.
notagain
Posted by notagain on February 23, 2003, at 22:13:49
In reply to Oh my God!, posted by Gracie2 on February 23, 2003, at 14:49:34
hi gracie,
thanks for writing. imafraid to tell my pdoc. i never see my regular doctor so i dont feel comfortable telling him and my pdoc im scared he wont see me anymore and i think he is the only competent one at my hmo. so im scared he will fire me as a patient. i just feel really sick and awful and horrible. and worthless. i told my pdoc i missed my period and was afraid maybe pregnant. but i dont want the test yet im waiting for my period hoping it will come soon. i will try to call my pdoc tomorrow and try to tell him what i can. im just really paranoid too right now.
notagain
Posted by JohnV on February 23, 2003, at 22:24:56
In reply to somethign bad happened, posted by notagain on February 22, 2003, at 21:49:30
As others have said..get your test *asap*..and you "always" have options, and don't let anybody tell you you don't. (around pregnancy). Your body...your right!As Gracie said, get emergency psychiatric help and possibly a support group. Your "physical" problems can be looked after, but it is your mental health that is on #1 importance.
Posted by Dinah on February 23, 2003, at 22:26:15
In reply to Re: somethign bad happened, posted by notagain on February 23, 2003, at 22:09:31
Hi notagain,
Let's take this step by step. Do you have any reason to believe that your pdoc will fire you? They usually don't you know. If you didn't have problems you wouldn't be seeing him.
Has he expressed concern over you putting yourself in dangerous situations? Has he threatened to fire you?
So often we're afraid to tell our mental health professionals the very things we most need to tell them. They can't help us unless they do.
My therapist has told me that he'll never be angry or fire me for telling him something he needs to know. Does your pdoc feel the same way?
Is your pdoc also your therapist? If not, do you have someone else to talk to? Really, Elbee was right. You should contact a woman's center - people who are specially trained to help you with this.
Please take care of yourself. Don't let your fear stand in the way of your best interests. I know it's hard, but you can do it.
Posted by notagain on February 24, 2003, at 1:21:04
In reply to Re: somethign bad happened » notagain, posted by JohnV on February 23, 2003, at 22:24:56
hi john,
thanks for writing. i will try to get the test. as soon as i can. i know i i have options i just i just am a little overwelmed right now. im schizoaffective and my sympotms are getting worse. i am paranoid and distrustful and dont want to be around people to much right now. but i have to some. and anxious.
notagian
Posted by notagain on February 24, 2003, at 1:26:40
In reply to Re: somethign bad happened » notagain, posted by Dinah on February 23, 2003, at 22:26:15
he hasnt threatened to fire me. i just am paranoid. he sent me to someone else before for second opinon and ever since ive been afraid that he will send me away. but im so scared that he will not see me and he has helped me more than anyone. i have a therpist and social worker and they are good too but dont feel quite as comfortable with them. they are good for getting me through day to day stuff but i dont tell them really personal things.
i will try to call my pdoc tomorrow and talk to him about what happened. if only atleast to say that something bad happened and i needhelp. thanks for your caring post dinah i am feleing like im sinking and it really helps to have people helping. i dont feel worth caring for right now, thanks so much for being so nice to me.
Posted by tina on February 24, 2003, at 8:42:49
In reply to Re: somethign bad happened, posted by notagain on February 24, 2003, at 1:26:40
Feeling paranoid is a completely normal response to what you've been through. Like someone here said, try to call a help line or women's health centre. Even an anonymous clinic, then you wouldn't feel so much like someone might find out....you won't know anyone but you'd get the help you need.
I'm so so sorry this happened to you. You didn't "get yourself into" this, this was an attack against you. None of it was your fault. Please call someone, a crisis line if nothing else.
and remember to breathe. Just breathe.
warm thoughts
tina
Posted by notagain on February 25, 2003, at 1:26:14
In reply to Re: somethign bad happened » notagain, posted by tina on February 24, 2003, at 8:42:49
thanks tina,
i talked to my pdoc today. thanks for writing. i am going to talk to him agian tomorrow. i kno its notmy fault but deep down inside i feel like it is.
notagain
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