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Posted by mikhail99 on December 23, 2002, at 20:51:18
I don't know if anyone has this problem but my depression frequently causes problems in my marriage. My husband just cannot fathom how a depressed mind works and it doesn't do any good to try and explain. He's known me for FOURTEEN years and the fact that I'm introverted and uncomfortable around people continues to astound him. He told me tonight that I lack compassion for my fellow man and that I'm mean to people. I understand and accept that I am impatient at times but I think I'm pretty empathetic and able to give people the benefit of the doubt. I go above and beyond to be polite to people in public, even when they're not polite to me. What else can I do? Ask the jerkass who has just cut me off how his day is going? I'm not going to go into the source of this argument, it's too ridiculous. I just feel like he doesn't know me at all. And of course I don't see my therapist until the 6th of January...sigh.
Just venting...sorry if this comes across as silly.
Posted by Dinah on December 23, 2002, at 22:43:06
In reply to Here we go again..., posted by mikhail99 on December 23, 2002, at 20:51:18
Sorry, Mikhail. Not silly at all. Sometimes our loved ones can hurt us so deeply, if only because we think they should know us better. I guess that's why I tend to detach a bit. Do you think it would help to tell him how much that hurt after everything has cooled down? No point when tempers are high, I know.
I hate it when my therapist is unavailable. Somehow just the knowledge that I can't reach him seems to make everything seem worse. I think he's figured that out, and just today told me I could call him while he's away on Christmas vacation. And of course, I won't, because things won't seem so bad if I know I can. I don't know if I explained that well.
Posted by Mikhail99 on December 24, 2002, at 9:23:37
In reply to Re: Here we go again... » mikhail99, posted by Dinah on December 23, 2002, at 22:43:06
> Sorry, Mikhail. Not silly at all. Sometimes our loved ones can hurt us so deeply, if only because we think they should know us better. I guess that's why I tend to detach a bit. Do you think it would help to tell him how much that hurt after everything has cooled down? No point when tempers are high, I know.
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> I hate it when my therapist is unavailable. Somehow just the knowledge that I can't reach him seems to make everything seem worse. I think he's figured that out, and just today told me I could call him while he's away on Christmas vacation. And of course, I won't, because things won't seem so bad if I know I can. I don't know if I explained that well.
Dinah, you did explain that well, sometimes when we know we CAN reach them, that's enough to keep us holding on. I wish I could call him, maybe I will the day after Christmas. I'm upset with him too because I called him to ask a question last week and he never got back to me.If I thought my husband had the insight to realize how much he hurt me, I'd probably try to explain but I feel like detaching now, I don't want anything to do with someone who thinks I'm not a good person. And what perfect timing, right at Christmas! He takes the freaking cake.
Thanks for your post, I really needed to "hear" (read?) some kind words. I hope you have a good Holiday!
Take care!
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