Posted by Mikhail99 on December 24, 2002, at 9:23:37
In reply to Re: Here we go again... » mikhail99, posted by Dinah on December 23, 2002, at 22:43:06
> Sorry, Mikhail. Not silly at all. Sometimes our loved ones can hurt us so deeply, if only because we think they should know us better. I guess that's why I tend to detach a bit. Do you think it would help to tell him how much that hurt after everything has cooled down? No point when tempers are high, I know.
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> I hate it when my therapist is unavailable. Somehow just the knowledge that I can't reach him seems to make everything seem worse. I think he's figured that out, and just today told me I could call him while he's away on Christmas vacation. And of course, I won't, because things won't seem so bad if I know I can. I don't know if I explained that well.
Dinah, you did explain that well, sometimes when we know we CAN reach them, that's enough to keep us holding on. I wish I could call him, maybe I will the day after Christmas. I'm upset with him too because I called him to ask a question last week and he never got back to me.If I thought my husband had the insight to realize how much he hurt me, I'd probably try to explain but I feel like detaching now, I don't want anything to do with someone who thinks I'm not a good person. And what perfect timing, right at Christmas! He takes the freaking cake.
Thanks for your post, I really needed to "hear" (read?) some kind words. I hope you have a good Holiday!
Take care!
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