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Posted by bookgurl99 on December 15, 2002, at 22:18:48
Just venting. Saw my sister for the first time in 3 years today; feel really stressed out from spending time with her and her husband. Long story short; he's an insecure, uneducated military blowhard who puts her and others down with little digs. He's the kind of guy who's really rude to service people.
But then, because I'm a lesbian, he and my sister -- who are very uncomfortable with it, being that they live on an army base and not in the real world -- need to make little digs about that. You know, pretending to be cool with it, but then saying "but it's not a choice I'd make; I personally think it's wrong." Hey, how about I personally think it's wrong to bully my sister or to perpetuate your neanderthal genes, fucker.
Augh. My back hurts, I feel so stressed. I feel so revved up I'm gonna have trouble sleeping tonight.
How do you deal with it when people around you start un-evolving?
Posted by Mr Cushing on December 15, 2002, at 22:32:42
In reply to venting about brother in law-- bad language, posted by bookgurl99 on December 15, 2002, at 22:18:48
Well, you could either tell him to his face exactly what you think about these little personal digs that he makes at you and make a few of your own, such as his need to bully your sister, or you could just ignore it and know that you are a far superior human being than he could ever possibly hope to be?Or, you could request that your sister visit you only by herself since her husband makes you uncomfortable.
There's 3 options... Personally, I could care less what other people say about me. But then again, I'm not a people person. Maybe 3% of the people I meet I truly respect.
Posted by justyourlaugh on December 15, 2002, at 22:41:20
In reply to Re: venting about brother in law-- bad language, posted by Mr Cushing on December 15, 2002, at 22:32:42
i dont care what people think.
shut myself off from everyone..
do i have to pretend(look past people and their hate)to have friends?
no thank you.
jyl
wow, that sounded bleek.
seeing my family in a few weeks too-have to do it sober this year too!
Posted by Phil on December 15, 2002, at 23:09:16
In reply to Re: venting about brother in law-- bad language, posted by Mr Cushing on December 15, 2002, at 22:32:42
Un-evolving: got to remember that.
Don't get angry now! Set a time with them to talk. Maybe meet at a cafe or something.
Look them in the eyes and tell them you have no choice in the matter of sexuality and even if you were dating giraffes, it's none of their business. Tell them to stop with the passive-aggressive BS because you've got better things to do than be screwed with by your own homophobic family.
Their attitude towards you is immature, hateful, stupid, and in the case of gay men mostly, it can get you killed.
I'd try to keep a level, no bullshit voice and not get too visably emotional about it. Then tell them if they continue, you won't see them again. Nobody deserves the treatment you are getting.
Maybe you could say you'd rather be gay than stupid but it would probably be lost on them.
It's hard to believe but that happens so much, being gay brings out the worst in morons. In almost 2003, society still has yet to understand sexuality and still discriminates against their own brothers and sisters and sons and daughters. It's one of the worst of our downfalls and not just 'stupid people'. It's across the board.
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