Psycho-Babble Social Thread 6331

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Trusting no-one still a good person with hope

Posted by dreamer on June 7, 2001, at 17:46:10

My family ruined my childhood and early teens unloved and abused.I moved to London with a creative career ahead of me full of hope and the need for loving friends with plenty to give.I found out everwhere's the same, no somewhere over the rainbow.
I was used, I gave in, I was dead.I inherited a mental illness I couldn't defend myself, my feelings hurt, every day paranioa, so weak.
I drank heavily for years I was hoping for love hoping that my honesty my goodness wasn't broken by lies.Always lies.
Now I'm getting better but a close friend of whom I considered a soul mate has told endless lies the only person I had ever trusted.
I feel alone I feel I'm in hell or that I'm in a bad dream . My body is being torn apart, my mental state shakey.I have no direction ,no good times to look back on,soon nowhere to live and I'm so calm because I've remained a good person.
I don't believe in God but I look to the sky for answers. Daydreams full of hope.

Re: Trusting no-one still a good person with hope

Posted by stjames on June 7, 2001, at 22:07:33

In reply to Trusting no-one still a good person with hope, posted by dreamer on June 7, 2001, at 17:46:10

Abused people seem to learn the skill of seaking out other abusers and other people who are not good for them. The abusers are also good at finding others who are easy victims.

Have you done some thearpy to break this cycle ?
Thearpy can help you deal with what is happened in the past and teach you how to stop repeting
the same pattern over and over again.

James

Re: Trusting no-one still a good person with hope

Posted by sar on June 8, 2001, at 1:01:25

In reply to Re: Trusting no-one still a good person with hope, posted by stjames on June 7, 2001, at 22:07:33

Dreamer,

I have a similar problem. My doctor tells me that there is growing thought that traumatized people become *addicted to their own chemicals*...over years and years of trauma (abuse) the brain secretes opiates to numb and calm the victim...and after awhile, the person will unconsciously and repeatedly put him or herself into unsavory (abusive) situations to recreate the opiate-releasing numbing effect.

love,
sar

Re: Trust no one...doesn't Fox Mulder say that? » sar

Posted by kazoo on June 8, 2001, at 2:52:00

In reply to Re: Trusting no-one still a good person with hope, posted by sar on June 8, 2001, at 1:01:25

> Dreamer,
>
> I have a similar problem. My doctor tells me that there is growing thought that traumatized people become *addicted to their own chemicals*...over years and years of trauma (abuse) the brain secretes opiates to numb and calm the victim...and after awhile, the person will unconsciously and repeatedly put him or herself into unsavory (abusive) situations to recreate the opiate-releasing numbing effect.
>
> love,
> sar

Congratulations, sar, my dear, this is the most interesting and intelligent posting I've read in a long time! Fascinating! You latched on to a good doctor ... may I suggest super glue?

(an astonished) kazoo

Re: Trusting no-one still a good person with hope » stjames

Posted by dreamer on June 8, 2001, at 20:58:06

In reply to Re: Trusting no-one still a good person with hope, posted by stjames on June 7, 2001, at 22:07:33

> Abused people seem to learn the skill of seaking out other abusers and other people who are not good for them. The abusers are also good at finding others who are easy victims.
>
> Have you done some thearpy to break this cycle ?
> Thearpy can help you deal with what is happened in the past and teach you how to stop repeting
> the same pattern over and over again.
>
> James

Hi James,
Seems the last few days I've been suffering with paranioa.My friend eventually convinced me that my suspicion about our friendship was all in my head.
Visited doc and she was concerned so I will get some kind of help. My dose increase has helped.

Re: Trusting no-one still a good person with hope » sar

Posted by dreamer on June 8, 2001, at 21:10:47

In reply to Re: Trusting no-one still a good person with hope, posted by sar on June 8, 2001, at 1:01:25

> Dreamer,
>
> I have a similar problem. My doctor tells me that there is growing thought that traumatized people become *addicted to their own chemicals*...over years and years of trauma (abuse) the brain secretes opiates to numb and calm the victim...and after awhile, the person will unconsciously and repeatedly put him or herself into unsavory (abusive) situations to recreate the opiate-releasing numbing effect.
>
> love,
> sar

Also I find when things go well I find myself disbelieving and assume it will all turn sour.I want success but I'm afraid of it, new territory unknown pleasures.

'love' ehh , it's nice too be loved.
Lovables back.

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