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Posted by baseball55 on November 21, 2012, at 19:30:19
I am really torn about this. It will be eight years at the end of January . For the last year, I have just been seeing him every other week for half an hour. It makes me so happy to see him. I always feel on air when I leave his office. But I'm actually quite well now. Between the lamictal (which I think has helped immeasurably with suicidal ideation) and DBT (which has also helped immeasurably with suicidal ideation), I have been pretty okay for almost a year. I get depressed sometimes still, but don't descend into suicidal depressions which I lose control of and which land me in the hospital.
I actually feel I am better now, permanently better. Everything in my life seems good -- my marriage, my daughter, my job, my friends.
He has always been about work, work, work. For the last year, he has felt that the work was with the DBT therapist, but was willing to keep seeing me because it upset me too much to stop. Now I don't feel so upset about the idea of not seeing him. I feel I can live with it.
So is it time to move on? Go to once a month for scrips and to check in? I'm very torn about this. He raised it the other day when I saw him and I said, let's wait til the new year and consider it then. My DBT therapist thinks I should keep seeing him as a kindness to myself. But I feel guilty about that. He had always said that he didn't want to see me just because I wanted to see him, if there was no work to be done.
Thinking about this tonight, because, when I saw him Monday, I thanked him for his kindness and help (in the spirit of the holiday) and wondered whether I should end it while filled with gratitude and not neediness.
Posted by Twinleaf on November 21, 2012, at 21:19:17
In reply to My p-doc. Should I end it?, posted by baseball55 on November 21, 2012, at 19:30:19
It's wonderful - what you have accomplished. My instinctive response is to suggest going down slowly, so as not to stress yourself out with the loss of someone so important. He is the mother you never had, and it really counts as hard work to say goodbye to him.
Posted by Dinah on November 24, 2012, at 21:06:14
In reply to My p-doc. Should I end it?, posted by baseball55 on November 21, 2012, at 19:30:19
I'm no huge fan of "endings". I think I prefer just to not schedule any new appointments until I do need it.
Who would prescribe your meds if he doesn't?
Posted by baseball55 on November 25, 2012, at 18:39:46
In reply to Re: My p-doc. Should I end it? » baseball55, posted by Dinah on November 24, 2012, at 21:06:14
> I'm no huge fan of "endings". I think I prefer just to not schedule any new appointments until I do need it.
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> Who would prescribe your meds if he doesn't?
>Well I would still see him monthly for meds, which even then is more frequent than he usually schedules for med visits. I would never just not make appointments. I'm way too attached to him. The only question is should I start seeing him less frequently. I would never stop seeing him altogether unless he retired or got sick. I know he's okay with keeping things the way they are if that's what I want, but he keeps throwing out these hints and maybe it's time for me to grow up and grow out of him. Even when things are going well for me, I like seeing him because he is so appreciative and validating.
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