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Posted by annierose on November 20, 2011, at 17:47:59
I typically feel a little melancholy on Sundays. When I was a little girl, I would see my grandma each Sunday for a big Italian pasta dinner. She loved me in a way a little girl should be loved. I felt her love surround me. She died young; I was 13 years old.
It wasn't until years later that I connected my Sunday blues to missing this wonderful person in my life ... the only person I can say with confidence that loved me no matter what... no matter that I have a ton of energy, talk too fast, eat too fast, am a "handful", etc. etc.
This evening, the hole in my heart is widening. Probably because I'm in a marriage that feels so empty - despite my husbands best efforts "to fix it". I have a 13 year old son that is in the "pushing mom away stage" (that I totally get and don't take personally 90% of the time) and my daughter just got accepted to college (so I'm already beginning to miss her too - even though she still has her senior year of high school to get through).
Therapy tomorrow - I am looking forward to having someone to help me with these feelings.
Oh - and Thanksgiving with my dysfunctional family of origin - and a bad dinner at that. I wish I could cook a wonderful meal for only the people I love and celebrate the family I created outside the biology. Maybe I'll plan that for another day.
Posted by Dinah on November 20, 2011, at 19:25:40
In reply to Sunday blues, posted by annierose on November 20, 2011, at 17:47:59
((( Annierose )))
She sounds like a wonderful person to have in your life. What a wonderful thing to give thanks for.
It may be too late to change plans this Thanksgiving. But would it be possible to avoid future obligation Thanksgivings? Fulfill the obligation on another day maybe?
Posted by annierose on November 21, 2011, at 18:41:20
In reply to Re: Sunday blues, posted by Dinah on November 20, 2011, at 19:25:40
Thanks Dinah - I wasn't able to digest my sadness today in therapy - which is slightly disappointing. With my marriage woes - it seems to suck up most of my talking time. I feel pressured to "make a decision" but I don't know what the right decision is ... so I'm more in a wait and see mode .... but maybe I've been hanging in that spot for way too long. It sucks no matter what I do/choose/or not.
Posted by Dinah on November 21, 2011, at 20:20:56
In reply to Re: Sunday blues » Dinah, posted by annierose on November 21, 2011, at 18:41:20
I'm sorry, Annierose. That's such an awful position to be in. Things haven't improved? Or not enough?
I'm not sure if it will help you, and I'm not *certain* it helped me. I think it did, but I'm not sure. My therapist pointed out that not making a decision about my work was a decision of sorts. And suggested that I think about it as making the decision to keep things as they are at the moment. That, for whatever reason, I somehow considered it the best decision for me to stay in place.
I think it did help the trapped feeling a bit, once I fully digested it.
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