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Posted by wittgensteinz on April 12, 2011, at 12:02:52
So, at yesterday's session my T mentions he's going away the week after next. Fine - I mean it's always a bit hard but it's also nice to imagine him having a nice time, relaxing and so on.
We've been having good weather so I say "I hope you get more of this good weather when you're on holiday" and he says "that shouldn't be a problem, I'm going to [fill in conflict-ridden middle eastern country near Israel currently in the news - with probably one of the most ruthless regimes on the planet]. It's a bit uncertain still given the uprisings there but unless the travel company cancels we're going - after all it's already booked".
And now I'm worrying. Any sign of weakness or danger sets me on edge. I worry a lot about him dying - when he goes away I worry especially - and now it will be all the worse. His usual walking holidays in Germany or Scotland or wherever don't carry huge risks but this just seems like stupidity to me. I wish he hadn't told me or just lied to me and I'm hoping he comes back again in one piece.
I want to beg him not to go.
Witti
Posted by sigismund on April 12, 2011, at 15:02:32
In reply to I'm not appreciating his holiday plans..., posted by wittgensteinz on April 12, 2011, at 12:02:52
I asked a friend which people in the world she had found the friendliest and without hesitation she said 'The Syrians'.
Not a good time though.
Posted by wittgensteinz on April 12, 2011, at 17:43:47
In reply to Re: I'm not appreciating his holiday plans..., posted by sigismund on April 12, 2011, at 15:02:32
Coincidentally I happened to spend some time last weekend with a couple of people who'd lived and worked in Syria and it does sound like the people there are very hospitable.
I just can picture him at some famous monument taking a photo and then getting arrested for espionage and, well... I have a wild imagination and also a fairly good working knowledge of the human rights record of Syrian detention centers. I guess he won't be so stupid as to mingle with the crowds at the demonstrations.
Quite a disappointing session really - he seemed disengaged - almost as if he had already departed for Syria, leaving his lifeless body behind draped in his chair.
Witti
Posted by Dinah on April 14, 2011, at 20:09:52
In reply to I'm not appreciating his holiday plans..., posted by wittgensteinz on April 12, 2011, at 12:02:52
Sometimes iron clad boundaries would be in our best interests. Especially if our therapists are doing something we certainly wouldn't do. We might be better off not knowing.
Likely he'll be fine, but I understand why you're worrying. I'd worry too.
Posted by wittgensteinz on April 16, 2011, at 11:16:40
In reply to Re: I'm not appreciating his holiday plans... » wittgensteinz, posted by Dinah on April 14, 2011, at 20:09:52
Thanks. It's looking more and more unlikely that he'll go - the travel advice has been stepped up to a 'only go if absolutely essential', so I assume that does not include package holidays.
I kind of feel relieved but guilty too - I mean it's not that I don't hope he has a nice break.
You're right, a few times I think he could better not have told me things. Mostly what he shares is helpful in some way but this time not.
Witti
Posted by sigismund on April 16, 2011, at 15:48:02
In reply to Re: I'm not appreciating his holiday plans..., posted by wittgensteinz on April 16, 2011, at 11:16:40
Still, my T always told me where she was going for big breaks, and she was quite orthodox.
There must have been some reason, maybe because the breaks were so long and the distances so great.
Posted by wittgensteinz on April 17, 2011, at 16:32:06
In reply to Re: I'm not appreciating his holiday plans..., posted by sigismund on April 16, 2011, at 15:48:02
I think its quite helpful (usually) - he'll tell a little bit about it - i.e. general location and what he's going to do (a walking holiday for example). Then I can picture him. If he'd just tell that he was taking a week off I'd come up with all kinds of unpleasant fantasies - funerals, operations etc.
Once he did cancel my session abruptly - simply sent a one liner e-mail saying due to unexpected circumstances he couldn't see me. That was the first and only cancellation. I was so worried and stressed by it. As it happened he was ill - not dying - but I wish he'd just said he was ill.
Witti
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