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Posted by B2Chica on March 10, 2011, at 10:58:15
So i'm finally ending thearpy.
Its' kinda scary but i need to do it someday.
its been 7 years.I'm down to once a month and was planning on seeing her till may or june. but now i'm thinking i'm just prolonging the agony. so i'm going to make april my last session.
again, i'm scared but my pdoc agrees that it's time to stop. and he's actually one of the pdocs that spends time talking with his patients. i usually take 1/2 hour sessions with him vs the 15min med check appts.
anyway, he's happy to see me more often if needed.anyway, its also a big issue of money. i'm so broke after that month long outpatient in hospital. the bills have been rolling in. i hate that everything is separate. i have hopital bill, pdoc(from hospital) bill, my own pdoc and my T bills all coming in.
anyway. its time.
************************************other than being scared i have things to say
1)to my T. after dealing with all the past abuse (childhood) i never got into my teen years other than the rapes. i need to mention that i was in an abusive relationship for 3 years. as i feel that changed me alot.
so i guess i will spend my next to last session talking about that.2)questions to you...any suggestions of what to talk about during Final session? i surely cant talk about anything triggering as "that's it". but dont want to really talk about 'ending it' cuz thats too hard. i want to end it like i will see her again. on as needed basis. kind of not a final goodbye.
but i also dont want to waste my money. any suggestions?3)and last i want to post the things i learned in therapy. so i will post that separate. may be triggering for some.
4)oh ya. and i may be here more this summer, since i wont have a T.
THANK YOU!!!b2c.
Posted by sigismund on March 10, 2011, at 12:16:42
In reply to Exiting Therapy, posted by B2Chica on March 10, 2011, at 10:58:15
This makes me think how like chooks we are.
You get one damaged one and the rest peck it to death, and it is all we can do to not do that ourselves or to not let it happen to us.
I found ending almost impossible, there is such a freight of meaning around it.
I guess i would try to divert the subject to the last words that people have said just before they die (there being a rough comparison). What was Hegel supposed to have said....'there is only one person who understood me.....and he was wrong'.
Posted by emmanuel98 on March 11, 2011, at 18:53:25
In reply to Exiting Therapy, posted by B2Chica on March 10, 2011, at 10:58:15
I ended therapy with my p-doc after five years. Then, six months later I started seeing him once a month. But when we were ending weekly therapy, we talked a lot about what progress I had made, how intense and profound the process had been, how we really cared for one another and wished one another well. I found a quote from a psych text that said a therapist must join in the patient's dance. I bought him an African rock sculpture of two figures dancing and wrote him a card with the quote and thanked him for dancing with me. He was very touched.
After seven years, it's worth trying to create a meaningful ending even if that means taking a few more sessions to talk about the process and what it has meant for both of you.
Posted by sigismund on March 11, 2011, at 23:16:11
In reply to Re: Exiting Therapy, posted by emmanuel98 on March 11, 2011, at 18:53:25
>After seven years, it's worth trying to create a meaningful ending
Yes it is.
For me, I didn't really know why I was there and I didn't know why I was ending.
Even so, a great deal of effort had gone into it.
Posted by rskontos on March 14, 2011, at 20:40:13
In reply to Exiting Therapy, posted by B2Chica on March 10, 2011, at 10:58:15
Hi B2
I know it is scary exiting therapy. I haven't done that but I haven't been in months either. I am finally going to see my p-doc/t who does it all too after not seeing him for 6 months.
I wish you luck and you can always email me if you need someone to talk too.
I would love to catch up with all my old babble friends.
I think of you guys often.
Rsk
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