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Posted by B2chica on November 5, 2010, at 8:16:30
i was just looking for some info in an old text and just realized that i txt my T THREE TIMES last night! during my...uh..."distorted state".
some of it wasnt nice....
i feel...Horrible.
god, how do i ever even talk to her again.
she even trusted me with her personal cell number in case of Emergency...and i abused that.first i basically told her not to contact me. then i ended up emailing her twice yesterday...and then..last night the texting.
God WHAT THE F is WRONG WITH ME?!!!!
i dont think i can ever even face her again.
i feel like a complete psycho.
Posted by Dinah on November 5, 2010, at 8:29:17
In reply to man...i'm really f*d up, posted by B2chica on November 5, 2010, at 8:16:30
She might have a boundary setting discussion with you. Which would be upsetting, certainly, but not all that horrible.
If she does ask that you stop doing it, what steps do you think you could take to make it more difficult to call her when impaired? Is her number on speed dial?
Beating yourself up over things that are in the past isn't that useful. You regret doing it. And you can make different choices in the future.
Isn't that what you tell your kids? It applies to moms as well.
I hate to ask this, but are your kids safe and is someone looking after them when you are in a state to be doing things you do not recall? I hear how embarrassed you are, and that's never pleasant, but rude texts didn't cause any harm to anyone. I would hate for you to feel greater regrets should your kids need you. Perhaps you should call your pdoc and beg for some medications that might help before your appointment.
Posted by Maxime on November 6, 2010, at 20:02:37
In reply to man...i'm really f*d up, posted by B2chica on November 5, 2010, at 8:16:30
I agree with the advice that Dinah gave you.
Also, you are surviving on little sleep which makes us act in really weird ways. Don't be so tough on yourself, okay?
Posted by B2Chica on November 8, 2010, at 11:59:56
In reply to Re: man...i'm really f*d up » B2chica, posted by Maxime on November 6, 2010, at 20:02:37
kids are asleep when i start with alcohol.
i've been asking my DH for help for months, but it takes a crisis before he finally acts...and then of coure i'm the "f*cked up one" and he should just take them.... :(i'm hurt by everyone
i'm ok i'll make it, but its just the pain that i must endure.
Posted by emmanuel98 on November 8, 2010, at 21:16:53
In reply to Re: man...i'm really f*d up, posted by B2Chica on November 8, 2010, at 11:59:56
Does DH mean divorced husband? Not sure. Are you saying he threatens to take the kids from you rather than help you out?
Posted by lucielu2 on November 8, 2010, at 21:39:17
In reply to Re: man...i'm really f*d up, posted by B2Chica on November 8, 2010, at 11:59:56
B2c, how is your DH (dear husband) reacting now when he sees how upset you are? Is he able to help with the kids until you're back on your feet again?
Posted by B2chica on November 10, 2010, at 15:30:53
In reply to Re: man...i'm really f*d up, posted by lucielu2 on November 8, 2010, at 21:39:17
well considering ive been in bed for the last three days hes had too. but its worn off now. fri got meds thought helping. then.. god mon morn i found out a co worker in our lab killed himself. i havent been back to work. and that day had t session. i went drunk.cuz i couldnt deal. bad its all bad. and my fing phone cant alway reach you guys. i feel like your all i have.
Posted by pegasus on November 11, 2010, at 8:40:27
In reply to Re: man...i'm really f*d up, posted by B2chica on November 10, 2010, at 15:30:53
B2, I'm so sorry. I don't blame you for not going back to work, and staying in bed. I'm so sorry that the meds aren't helping enough. Please keep posting here, so we know that you're hanging in there, even if only by a thread. Let us know if there is anything we can do to help.
- P
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