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Posted by pegasus on November 5, 2010, at 10:36:35
I just had the most lovely email exchange with my best friend, who lives far from me. We've been best friends since 4th grade, and we're middle aged now. I've never discussed therapy much with her, but I was catching her up on what's going on lately, and I threw in a few sentences about what therapy has been like lately. I mentioned my dad, and my sister very briefly.
And, oh, she gets it. Why have I ignored this resource until now? It's so hard having a new therapist and trying to explain these complicated people to him. But my BF . . . I don't have to explain. I can just say, "I've been talking about my dad, and my sister." And she says, "Oh . . . yeah. I'm proud of you for doing that work." In a perfectly knowing way.
And yet, there is a lot that I've never shared with her. About how it all felt/feels, and some of the details. Maybe that's good, or maybe I'm missing something even more wonderful by holding back. I'm not sure. She and I have had ups and downs, too.
But overall, we've witnessed and held a lot for each other over the years. In a way that's so different than therapy, but definitely complements it. I'm lucky to have her.
- P
Posted by Dinah on November 5, 2010, at 13:09:13
In reply to best friend, posted by pegasus on November 5, 2010, at 10:36:35
What a wonderful experience! You are very lucky to have someone like that in your life.
Posted by Daisym on November 5, 2010, at 22:57:47
In reply to Re: best friend » pegasus, posted by Dinah on November 5, 2010, at 13:09:13
Let's hear it for our BFFs! I came home today to find a package from mine that had written on it "for your bucket list" and inside was a book about how to do something I've talked about doing since we were in high school.
We've only just started talking about therapy - hers and mine - in the past few years. And neither one of us says much. I think we know each other's families too well to want to know more, but also, like you said, we already get it and don't really need to explain much.
I'm glad you have her. And TG for email!
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