Posted by pegasus on November 5, 2010, at 10:36:35
I just had the most lovely email exchange with my best friend, who lives far from me. We've been best friends since 4th grade, and we're middle aged now. I've never discussed therapy much with her, but I was catching her up on what's going on lately, and I threw in a few sentences about what therapy has been like lately. I mentioned my dad, and my sister very briefly.
And, oh, she gets it. Why have I ignored this resource until now? It's so hard having a new therapist and trying to explain these complicated people to him. But my BF . . . I don't have to explain. I can just say, "I've been talking about my dad, and my sister." And she says, "Oh . . . yeah. I'm proud of you for doing that work." In a perfectly knowing way.
And yet, there is a lot that I've never shared with her. About how it all felt/feels, and some of the details. Maybe that's good, or maybe I'm missing something even more wonderful by holding back. I'm not sure. She and I have had ups and downs, too.
But overall, we've witnessed and held a lot for each other over the years. In a way that's so different than therapy, but definitely complements it. I'm lucky to have her.
- P
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