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Posted by TherapyGirl on April 12, 2010, at 19:07:38
Now my next oldest brother may be dying. It's a long story and if I include too many details it may be possible to identify me, but he's been sick the last several years and now it looks like the last surgery he had, 3.5 years ago, is failing and we are pretty much out of options. I'll know more on Friday. He's 49.
I've been researching new therapists and I'll call the first two choices tomorrow and go from there. I really, really miss my T. Some of you may remember that she made a video for me before she retired. I haven't watched it yet, although I've been tempted in the last week. I'm afraid if I use it too soon, though, that it will lose its effectiveness when I *really* need it. Stupid, huh? If any of you can reframe that for me, I'd really appreciate it.
Thanks to all of you!
TG
Posted by annierose on April 12, 2010, at 20:04:04
In reply to The hits keep coming, posted by TherapyGirl on April 12, 2010, at 19:07:38
Please watch the video. It will hold its power each and every time you watch it ... just like your favorite movie.
And I'm so glad that you are making some phone calls regarding a new therapist. The new therapist will never replace the relationship you have with your "t" but it will be a new and fresh relationship!
So sorry to hear about your brother. My brother died almost three years ago (@ 52) so I understand what a kick in the gut this news is for you. But he is still here and pray for every new day you have to share with him.
Posted by workinprogress on April 13, 2010, at 0:08:15
In reply to The hits keep coming, posted by TherapyGirl on April 12, 2010, at 19:07:38
TG-
I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. I wish I could say more to be helpful, but I don't know that I can... That stuff just hurts and is dang hard.
I think the video is there for those times when you can't conjure her up in your mind, when you really need to connect with her. This sounds like one of those times. Until now, she's been there and the connection's been solid (meaning she's a part of you). But, sometimes when we're under stress, the connection seems less present. So, I say now is just the time to watch it. And there will be other times and my guess is it'll be helpful every time- to bring her back to your core a bit. This is the way I use the voice memo my T gave me... I know it's not at all the same, but I think it might apply somewhat.
Keep us posted, we're here for you and sending you love.
> Now my next oldest brother may be dying. It's a long story and if I include too many details it may be possible to identify me, but he's been sick the last several years and now it looks like the last surgery he had, 3.5 years ago, is failing and we are pretty much out of options. I'll know more on Friday. He's 49.
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> I've been researching new therapists and I'll call the first two choices tomorrow and go from there. I really, really miss my T. Some of you may remember that she made a video for me before she retired. I haven't watched it yet, although I've been tempted in the last week. I'm afraid if I use it too soon, though, that it will lose its effectiveness when I *really* need it. Stupid, huh? If any of you can reframe that for me, I'd really appreciate it.
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> Thanks to all of you!
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> TG
Posted by rnny on April 13, 2010, at 17:47:10
In reply to The hits keep coming, posted by TherapyGirl on April 12, 2010, at 19:07:38
Isn't life grand? I am so sorry you find yourself facing this painfully difficult situation with your brother. I have come to conclude that for some people life is a series of events where they are always faced with being put into "coping mode" due to circumstances that almost any person would find upsetting. I have then met others where life seems like a series of "smooth sailing". Very little turbulence. I don't know what your journey is like but those thoughts came to mind. Prayers for your brother.
Posted by TherapyGirl on April 13, 2010, at 20:25:48
In reply to The hits keep coming, posted by TherapyGirl on April 12, 2010, at 19:07:38
Thanks to all of you for the support. I really mean that.
Things are not better. I won't find out more about my brother until Friday. I have a meeting with my boss tomorrow to discuss last week's fiasco "debrief." I have a lot of anger towards my co-worker/former friend that I'm trying to stuff for now, but I have to figure out an outlet for it.
I called one of the therapists on the list my T gave me today. No call back so far. I'm trying not to read anything into that.
Posted by rnny on April 14, 2010, at 16:45:16
In reply to Re: The hits keep coming -- Update, posted by TherapyGirl on April 13, 2010, at 20:25:48
Waiting for news about your brother must be very anxiety producing. I had a job once where anger was the only emotion I felt about it I believe. I had it for almost 5 years. When looking for a new T, everything seems to matter but glad you are not reading anything bad into it that you haven't gotten a return call yet.
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