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Posted by sassyfrancesca on March 2, 2010, at 13:50:05
I really didn't think it would happen. They just might be one of the couples (therapist/client) couple who make it.
They are in love with one another and intend to marry; I realize the statistics of that working out are very slim.
Envy it what I feel. Some of you know of my love for my t (6 years); seeing him only 2 times a month because of $$ issues.
Some of you may remember Jadah from a few years ago. She had a long-term affair with her therapist, but I don't know what happened to her. She was fighting cancer. She had wonderful support from our members.
Posted by Verloren on March 2, 2010, at 14:04:57
In reply to My Friend Had Sex With Her Therapist Last Night, posted by sassyfrancesca on March 2, 2010, at 13:50:05
wow
That's all I can say, wow
Posted by floatingbridge on March 2, 2010, at 17:27:26
In reply to My Friend Had Sex With Her Therapist Last Night, posted by sassyfrancesca on March 2, 2010, at 13:50:05
Gosh-- I wish them the best. Whew. One of the ten commandments of therapy. Who hasn't fantasized. Hope you're o.k. with it....
Posted by Phillipa on March 2, 2010, at 18:38:29
In reply to Re: My Friend Had Sex With Her Therapist Last Nigh » sassyfrancesca, posted by floatingbridge on March 2, 2010, at 17:27:26
Are either of them married? This is breaking boundaries in my opinion. Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on March 2, 2010, at 23:43:13
In reply to My Friend Had Sex With Her Therapist Last Night, posted by sassyfrancesca on March 2, 2010, at 13:50:05
My thought on these occasions is always the same. I think about the prize being a man with no self control and little respect for the ethical guidelines of his profession and the duty he owes his clients. A man who wants a relationship with a woman where he is in a position of power. A man not at all unlikely to do this the next time he feels an "overwhelming" attraction to a woman.
And I wonder if the prize is worth winning.
On the other hand, winning can be satisfying even if the prize doesn't have much intrinsic value.
The question being, which party won? Did the therapist wish to seduce a client and the client only think there was a triumph involved? Or was the therapist really overcome by feelings that could only be engendered by this particular client?
I am, at heart, a cynic.
And others may have different feelings about relationships of course.
Posted by sassyfrancesca on March 3, 2010, at 8:08:22
In reply to Re: My Friend Had Sex With Her Therapist Last Night » sassyfrancesca, posted by Dinah on March 2, 2010, at 23:43:13
I am not a cynic....I am a "forever after" person. I think theres will be one of the (rare) situations that works.
Posted by Dinah on March 3, 2010, at 8:17:51
In reply to Re: My Friend Had Sex With Her Therapist Last Night » Dinah, posted by sassyfrancesca on March 3, 2010, at 8:08:22
Has he thought about what line of work he'll be going into now?
If he's going to be happily forever after, he's going to lose his license because it'll be out in the open he slept with a patient.
I hope for his sake he wasn't all that attached to his job.
I'm rather happy for the sake of his other clients that a therapist with so little regard for the rules will be taken out of the therapist pool.
It does seem to me he should have turned in his license *before* sleeping with her and arranging his happily ever after.
Posted by conundrum on March 3, 2010, at 11:20:12
In reply to Re: My Friend Had Sex With Her Therapist Last Night » sassyfrancesca, posted by Dinah on March 2, 2010, at 23:43:13
Well if he really cares about her and his own career he should have her see another therapist if they are going to start having a relationship.
Posted by Phillipa on March 3, 2010, at 19:35:50
In reply to Re: My Friend Had Sex With Her Therapist Last Night, posted by conundrum on March 3, 2010, at 11:20:12
He already did though?? Phillipa ps started the relationship
Posted by rnny on March 3, 2010, at 23:32:14
In reply to My Friend Had Sex With Her Therapist Last Night, posted by sassyfrancesca on March 2, 2010, at 13:50:05
If you watch shows like Dateline NBC or 48 Hours there is a show that is on re-run sometimes and it is true about a woman who married her therapist and then killed him years later because she didn't like the way he treated her.
Posted by rnny on March 3, 2010, at 23:34:03
In reply to Re: My Friend Had Sex With Her Therapist Last Night, posted by rnny on March 3, 2010, at 23:32:14
ps your friend was abused and she ought to get a lawyer right away. a T who has sex with a client is a lawsuit waiting to happen.
Posted by 64Bowtie on March 6, 2010, at 2:30:38
In reply to Re: My Friend Had Sex With Her Therapist Last Night » sassyfrancesca, posted by Dinah on March 2, 2010, at 23:43:13
You said: "I am, at heart, a cynic." ....about this, you bet!!!
Rod
Posted by Dinah on March 6, 2010, at 11:10:56
In reply to (((Dinah))) Me toooo...., posted by 64Bowtie on March 6, 2010, at 2:30:38
Yeah.
I think some people see this kind of behavior resulting from the deep love they share.
I see it more as resulting from the character of the persons involved. And in this case, because of the power differential and dynamics, primarily the character of the therapist.
The reason these things rarely (if ever) work out well seems perfectly reasonable to me. The very fact that they exist means that at least one of the two people involved has some character flaws that make happily ever after very unlikely.
My therapist and I talked about this once. He feels as strongly as I do about the topic. Not only about therapists and clients, but about any situation where integrity and honor require that people not give in to their feelings. He just sees the fallout too often as a therapist to ever consider it ok. I feel really safe knowing that not only will my therapist never act inappropriately with me (which is hardly an issue) but that he won't cause my therapy to be terminated by losing his license over another client.
Posted by sigismund on March 6, 2010, at 19:22:41
In reply to Re: (((Dinah))) Me toooo.... » 64Bowtie, posted by Dinah on March 6, 2010, at 11:10:56
With my T the lines were sufficiently clear that no social interaction was on the table after therapy was finished (10 years after) in spite of the fact that I and more especially she desired it.
It was a bit strange. There was a tragedy. I went for advice. She said I could drop round now and then to see her, and then she realised that was a mistake.
Perhaps I was hurt. I respected her though, her care concern and devotion to the correct use of her craft as she saw it.
This is the end of the thread.
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