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Posted by obsidian on February 14, 2010, at 0:07:59
and this doesn't relate to my T, but to someone else in my life
this person has a set perception of who I am, my intentions, my motives, and she absolutely perceives me to be malicious and devioushuh? (bewildered expression)was my first response
hurt (crying)was my second because I was absolutely blasted for being some incarnation of the devil...geez I thought, "maybe I am an awful, terrible person?...could I be so unaware of it?"
anger is my third reaction, because how dare they entertain such thoughts
and finally my reation is ...wow, this person is so off base, and not only are they wrong, they are also scary at the same time, and can do me some serious damageI am really disturbed that someone could so seriously question my intentions, my basic integrity....and also that they could even CONCEIVE of such a plot as they imagine I am guilty of
because...that means that this person's mind functions in that way, and THAT my friends is scaryparanoia will destroy ya
Posted by Phillipa on February 14, 2010, at 12:53:51
In reply to Have you ever felt completely misunderstood?...., posted by obsidian on February 14, 2010, at 0:07:59
Sid oh I throughly understand as same is happening with me and it's pretty devastating to say the least. I don't want to get into it it's too heavy my heart will start the palpitations and will be short of breathe. Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on February 14, 2010, at 13:20:15
In reply to Have you ever felt completely misunderstood?...., posted by obsidian on February 14, 2010, at 0:07:59
Yup.
It's not a good feeling. Especially if it is someone who knows you well enough that they should know better.
Projection, perhaps?
At any rate, you know who you are. And most people know who you are. If the occasional person doesn't...
Well, I don't know anyone on earth that is universally liked or trusted.
Posted by Sigismund on February 14, 2010, at 15:02:14
In reply to Have you ever felt completely misunderstood?...., posted by obsidian on February 14, 2010, at 0:07:59
What would life be without a few enemies?
You are not malicious and devious here. Quite the reverse.
Posted by jammerlich on February 14, 2010, at 16:32:39
In reply to Have you ever felt completely misunderstood?...., posted by obsidian on February 14, 2010, at 0:07:59
Yes, yes, yes, sid! I am going through the very same experience right now and I find it ever so hurtful.
I wish the anger would come, though, because maybe then it wouldn't hurt as much. Was that true for you.
I don't, on the other hand, think the other party in my situation is scary. I think he is damaged and his issues cause him to view me this way. Doesn't make it hurt any less, though. Especially since I want nothing more than to find common ground and be close to him.
Posted by obsidian on February 14, 2010, at 18:54:22
In reply to Re: Have you ever felt completely misunderstood?.... » obsidian, posted by jammerlich on February 14, 2010, at 16:32:39
It still hurts. Unfortunately, I've been thinking too much about it, and I finally realized what I was simply oblivious of...the personal sensitivities of this person which should have made me alter what I would have otherwise naturally done.
I am sometimes simply naive that things aren't always face value. I take for granted that most have good intentions. I feel kinda stupid, I feel angry, hurt and afraid of retaliation.
Posted by rnny on February 17, 2010, at 23:32:21
In reply to Have you ever felt completely misunderstood?...., posted by obsidian on February 14, 2010, at 0:07:59
Yes, I have felt completely misunderstood many times.
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