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Posted by Verloren on February 5, 2010, at 17:14:58
After everything that has been going on with me lately, I'm strongly considering quitting therapy. I told my ex T this and that I knew it was that I was running away from a painful situation but I don't want to face it anymore. She says I need to be in therapy. I don't think I'm doing so bad.
I know that I will end up suppressing the memories and leaving them to fester without being resolved but I'm thinking I might have to be ok with that.
I don't want to get into another therapeutic relationship where I am hurt and feel betrayed by my therapist. My ex T seems to be more concerned with her comfort level and what she is or is not willing to do than she is with what is supposed to work best for me.
I'm incredibly frustrated and I hate feeling this way.
My friend tells me I should not give up. But I don't believe I can handle another painful episode like the one I had when my T terminated me. I know I can't.
And I don't believe I can trust another T for a very long time because I already had trust issues before my ex T stepped on my emotions and threw me away.
-Verloren
Posted by Annierose on February 6, 2010, at 22:34:46
In reply to Thinking about quitting therapy, posted by Verloren on February 5, 2010, at 17:14:58
i do not know much about your situation - but it's always a good idea to see your therapist one more time before quitting. then decide after that session ... well ... talk about your wanting to quit therapy with your therapist. it should provide some light onto what is bothering you at the current time.
Posted by rnny on February 7, 2010, at 0:21:40
In reply to Thinking about quitting therapy, posted by Verloren on February 5, 2010, at 17:14:58
Since my old T retired, I saw alot of T's in the interim to pick one out. I have actually suffered PTSD from seeing all these people, none of whom came across as caring except for one. They all seemed dysfunctional themselves or burnt out and jsut there for the money. And all those appointments and second meetings and in some cases more to check it out has really hurt me badly. None seemed to care about their profession. It was just a job and it showed.
Posted by tetrix on February 7, 2010, at 9:48:49
In reply to Thinking about quitting therapy, posted by Verloren on February 5, 2010, at 17:14:58
I am thinking about quitting too, I cant stand the fakeness of the "relationship"
Posted by Verloren on February 7, 2010, at 14:10:33
In reply to Re: Thinking about quitting therapy, posted by Annierose on February 6, 2010, at 22:34:46
Hi Annierose
My situation has been really painful dealing with my ex T. I'm an emotional mess when it comes to thinking about therapy and re-entering that relationship again.
I just want to move forward and yes I am running away but it's all I can do to save myself from constant hurt.
I did mention to her about quitting but I think she is really out of touch with how well I can do on my own. But yet, she was ready to dump me when it was inconvenient for her without a new T in place. I do have another appointment with her this week but I don't know how long I can keep forcing myself to stay in therapy.
The thing bothering me currently is her and this process. I feel wronged by her, hurt, abandoned, angry, lost, intimidated, guilty, ashamed, and very, very tired.
Thanks for your insight. I doubt she'll be able to shed any light on my feelings as she seems incapable of understanding my real needs.
My other alternative is to continue with someone else but I am so overwhelmed right now I don't know that I can.
-Verloren
Posted by Verloren on February 7, 2010, at 14:19:45
In reply to Re: Thinking about quitting therapy, posted by rnny on February 7, 2010, at 0:21:40
Oh rnny, I totally agree. (((((rnny)))))
I am also so sorry you've been struggling with trying to find a T that works.
I am getting fed up with suffering at the hands of some other human being who feels like they are equipped to handle the magnitude of my issues when they are not at all.
I'm seeing where many of the Ts out there are looking for cushy patients. Then why even be a T?!
I'm truly tired of them bringing their own personal bs into the therapy room with them. And I am tired of having to argue back and forth with them to get them to listen. Some Ts do more talking than listening. I just want to scream, "Just shut up already! This is all about me not You!"
I think many do get burned out. And I do understand that it can happen but I think they should have a backup career in place, like teaching or lectures or book writing. Don't keep seeing and then damaging people.
I think they figure people are so desperate for help that we'll deal with anything.
Well, I think I'm done.
-Verloren
Posted by Verloren on February 7, 2010, at 14:24:45
In reply to Re: Thinking about quitting therapy, posted by tetrix on February 7, 2010, at 9:48:49
Good luck with your decision.
I think I'm going to replace my therapy time with something else. Either ceramics or meditation. I think I'll get more enlightenment out of those than I would sitting in a cushy chair across from someone staring at me and scribbling notes about me that I'm never allowed to see.
Unless I can find a T that makes me feel like this process is worth it, I really think I'm going to call it quits and consume my thoughts with planning vacations with all the money I'll save. ;-)
-Verloren
Posted by Sigismund on February 11, 2010, at 2:22:26
In reply to Re: Thinking about quitting therapy » Annierose, posted by Verloren on February 7, 2010, at 14:10:33
Isn't half of transference the feeling or belief that a therapist can help you?
Not that I'm suggesting one could or couldn't.
From what I've read, if I were you, I would be annoyed.
My T made one stipulation.....if I turned up out of it we would not have a session. Other than that, when she took me on she took me for the long haul. I have not followed all your posts about this, but from those I've read, I got no feeling whatever about the long haul, and for me, that is what counts.
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