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Posted by rnny on October 15, 2009, at 22:01:31
Has anyone ever been sexually turned on by their T? I was in group therapy briefly and really was very sexually turned on by the T leading the group. They didn't remind me of anyone so I couldn't say it was transference. I was only in the group about 3-4 times but I found myself sexually fantasizing about this person around the clock. And I had just met them! Some people like to sugar coat things and say "Yes, he or she is attractive or I find them attractive". I am not asking if you find your T attractive. I am talking about being sexually aroused by them in some way either during the session or afterwards!
Posted by BayLeaf on October 16, 2009, at 6:24:31
In reply to Sexually turned on by T?, posted by rnny on October 15, 2009, at 22:01:31
Posted by Kath on October 16, 2009, at 12:34:06
In reply to Sexually turned on by T?, posted by rnny on October 15, 2009, at 22:01:31
I haven't, but I certainly could imagine it!
Kath
Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 16, 2009, at 14:40:57
In reply to Re: Sexually turned on by T? » rnny, posted by Kath on October 16, 2009, at 12:34:06
For about 6 years, but then.....I've been in love with him for that long.
Posted by psych chat on October 16, 2009, at 14:55:48
In reply to Sexually turned on by T?, posted by rnny on October 15, 2009, at 22:01:31
No-thank God! I read about erotic transference and it sounds torturous!! I couldn't imagine having an intense relationship with someone I share my most intimate thoughts with on a weekly basis, and being sexually turned on by them - but at the same time, am unable to act upon those feelings.
Maybe if you are instantly attracted to this T, the same as you would another person - say a coworker you just met - it is not erotic transference? You alluded to this possibility. Hope it works out for you either way.
I honestly can't say how I'd deal with erotic transference if it ever happened to me. It sounds scary. My instinctual thoughts, however, would be to find a new T to avoid the longings that will last who knows how long.....
Posted by emmanuel98 on October 16, 2009, at 17:40:13
In reply to Sexually turned on by T?, posted by rnny on October 15, 2009, at 22:01:31
I had a brief period where I thought about my T sexually (he's 70 years old, for god's sake) and I talked to him about it and it went away. Thank god. I've been so in love with him and thought of him so much as the loving father I had never had that sexual thoughts felt incestuous. I can't imagine anything worse than being sexually attracted to my T. It's been bad enough being madly in love with him and feeling completely attached and dependent on him.
Posted by BayLeaf on October 16, 2009, at 18:16:27
In reply to Sexually turned on by T?, posted by rnny on October 15, 2009, at 22:01:31
I have a bit more time to write now....
If this guy is someone you would typically be attracted to - well, heck this makes perfect sense. Of course you would wanna .ya know. We don't stop being human when we walk across the therapy room threshold.
If this guy is NOT someone you would normally wanna do eeeeet with...well, it may be transference. The obnoxious thing about transference is that it is SUBconscious so poor you don't have a clue that it is happening, until,...well it's too late.
So, you may not KNOW he reminds you of someone. But there may be something he says, or does, or some way he moves, or whatever...that does remind you...subconsciously. Bummer, eh?
Id stick it out just to try to get to know myself better. If it starts to interfere with therapy, or life (eeekkkI think about him 24x7!!!) ask to talk to him about it and disclose this info. He has been through it before. ALL therapists have. These feelings are NORMAL. Seriously. This board is full of people who have been attracted to their T. Including me!
Take care. Bay
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