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Posted by Dinah on September 23, 2009, at 10:24:35
I can't believe I'm saying this, but I obviously don't google my therapist often enough.
I apparently haven't googled him for at least a year, and did it almost idly when I read about someone googling their therapist.
I found audio clips of him speaking, which is fabulous and I was sooooo happy until I found out that there had been previous ones, now removed. I feel guilty about complaining, but I would have had even more of his voice if I had known about this sooner. I whined a bit about it to him yesterday, and he seemed embarrassed and said he didn't really know they were out there, or that I'd be interested in them, and that, no, he didn't have them saved anywhere.
It's ending now, and I am kicking myself for not googling him sooner. :(
If he ever complains about my googling him (which he won't of course), I'm going to reasonably point out that if I could rely on him to tell me these things, I wouldn't need to google him.
I suppose I ought to be glad that I feel secure enough with him that I didn't feel the need to google him for so very long. But somehow I'm not feeling glad at the moment.
Darn security.
Posted by annierose on September 23, 2009, at 11:44:17
In reply to In defense of googling, posted by Dinah on September 23, 2009, at 10:24:35
I think it is really nice that you got to hear your therapist speak via finding something on google. I know how you love his soothing voice and how comforting that can be.
Why are you being hard on yourself for not finding it sooner? You found it now and that is the part to focus on. You had him in person all along --- he has always been there --- your steady rock. Think of it as finding a present - something to cherish and unexpected.
You bring up a good point. Sometimes having something concrete - an article, a voice, their professional self --- that doesn't take away or distract from your therapeutic relationship. And the difference here being "their professional self" not their personal lives.
Posted by Dinah on September 23, 2009, at 12:10:45
In reply to Re: In defense of googling » Dinah, posted by annierose on September 23, 2009, at 11:44:17
Yes, I know. I'm also beating myself up for not just being grateful for what I have, but wanting more. :)
It was his professional persona, and he was more or less like he was in session. He made sure to check on that, and that there was nothing in what I found that upset me in any way.
I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to find anything personal about him. His private life is welcome to remain his own.
But, wistfulness over what I missed aside, I'm squealing in delight. I have the relaxation tape he made for me, but he sounds a bit uncomfortable in that. He sounds far more comfortable in this, and the sound quality is much better than in his voicemails.
I asked him if he minded that I save his voice messages to me, and he said no he didn't, and wanted to know if I had any feelings about it. I told him I used to be rather embarrassed, but now I'm not really. It is exactly as you say, a transitional object, and it does no harm to either of us.
Posted by Phillipa on September 23, 2009, at 14:14:49
In reply to Re: In defense of googling » annierose, posted by Dinah on September 23, 2009, at 12:10:45
Dinah is he on Facebook also so many are Bob too. Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on September 23, 2009, at 14:26:19
In reply to Re: In defense of googling » Dinah, posted by Phillipa on September 23, 2009, at 14:14:49
I accidentally found a profile for him there when I was trying to figure out Facebook. I didn't actually look for him on purpose. I was just using his name to figure out the search process. It might have been Myspace, actually. It was blank, no picture, minimal data, and I think he removed it.
If he does use them, I'm thinking he sets it on private, because we've discussed it before.
Posted by Phillipa on September 23, 2009, at 21:34:20
In reply to Re: In defense of googling » Phillipa, posted by Dinah on September 23, 2009, at 14:26:19
Makes sense as a lot of the Facebook people I know do. Love Phillipa
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