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Posted by mmealltalk on July 19, 2009, at 16:43:39
I feel like the worst patient in the universe. My therapist has been on break for a week and i was really looking forward to seeing her tommorrow and not feeling as alone as i did while she was not around. Anyway, she called me earlier to inform me that her mother died and she would therefore be away this week too. I was in shock, even though i did know her mother was 100 yrs old, but i was counting on seeing her tomorrow and think i was only sane for this week because i knew it was only a week that she would be gone. Now i feel awful for her, i know that her father died when she was a toddler and that her mother raised her, and now she lost the parent she was so close to. I imagine it is so hard when a person no longer has either parent alive, and I really feel bad for her. On a more selfish side, i am scared that even though i got through with this week, with little problem, the next days scare the hell out of me. I dont mean to be selfish, i really understand the need to extend her break, I just feel so scared and alone without her around.
Thanks for listening,
Mel
Posted by friesandcoke on July 19, 2009, at 17:21:17
In reply to a terrible patient after my t mother died, posted by mmealltalk on July 19, 2009, at 16:43:39
it sounds like she doesn't have a therapist filling in for her while she is gone. with her mother dying and her needing time off, can you find out if she has a temporary replacement therapist lined up?
Posted by mmealltalk on July 19, 2009, at 21:11:27
In reply to Re: a terrible patient after my t mother died, posted by friesandcoke on July 19, 2009, at 17:21:17
Actually she does have a therapist covering for her, but i would never see him, and she said before she went on break to begin with that i can call her cell in an emergency, which i would never do now that her mom died. My problem is more that i had psyched myself out about not seeing her for a specified period and woke up this morning exstatic that i would be seeing her tomorrow and now i obviously wont be. I dont mean to be cruel, i understand that she needs these days off, losing a mother is huge, but i am worried that i will have a harder chance of staying ok for the additional days she is gone. I am usually a basket case, literally, when she is gone, and i was actually ok thins time, but now i am worried again.
i am so sad for both of us
mel
Posted by sunnydays on July 19, 2009, at 21:44:07
In reply to Re: a terrible patient after my t mother died, posted by mmealltalk on July 19, 2009, at 21:11:27
I've had this happen for various reasons with my T. It was heartwrenchingly painful for me and felt like I would die. But, he always came back. Just hold on tight until she gets back and be extra gentle with yourself until you get to see her again. And, once she IS back, try not to 'take care of her'. It's up to her to decide she's ready to come back to work and handle whatever her clients throw at her.
sunnydays
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