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just when he couldn't be a bigger...

Posted by B2chica on December 9, 2008, at 9:21:08

jack@ss. my DH goes and does something so great that i remembered why i love him.

ok, i've been wanting to have another baby for about a year now, and my DH has gone back and forth. he finally agreed but wouldnt 'act' accordingly. then he 'acted' but then we got in a fight and he 'took it back'.
Then he was back on board but i didn't want to wait forever since i'm...well old. so i went to OB and she wanted me on clomid HOWEVER i was JUST at the right time so she said to "fill the Rx and start tomorrow" which was last friday.
However, anyone trying to get prego knows that clomid has a 5-10% chance of having twins.

i KNOW DH would never be up for THAT and i was afraid to tell him, cuz he didn't even want me on them (he wants to take his time...no hurry for him)but i'm so irregular i only have a few times a year i can get p. anyway.

so i asked a few people what they would do...Everyone said don't tell him.
T was worried about that decision. she didnt judge and understood once i explained to her why i didn't want to.

ANYWAY, it's been kinda freakin me out lately too and i NEED someone to talk to about it. plus
i kept thinking over and over.
if i didn't tell him, and we got twins he would KNOW about it then and though i could live with him resenting me, i COULD NOT live with him resenting the children. even if it's what i wanted.
Im not thrilled about the idea of twins but i'm in LOVe with the idea of having three kids. (i have one now).
so mixed feelings

**********
ANYWAY, so i've been HARD praying everyday and night since i started the clomid and yesterday i decided i would tell him after i went to church.
well, i prayed for the right words and that i totally trusted GOD no matter what we were blessed with and i practiced and practiced what i was going to say.
when i went home i just started to blurt it out unlike ANYTHING i had planned.
somehow God put the right words in my mouth.
we kinda joked about it after i told him.
he never really said anything about it. except his first reaction (OMG!)
then he went to the store to get milk.
and i dont know what happened at that store but when he came back he was happy and lovey.
and last night we made love. i even told him if he didn't want to come near me for the next month i'd understand (or do so protected)
but no. HE took the initiative and initiated sex AND he initiated no protection...

So that means he must be OK with the risk of twins!
WTF!!!
just when i don't think he could be a bigger jerk he pulls a 180 and does this!!

here's to great (and sometimes confusing) surprises.
b2c.

 

Re: just when he couldn't be a bigger... » B2chica

Posted by rskontos on December 9, 2008, at 11:45:19

In reply to just when he couldn't be a bigger..., posted by B2chica on December 9, 2008, at 9:21:08

B2C,

That made me cry! I am so happy. Maybe God gave him grace while he bought Milk. He got milk and got happy!

I am thrilled. I am glad you told him so that you are plagued by guilt.

And now let's hope it took!

I don't think you are that old. I think you are the age I got preg with my son. Or had him. Something along those lines. My noggin ain't what it used to be.

take care sweetie.

rsk

(((((((((((((((((B2CHICA)))))))))))))

 

and you made me... » rskontos

Posted by B2chica on December 9, 2008, at 12:16:15

In reply to Re: just when he couldn't be a bigger... » B2chica, posted by rskontos on December 9, 2008, at 11:45:19

get the BIGGEST SMILE on my face!!!!!!
BIG HUGS!
(((((((((((((((((((RSK))))))))))))))))))


TMI
(i technically..according to my doc need to have sex 14, 16, 18th to get preggo)
so think thoughts those days!

i also think because of the clomid is why i'm having a GREAT hypomanic episode right now. i feel SO GOOD (but not over good, not out of control)!
i have energy, i'm happy, you couldn't WIPE a smile off my face, i'm chipper to everyone (SOOOO unlike me :^)
i have a bounce in my step, the only bad part is bad insomnia. night before i had 2 hours sleep, last night i got about 4, but after last night (4hrs) i feel SO rested!
tonight if i still have insomnia i think i'm going to paint! just me my paints and my music (low of course..)

later gater!
b2c.

 

Re: I'll be thinking happy thoughts:) (nm) » B2chica

Posted by rskontos on December 9, 2008, at 12:23:08

In reply to and you made me... » rskontos, posted by B2chica on December 9, 2008, at 12:16:15

 

Re: and you made me... » B2chica

Posted by Phillipa on December 9, 2008, at 13:16:58

In reply to and you made me... » rskontos, posted by B2chica on December 9, 2008, at 12:16:15

B2c congratulations. I think it's wonderful that your husband is agreeable and to twins!!! Hope it takes. You know what I mean. Love Phillipa

 

Re: just when he couldn't be a bigger... » B2chica

Posted by Wittgensteinz on December 9, 2008, at 16:19:50

In reply to just when he couldn't be a bigger..., posted by B2chica on December 9, 2008, at 9:21:08

Congratulations! What wonderful news! Men... they are a strange breed aren't they?!! I'm glad hubby had a miraculous turn-around though and also that you are feeling so well.

Fingers crossed you have another lovely bouncing baby in the not too distant future (or perhaps even two?!!).

Witti

 

Re: just when he couldn't be a bigger... » B2chica

Posted by muffled on December 9, 2008, at 23:26:05

In reply to just when he couldn't be a bigger..., posted by B2chica on December 9, 2008, at 9:21:08

Glad you got FAITH!!!
Glad hubby be good :-)
Happy :-)
M


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